Show kathleen een norris orris says your marriage Is worth saving den ben syndicate features feat aa W 1 7 V 6 is completely changed creature and I 1 dont dothy dorothy a want to take on a stranger to my y wilt wile she and my mother are like two girls together by KATHLEEN NORRIS TT T MAY take you six months it may take you a year to 1 rebuild when that man of yours comes home but marriage is worth six months or twelve months of doubt and pain true marriage is a miracle rm de and to cheat yourself out of wonderful years of companionship panion ship and planning just because things are difficult now is an expensive mistake im completely bewildered writes william martin in a letter that illustrates this point ive been two years overseas when I 1 left her my wife was a sweet shy girl who had no friends in my home town and cried bitterly when n she came to join my mother for my absence just before I 1 left dorothy lad bad the sad experience of losing a new mew newborn born bom baby so that my memory of her is of an exiled scared tear till id bashful little thing who assured me that she could not hold her head up at all until I 1 came back completely changed well I 1 got back six weeks ago and if you ask me id just as soon return to france dorothy is a completely changed creature and I 1 dont want to take on a stranger for my wife she and my mother are like two girls together laughing all the time they play cribbage every tv evening ening gabble at every meal and trot off to work still chattering they work part time in the same foundry dorothy has picked up a lot of friends most of them daughters of my mothers old crowd she wants me to go on weekend week end parties where the she is a great favorite and she wants ants to have them in for impromptu suppers and games ashes perfectly amiable about everything anxious to make me happy says shell give up work the minute im established hopes well have a lot of children someday this sound so bad I 1 wonder if im getting over to you what I 1 mean 1 I mean that a man likes to be important in his own house he likes to have the say if I 1 suggest this dorothy D 0 y is i s all attention what would I 1 lae lae to do well the truth is I 1 dont want to do anything except sit at around I 1 dont even want my mother or wife near me part of the time I 1 always wanted to take a lo forestry restry course but after two years of college I 1 quit and got a job jib so I 1 could marry then the war ee came I 1 have no money now and la be darned if I 1 want my women to support me shall I 1 just get out of their lives go off somewhere and d work it out myself ati no by no means mean do that bill our marriage is worth saving with r uch such a woman instead of running away ay as so many of our people do today oday work it out yourself but at home borne I 1 think make those two women supremely happy it if you announced that they had bad to support you until you finished your forestry study ady your government will help ton TO and all it will amount to will de t that they take care of them aves for another year or two then hen go to work with a ven vance kance and see how fast you can latt tat the regular term time the moment youre hard at work e whole world will change for Z y finish your forestry course HOLD ON A LITTLE WHILE q another returning soldier has found his wife changed when he left she was timid and shy and depressed by the death of their first child now she is gay and happy interested in parties and entertainment and quite a social favorite she lives with h his 1 mother and works in the same sam e foundry on a part time shift the two women get along very well and are always laughing and gabbing while dorothy is affectionate and and anxious to please she Is no longer dependent and clinging william feels somehow that she is a stranger not the woman he thought he married he wonders if he should try to make a go it of this marriage maybe lie he thinks he had better get out of it for the benefit of sell self and dorothy he left college in in order to marry her and now he he L wonders if it were the sensible thing to do the separation and the experiences of war change both husband and wife replies miss norris one will nature mature more than the other but when there is no fundamental disagreement time will harmonize the differences and the original happiness can be regained you work is the supreme panacea the there re going to be a household in america in the next year or two that face this or some more serious problem the problem of our physically maimed and wounded going to be the worst of it be the mental the nerve the psychopathic cases that put a heavy burden on us all lift your burden off the great total by accepting the unexpected gaiety and independence of this wife of yours add to her capability her completeness a new capability and completeness of your own normal mal pattern will return once youre well started and the first baby likewise the whole pattern will fall into normal lines an and d this restless dissatisfied resentful phase of homecoming home coming will seem only a dream you have the materials for an unusually happy marriage here dont throw them away postwar marital problems present every variation of trouble to w which human hearts are heir the returning husband who grows be yand and his wife and finds her unexpectedly dull less pretty less dear than he remembered her the wife who hardly knows the boy with whom she danced so merrily into wedlock and who like him much on later inspection the returning soldier jealous of his baby the waiting wife all ready with plans for divorce the criticisms of her because she lived with his mother or because she the discontent because she worked or else she the wounded problems and the problems of the maimed and the blind make a fresh start bill and solve yours yourself |