Show kathleen norris says no Hus husband husbands bandIs Is perfect bell syndicate featured feat Irea tures 0 0 carol reads his paper at breakfast I 1 read mine we both keep an eye on jackie see that he finishes his milk and gets gels a off in if time this five days a week by KATHLEEN NORRIS weakens a alove N W comans womans mans will like a love affair nothing so completely turns reason top sy and breaks down the principles the codes that have been years building a when it comes some years after marriage to a wife who has begun to doubt her own charm begun to fear that her day of compliments and thrills is over what a love af fair does to her spirits how it brightens her eyes and renews her zest in life and what a terrible pity that Is for or like strong drink gambling 7 horse racing firearms and turnip in a stew passion has to be used with extreme caution or it ruins everything that s the way civilization has worked it out a hard way but the only sate safe road to follow one man aitor for one woman and fidelity from coth cloth and no teasing and playing with love along the sidelines if you have a husband who is even 50 per cent satisfactory youve done as well as most mos t women have no more to endure than they have and would be wise to draw most of your happiness from other sources illicit love causes suffering it would be pleasant it if an attractive wife could have an affair with a s strange t range man say a handsome 1 k yo young un g captain recently stationed in her neighborhood pleasant if nobody would be hurt but the catch is that somebody Is hurt the oth ei r husband and wife suffer the tortures of purgatory children suffer neighbors and families are disappointed if not scandalized and in the end the lovers pay too ne neither ther one all the rest of his or h her er days ays Is particularly proud in loo looking king back ack to those delirious hours of pas passion on so make up your mind before the affair really gets under way that what has been the law tor for strong and self respecting folk tor for generations Is the right law faithfulness to that promise made on a june day of radiant happiness and c confidence on so man many y years ago here Is a letter from a woman who wants want to lump jump the ropes after 11 II years of marriage ot of course I 1 am going to advise her not to do it but the chances are shell do it anyway she has only to look at the pitiful failures allures ot of some of the men I 1 and women who have done it to see what she Is letting herself in for but no one ever does when an affair has gotten a good start husband wife drift apart we have one son of eight writes winifred he Is our sole interest in common but for jackle jackie I 1 believe carol and I 1 might go days without speaking to each other there is no quarreling although in the beginning of our marriage we did quarrel a good deal we simply dont exist for each other carol reads his paper at breakfast I 1 read mine we both keep an eye on jackle jackie see that he finishes his milk and gets off in time this five days a week on saturday jackie has sweeping watering and raking aking to do in the afternoon he and his father pick a movie never on one e that I 1 want to see I 1 hate bate bombing zooming of planes close small theaters saturday night poker club tor for carol and usually dinner with a sch school 0 ol 01 pal tor for jackie sunday carol da drops ps jackle jackie and me at my mothers house goes on to the country club mother Is an invalid very nervous and if I 1 can leave jackie with some friend or send him on with his father I 1 usually do my sister unmarried and very delicate lives live with my mother there is no quarrel between them and my husband but he rarely goes to the house bouse I 1 try to cheer my own people lunch lunch TILL DEATH VS US DO PART parr strict adherence to the marriage e vows as a foundation for self respect and the respect of others is the basis of this weeks advice by kathleen norris she reminds rem i ads a woman who is abo about ut to bring trag tragedy dy to her child through divorce that all men even her husband have faults and that if she has a partner who is even 50 per cent satisfactory she has done as well as most women women in her letter this woman writes that she and her husband simply dont exist for each other she believes she can find happiness by marrying another man I 1 with them and walk back to a quiet h house ouse to wait for or theophers the others about two months ago I 1 met an army doctor of 1 I am am 34 from the first moment we two liked each other and now our feeling Is something much stronger harry Is married has two grown girls he be and his wife have been estranged though living together with every outside appearance of harmony for or many years ears he is commissioned will go back to private life after the war and lives in a distant suburban burban s u town we want I 1 will say frankly to get divorces and be tree free to marry I 1 to keep tackle jackie with me the lawyer to whom I 1 spoke about it said that with a minor child that was customary but I 1 would have to make it very clear as carol has a sister with young joung children who would gladly take jackie plans home with doctor my problem Is to find fand some place in the west where I 1 could take my boy and where we could live quietly during the processes of 0 divorce meanwhile harry would write his wile wife and set the wheels in motion there then it if he Is sent as he expects to be overseas I 1 would go to his own town establish myself and jackie there and begin at once to make friends and prepare a home for his return what do you think of that plan and where would you advise me to go I 1 have not attempted to tell you what this inrush of new happiness and love means to me how good life suddenly seems how miraculously changed is the world I 1 will spare you that and she signs it joyfully yours poor winifred her letter Is one of the most pitifully deluded I 1 ever read the most childishly blind does she imagine tor for one moment that a doctor of all professions is going to reestablish establish re a good practice in a suburban town whose every re resident s ident knows that when he went off to war he threw over his wife tor for another woman does she really think that having completely failed to hold her first husbands interest and companionship she is capable ot of starting off with 6 a new almost unknown husband and making a success of it if she does she is Is heading tor for a terrible disillusionment for one thing carol with a good sister to whom to send him is very unlikely to give up his child pang first for winifred then in harrys unknown suburban town she has not a friend she would be homesick and strange disliked from the start and suffering a heavy handicap more pangs then when she discovered that a dull life makes abdull a dull husband that harry gasn wasn t so very different from carol and that at least part of the trouble in her first marriage was her fault she phe would really begin to suffer far better for her to change her self than change her situation change into some someone orie amusing arld and intelligent and above all affect affection t ion ate te |