| Show the household 0 by LYDIA LE BARON WALKER louse house guests enjoy a certain amount of freedom from entertainment it Is 18 well tor for hostesses to re lin tn ember this when they are planning a round of entertainments for va visitors be sure to include in the she schedule dule some time each day in which the guests can rest write letters or just be on their own as the slang phrase aptly puts it unless the hostess does make allowance for such respite for her visitors they will leave worn orill out with the heaped up attentions one charming woman said to me recently 1 I never make visits now they are too taxing the lat last place 1 I visited I 1 felt like a prisoner I 1 even KO go out to mall mail a letter one of the maids was sent to do it or sowe some one in the family went it if the maids were all busy every minute was taken the hostess thought she was paying me special attentions but what I 1 wanted was some time to myself I 1 wanted to go out and mall mail my letters it was a genuine genuine relief when I 1 got home and could do some things I 1 wanted to without interference oh of course they mean to interfere but the entertaining was simply too strenuous acquaintance with affairs another thing which visitors like Is to be informed of plans somewhat they like to know when the hostess will be occupied it if they dunt they will feel like lost sheep wandering about thinking any moment they may be wanted todo to do something or go somewhere there are few hostesses who can be every waking moment with house guests the call of duties about the home or social duties Is imperative when she has to attend to these it Is a cour courtesy teRy to tell the guests that she will be busy for a certain time or until a definite hour then they can do nhat whatever ever slie she suggests and thinks they will all like such as play tennis motor etc or be free to do whatever they prefer the visitors will feel at liberty to enjoy themselves in any chosen way viry during this space of time another thing which will help visitors to enjoy being entertained Is to have some sort of time schedule for them to keep for example visitors should be told about hours of meals and any established routine of the home which they would be expected to follow or a list in the guest room placed where it cannot rail full to be seen hlll relieve the hostess of the bother of mentioning the things kind words and sarcasm speaking well of others is the es sence of good taste in conversation it Is a fundamental principle unkindly remarks weigh against the speaker sarcasm Is a weapon to cut friendships there are times when it can be used to flatten down unwarranted criticism and unkindly inauen does then it Is used in a good cause but it should be thus used in any personal conversation and not to bring a laugh at the expense of another slang can be used but sparingly no person who relies upon slang expressions pres to carry him through conversation has respect paid to what he says sa ys it can be used occasionally to point a remark and be effective and not in bad taste swearing like slang can become a habit it Is a bad habit one which must be corrected or it becomes repugnant to listeners profanity and cursing mark the speaker as a conversational degenerate some of the things to avoid in conversation have been dwelt upon more at length than what hat to use because flagrant errors are distinct barriers that not only ban one from the aristocracy of good taste as indicated through conversation but from the best society 06 1113 1933 bell Syn dicato service |
