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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks Bv DOROTHY DIX. -he World s Highest Taid Woman Writer ' DOES it pay? A man. whose influence over his .nearly grown children is great, said j the other da) ! ; 1 "Other times .other manners, and other methods of dealing with chil dren, you know. In these days the youngsters are hard boiled proposl tlons. who look at everything with a materalistlc eye. They haven't au ounce of sense or romance, or an illu sion concealed in their whole systems and they snap their fingers in the face of tradition. "Therefore, it is useless to make the same appeal to them that onr parents made to us We were taught to believe that our fathers and moth era were fountains of wisdom, and thar their opinions were those of oracles. Our children regard us as back num hf rs, and our views as curious an t I amusing relics of the past Our pr- j euts talked to us ?. great deal aut right and wrong, and doing nir iuty. 'and obedience. Our children brieve in -elf determination, and that their I j highest duty is to themselvest and, 'they make for themselves 'he TMi'V j 'laws that they Tesprct i "So there is no use in preaching the old doctrines to them, and 1 don't by it. I Just say to my hoys and ffflB Figure out the results of Ihn thing! ! thai rou are thinking or doing, ind see (if it pays. IT it dor, hop to it. If it i doesn t. cut it oui ' "Tbe wouldn't take my advice if il handed it out to them in lhe-ahape of moral precepts, but they .,, it j when I pu 1 o th( m Rf buslnesanrop-1 osition And the resull is ihe amV for it is only the practice of Wrtuej ihal pays. Vice imanably bankvuplsj everyone who follows it "It's the honest merchants wOio' make fortunes You never heard of s - burglar leaving a million dollar estate 11 behind him for his heirs to fight over : jit's the sober men who have influence i in a community, not the rounders tvu J the industrious who succeed, nut the 1 I loafers. It's the nice, good girls who many well, and have, beautiful homes and happy lives. No man wants to ! mam iuc :irl whose skirts are stain- ed with mud ot the streets. "It s easy enough to make young ! people realize these general platitudes. ' i and Sr you can once gel them to see 'that they have a personal application., ! and to t iguring on fhe co6' H JJpe course they are pursufng, they aV1, , pretty apt to choose the winning onld i of the proposition. For while we all 1 like to dance, none of us are keen onS j settling, the piper's bill Therefore. l j ask my chihlini coniinually 'Will it, I pay?' " There arc many of us that it could j profit to follow this wise man's ad ; Ise, and Bit down and do a little bal-i bal-i ancing of our ledger of life, and find 'out whether it paid us, or not, to act I as we are doing There are those of us, for instance.' who are liing beyond our means trying try-ing to keep up with people who have more money than we have. We keep automobiles that we cannot aflord. W ' live In more expensive houses than i our incomes justify. We spend looj j much money on clothes, on amuse : men! a on giving parties We are always in debt The bill collector col-lector is always on our trail. We are always harassed, anxious, nervous, I Our whole lives are a tissue of deceits, pretenses, lives aud we dare not even think of the black future in which there nifty he gfclaiessf or misfortune or old age for which we have made no '-preparation. Does it pay? , Is ther'- any fun in running a motor cai wiJfi you are wondering where the onWf eon np fi im ro buy the next - li hat pleasure Is ! theH weariDg good clothes that you canBay for. mid of which on have ' rolH the dressmaker or a tailor. Just .tsBmi as i. you had stolen them out otfpr shop? What satisfaction can there he In -pending vour mone on I acquaintances who avIIi never darken your door when you can no longer set up free food aud drink ror them? To live within your means brings ' solid comfort, prosperity, a safe old age, the respect of all wno know you, ! and genuine friends. In 1!'. e beyond your means, en'alls anxiety, the contempt con-tempt of worthwnile people, an event-I ia! smash, for the house of cards al-, way a fails down, and a poor, and dependent de-pendent old age. Which pays" There a-e families who live In a perpetual wrangle. Neither husband nor wife thin'iv: it worth while to con I trol his or her, lempei, or refrain from saying every blrrvi thing t li at rtsJea to his or her lips. The man is sufrly, and grouchy, and fault findi.. (The woman nags, and frei$.' and wh fines, and complains, and reWoaches her uusbancLfpr nbl making as mutch monoxj bhe wani o - p unc T-'Onders If the iun these ,Mm1i Vn nut r.t fir.Vll...r tKm for all thTPy lose. One wonders if they j never couSIt the cost of their rages.1 and if they thing it worth while to kill love foi the pleasure of sayint bitter, cruel, taunting things to each i ot her. f Ev.ery man and woman who gets mar-1 ried can make marriage a lit ce . and a home that is a heaven bp. earth, or I ihey can niak. m J i homi rilare- ir i or in- ni llJr in l"'m decide $bHya' the b 'flTnere are men and. women lVno lel ' ihelr silly vanity, and love of Imira-1 tion make them false to thei nus j bands and wives. Sometimes tlu'. ""' just idle flirtations. Sometinies. il cud in scandals that lead to the di i vorce court. Do a few thrills of passion, a little 1 purlous romance, a Httle knowledge hat one can still charm the oppdsitci ex. pay for the dishonor of deceiving he one who trusts you, the sordldness ilf a double life, the breaking of a lieari and the wrecking of a home?! .And the women who naslect iheir chjildren for society, or rlifts, or par tis. Does any pleasure they get out ; oft parlies, or any public ood they j ncuttfl do pay for their own girls aDd J bo v growing up intij bei-omlng hood i lumd, of the street? Well may we ask ourselves about OUT whole philosophy of life: 'i'oes it pa !" |