Show l r. r I I Leslie Conder Opinion Editor Once a dog always a dog Weve We've all heard this catch all phrase but how accurate is it Men arent aren't the only ones who cheat so how come there isn't a saying of once a bitch always a bitch to decipher between the two cheaters Sadly the word bitch would be appropriate in today's society due to the double standards in describing wom women women n and men ie i.e. player vs whore bachelor vs old maid The discussion today my loving fun-loving readers is why do people cheat Is i there anything you can do doto doto doto i to stop it Whose fault is it ii i that cheating occurred First off we have to i define what cheating is There is a large spectrum i of how bad and how forgivable the cheating incident was I consider my boyfriend talking to another girl about our problems and leaning on this girl for i emotional support a form fonn i of cheating My boyfriend should be talking to me and he is putting himself in a situation that will lead him from emotionally cheating on me to physically cheating on me Another f form rm of just kissing A kiss is very personal sometimes more so than the physical act of doing the nasty on creaking bed There is also the difference between an affair and a one time drunken mistake Make no mistake about it ladies and gentlemen I am not condoning cheating at all I have been cheated on more times than Paris Hilton has said hot My biggest problem I was facing during what I like to refer to as the cheating years is that I Iwas Iwas Iwas was dating jerks I am not blameless in all of this I knew that my boyfriends had cheated and I started with them thinking that if I could just change who I l' l lam am to be who I thought they wanted me to be we could 1 1 I r- r live happily ever after in our double wide The problem with that situation is that I turned into them and lost myself in the process Cheating occurs for numerous reasons Your girlfriend wanted to try someone new your boyfriend got really drunk at a party that you were not in attendance at and his whore ex-whore moved in for the kill or it was your partners chicken way of saying our relationship is over Whatever the excuse that your cheating partner gave you to explain their bad action the underlying reason was lack of communication on both of your parts If your boyfriend cheated then more than likely he was looking for something that you were not giving him Along with that is the fact that if he cheated he should have had insight to come to you and tell you what he felt he was missing out of the relationship so that you both could have worked on the problem together instead of him working it out in someone else's bed The dating field is different nowadays Women are no longer the innocent bystander Many studies in fact show that more women cheat on their man than the other way around One reason for this change is that women were sick of the double standard that they have been stuck to their whole life No one is safe from having their heart pulled from their chest and thrown into a garbage disposal The only advice I can give is if you love someone dont don't hurt them by cheating Try to talk to them and work it out If you still feel that the relationship is over then have the to break breakup breakup up with the person If you have been cheated on and feel that your only option is breaking up with that cheating person you are wrong Yes break up if the loser isn't truly sorry about his actions and shows that by doing the sickening offense over and over but there are a alot alot alot lot of elements that went into the relationship that ne need d to be looked at and discussed Remember what the Judds said Love can build a bridge to your heart and mine I dont don't know if that helps but it should- should Wynonna and Naomi always know best |