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Show Tiourf Us Teens by Tlbby Tucker MANNERS DO MATTEK Etiquette is the term used to cover rules of good behavior. Manners Man-ners is the practice you make of the etiquette you know. So you see, teens, that I, Tibby, make a point of the fact that it doesn't matter how much you know about who-introduces-whom first it's how you really act under all kinds of circumstances. Here are some helping hints on how to say yes - - - and no - - -pleasantly and properly under various circumstances. Say yes when you want to accept a date. Make your "yes" more than an acceptance, though. Make it a boost for the boy's morale by cloaking it In a phrase such as "I'd love to I" or "That sounds so much fun, I wouldn't think of missing it!" or "Oh, thank you for asking me I can't think of anything I'd rather do!" Say yes - - - when you are invited to serve on a student committee com-mittee by adding, "Let's make this the best Girl's dance this school has ever had!" or "I'm so glad to be working with you! You have the best ideas." Well, honestly, don't think you won't get asked again - - - you will! Especially if the enthusiasm of your answer is carried over into your efforts. Say yes when asked to dance - - - with a smile. Sometimes words aren't even necessary if you've learned to use your eyes and your smile right. Say no . - - not with weeping and wailing if you want to accept a date but can't. You want another chance later so you say "That sounds so wonderful. I truly wish I could go with you, but I just can't," or something similar. Leave lengthy explanations for your diary. If he asks "Why" that's not your fault his manners are poor. Simply be firm but consistant. You might add, "It's just one of those things" - - - or "conflict will be conflict" Remember that a gentle but kindly refusal is less painful to a boy's pride than a series of explanations which may not seem important enough to him to keep you from accepting. Say no - - - when asked for a display of affection you just don't wish to give - - - by preparing yourself ahead of time with any number of easy but firm refusals. Keep yourself out of situations like that by having umpteen other things to talk about, keeping moments from getting too tender. In short, say "No" and mean it! Don't add "thank you" or any other condescending remark. Here's hoping that your "no" will carry. If it doesn't firm discussion and even insults to your date may have to follow. That's up to you. |