Show Kathleen N Norris orris Says r When Marriage 1 Goes Stale nail Bell Syndicate Feature r r C x A AC V fi at 1 1 i 91 3 J 00 J 0 i e- e I l l s She wont won't face the he simple truth ruth that tha eve every woman knows know In her heart hear that tha this hb ecstatic flame lame that tha is J devouring her has a very unstable base baJe of or physical passion and flattered By KATHLEEN NORRIS HE other day one of the T THE papers had a little story about a young woman who lost a hundred pounds much to the improvement of her beauty and health When someone asked her how she did it she said I dieted and I fell in love Nothing takes off weight like falling in love rove or being under the pressure of a terrible grief because both those emotions are all absorbing The woman newly in love looks at her food curiously curiously curiously curi curi- what is it Oh lunch She tastes it isn't hungry she is thinking thinking thinking think think- ing of nothing but Douglas whom she will see tomorrow And if she keeps this up for more than a few days she begins to lose weight A delightful way to lose weight too Which one of us wouldn't like always to have the dazzled agonizing agonizing ing delicious floating and flying sensation sensation sensation sen sen- that is being in love Unfortunately it is as baseless an emotion as the sweet drowsiness that envelopes the drug Sense and reason are dulled anything everything sounds true to the lover The stout middle-aged middle married man believes that the exquisitely pretty year old is madly in love with him the frustrated wife of 40 listens enraptured to the compliments compliments compliments ments of a boy of 22 There is no use arguing about it lovers never hear anything except what they want to hear Drifted Apart Please let me put to you for your advice a situation that has arisen in my my I life e. e and that I want to solve right away for all concerned writes Phyllis Taylor a Vassar graduate who lives in Nashville I am 33 and have been married to Jack for 11 years We have two sons aged nine and six I adore my boys and andI I think that from their manners health and intelligence you I would think me a good mother Jack is a lawyer moderately successful he and I like each other and respect each other but we have few interests interests interests inter inter- ests in common Jack goes to his club every Thursday night and quite often on some other night about once a week he likes to go hunting duck-hunting hunting deer-hunting fishing in a very informal informal informal in in- formal way I mean with a friend or two camping or in some little boat they hire for a week The boys chatter at the breakfast table Jack reads the paper they chatter at atthe atthe atthe the dinner table he reads the paper He is amiable was very good to my mother who lived with us until her death six months' months ago and will always always always al al- ways answer answer a question interestedly But we seem to have drifted far apart After Mothers Mother's death I went to a neurologist because I was upset in every way not sleeping well de de- pressed He is a fine man quiet 12 years older than I widowed with two girls of 14 and 10 He helped me from the first life became worth living again and best of all I grew patient with Jack little things didn't seem to trouble me any more David to call him that had suggested suggested sug sug- exercise a diet really worthwhile worthwhile worthwhile worth worth- while reading Discovers New Love Two months ago in his office we discovered our love for each other and faced the facts I was truly amazed not having realized where I was drifting or rather being carried carried carried car car- ried by a current too strong for me meto meto meto to resist David man-fashion man would have thrown all discretion to the winds in the terrific weeks that followed followed followed fol fol- lowed when I was in such a state of emotional excitement that I hard bard GREENER FIELDS It is truer of o marriage than of oJ almost anything else that hat another another's another's an an- others other's lot inevitably seems bet bet- iter ter than ones one's own The distant distantI I fields you know always look greener greener At close range they rarely are better and frequently are far worse Phyllis Taylor is regarding the prospect o of oJ f divorce and re-marriage re from the safe distance of oJ domestic security And Kathleen Katlleen Norris aware of oJ the pitfalls of oJ change urges her herto herto herto to cling fast Jast to that security and to make the most of oJ it ly y knew w what at was going on ButI did dia refuse s efu any capitulation until I could think it all out and decide what was fair I felt then that our feeling because of its very violence might night be short-lived short but today i itis i it is 3 stronger than ever David wants the me me to get a divorce bring my children chil chil- dl dren en to his lonely house and create for or us all a real home again His little ittle girls are darlings and although I do not see them much I know they hey are ready to love me David Davidis is 3 devoted to my boys so that the only sufferer in ins in this whole case would be Jack who has no idea of the situation If I sho should ld force myself to be strong enough to sacrifice my own feeling eeling in this matter I lapse back into nto the loneliness and stupidity of my old life I also sacrifice the love of the finest man I have ever known I rob his daughters of a mot mother er a womans woman's influence in the years years years' when they most need it and I deprive my sons of what is a step up in the social and economic scale David talks of their college careers promises promises promises prom prom- them circuses and bicycles and has has' already won their small hearts Is it wise is it right to give up the immediate and great happiness of all of us m merely rely because this willbe will willbe willbe be a real blow to Jack Of course it will willi He has been taking home wife hot dinner sons love and consideration consideration consideration con con- for granted isn't it about time he waked up His sister is married to his partner in the firm the natural thing would be for him to live there he could see the boys whenever he liked there would be beno beno beno no unpleasantness and and but I hardly hardly hardly hard hard- ly dare tell you how my heart sings at the thought of such a future for forme forme formel me mel Wont Won't Face the Truth Poor Phyllis having failed to work workout workout workout out personal happiness from the rich store of gifts life has already given her she is as confident as a achild achild achild child of three that unlimited candy and being allowed to stay up late will be all her heart desires I She doesn't realize the tremendous fight that Jack would put up for his sons the unpleasantness of it She doesn't stop to think of the opinion of her friends the instant sympathy that would turn to Jack the criticism of her She wont won't face the simple truth that every knows in her heart that this ecstatic flame that Js' Js is s' s devouring her has a 11 very I unstable base of physical passion and flattered vanity Nature is managing managing man man- aging the hunger part that is her business none of us would be here if it wasn't and David is supplying the sugar coating And nd oh how sweet flattery is when it comes Inthe in inthe inthe the low voice of an adoring male I Phyllis must be bewitched indeed if she thinks Jack is going to surrender surrender surrender sur sur- render his sons to the man who wiio broke up his home after woman fondly imagines this but in inthe inthe inthe the end the boys go to the partner who is in general public opinion the injured one |