Show Should She Divorce Her INTERESTING RESPONSE an interesting response to a letter written earlier by C. who said thai although she and her husband have quarreled constantly and once separated for an entire she doesn't know whether to seek a or just go on taking each day as it This reader offers following Dear Margaret I believe C. L. is really can I get over being She feels alone and needs the kinds of friends who can give her a sense of her own Her well-being should be another prime target for her to shoot She should see a doctor who can find out if she needs a special more exercise or Then she'll be more able to cope with her he's frightened I'm thankful that when I needed my sister-in-law found a doctor for me who did did me a lot of PROBLEM BOY Dear Margaret Brookfield I'm married to a man who was married twice He has three sons-now his first wife and a boy of 13 by his second I have no children of my Last his second remarried right arter the divorce-called to say she couldn't handle the that he was doing badly in school and getting into trouble with the She asked my husband to take him for the remainder of the school HE AGREED without asking me Although I found it rather difficult to adjust to the idea of having the boy around-since I was a bit set in my said he could stay with us for the school The boy looks just like his which didn't help matters He also cheats and wets the Since he has been living with he has been in trouble with the law for stealing and other things-on five separate He's also terribly untidy and since I have a full-time job and must commute 55 miles each cleaning up after became I GOT so depressed and discouraged I just quit and his father had to start doing Before the boys we used to entertain every week or but since our house is rather we had to stop because of the boy and his since my husband's business hasn't been very good he hasn't brought any money home for so my paycheck must now go to buy food and pay rent for the I resent all I CAN truthfully say I lived for the time when school was out and the boy would go back to his When school was his mother didn't come and get Then my husband told I've been depressed every I've also started to become very mean and vicious to the He had intruded into my life totally and I cannot compete with My husband says he loves me very I think 1 love him But my husband also boy comes he's and either you learn to live with him or get a In other I'm like it or There's no respect for my feelings at I'm so miserable and Although your husband's wish to make a home for his son is he seems unwilling or unable to acknowledge the severity of the boy's problems and how damaging the situation has become to you and the You obviously cannot handle him-and under the circumstances should not be expected to-while your husband seems to be burying his head in the WHY NOT contact your local clergyman or Family Service Society or United Fund to find out what facilities are available for professional not only for the boy sounds as though he needs immediate but for your husband and yourself as |