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Show U I Dorothy Dix Talks THE ATTRACTION OF OPPOSITES ! v PQRQTlt) tlie World's 11 icrl.ovt I iiu W ""u Writerj I A young man writes to me that ho ';ffire! ls enp--11'1' lo ,,r- married to a lrl who li fill opposite In every respect. He Is very religious. gha is vcty worldl; minded. ' .'V He is thrift She extravagant i and wasteful . 5; He is a professional man. Interested. '"'''iS. c 111 serious reading She never read. jjg. - i thing except the fashion notes and &',-' the society page In the newspapers ,; ' Ilf Hunks a great deal of bis duty towards others She Is only selfishly bent uif getting the best for herself., fc lie j unliable She is hlgh tem- yi'j - pered and cannot even get along with i her own mother. A Now. although this girl fascinates ui the young man, unci he loves her dear- ' L, i hf doubts the wisdom f marrying her, and asl:s me what 1 think about i it. and If he can change the girl into ' something nearer to his ideal of wh.it woman should be. t 1 think that marriage between peo- rff plo who look at life from opposite pi standpoints, and whose taslen differ ; i on ever) subject from polities to pie. ;l is madness The holy estate is bound ' f'd'i to be nothing but a bloody battle- . ! field for them, on which the fight . -ap 'out lo a finish ever qyestlon tn.it arises between them Nobody's Ideal of being happy Is to .- A be scrappy. The people whom we s -1 love and en)o being with, ;ire not ifti'J those who antagonize us at every j f'i turn and who keep our fur rubbed . oohtlnually the vrong was rhose ol rgjC whose society we never tire ar tin.- c-ongenial souls who think as Wa think.' ,. 7v. v who are interested In the same sub- ' " ,i jects as we are, who engo the same things that we do who can even mount the same hobbies thai we ride and canter along contentedly at our sides. This is particularly true of matrl- mony where happiness or misery is made up, for th- most pari m a m j1 tltudo of little thlnga Comparatively few husbands and wives bore each other lo extinction becauw the lis 1 no common Interest, or they get onj ?y? each others nerves because they dlf-i rfcMWr' on ecry sibject under the sun.' ijjkj A woman who Is as interested in I -:SS her husbands business as he Is. Can ilffall make Aa evening at home thrllllnglyl -Jmtial Interesting for both of them by listen- Hit: With bated breath while he die courses about the grocery trade, or! riSCUSSei his patients or his law patients pa-tients with her, whereas, the wifo who awns In her husband's face wh n he MfX tries to tell her of his llfo work, can send him to the club for company, and shed tears over her own forlcrnness in being left alone A religiom man ipVJ cn have his heart broken by n wife' ffT'j who sneers at his faith, and he can I Jt oe k,?lt In a perpetual wrangln over K points of dogma. Many a famllv has iVV been broken up over Infant baptism'; and open or eloss communion. Wij, ' '" tlK other hand, no married cou-! E?2' Pies are so happy as those who go' IH hand In hand to tlu same church, or who have (he same grand opera or moving picture taMe J: Is fsr more important than young people realize for a man and woman who are about to marry to think alike, and lo hold the same Ideals That is, if i he; want to be happy Foi the attraction of opposltca is a devilish contrivance of natures for t.ae good uf the spec.e. It takes no account ac-count of the well-being of the Individual. Indi-vidual. The verj qualities of unlike ies. that drew people together before marriage and which piqued the Interest In-terest of the other, after marriage drives them aphrl The gJr.'. for Instance, In-stance, who is like a little playful kitten, and with about as much intelligence intelli-gence as a kitten, seems cute and amusing to an intellectual man before marriage, but after he Is married to her. her Ignozanca and lack of brains no longer Charm htm It makes him despise her as a fool nnd turn lo other women for companionship And (lie little butterfly girl Ls equally equal-ly unhappy. 8he thougnt It would be wonderful to sit forever at the feet of a great wise man and worship him as :t he were a god, but sh- gets tired of that when it is a dail pro-gram, pro-gram, and wants somebody to play about wn.i her. to take her to dances and cabaret ai1d ,ul the jargon of tr.e stree. whuh is the only language she understands. As for men and women taking to themselves wives and husbands that they den t quite like, with a vow 01 making them over to suit their fancies, that Is the supreme folly that keeps the divorce courts working overtime It simply can t be done When a man and woman, have reached the marriageable age their characters aro formed. They have come into theli Inheritance of brains and principles. Their tastes are mad Their habits set and w hile these may b slight Ij altered bv circumstances and associations, associa-tions, they arf never materially changed The silly woman is going to bo bfHy to the end of the chapter Th. Kr who Ken' h r father's nose to he grindstone Is going to keep her husband hus-band humping io pay her bills The girl who could not get along with her mother Is voing tr, quarrel with her husband The man who li lazy and unenterprising as a bo . Is going to make a loafing man He who la i-ru-nii and rude te his mother and slsti . will yake out his boorish nesn on his wife. The stingy beau inakfs a tightwad tight-wad husband, and so it goe. Marriage docsn t change people u just develops to the highest degree the best and the worst in them. The sensible thing Is not to marry your opposite but your double, .md to pick out for a life partner the kind of a person who Is already what you like instead of taking something oil don t want, and trying to make it over Into what von fancy oo |