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Show ...-.u-u-uwu-. .-.nrwxr ' i Dorothy Dix Talks j HOW TO SPOIL A HUSBAND j By DOROTHY DIX, the WoiWa Highest Paul Woman Writer Have you ever noticed lids straw?"- I domestic phenomenon that Jill the xooa women seem to ft the mean husband.-, and all tho mean women appear to rret the good husbands? Virtue apparently sclUom run& flft-Hfty flft-Hfty In the family circle. Ninety time out of a hundrt-d when you find n devoted, de-voted, unselfish wife who spends her life slaving- for her husband, and wcarm hcrelf out In pinching In economics In order to save and help him along, you will find that the husband is a sclfi.n brut.- who tyrannizes over her. and who hows her neither gratitude nor tpprA-clatlon. tpprA-clatlon. And. by the same token, when you find man who is as domestic as the hou-cat, hou-cat, who Is l ndrr and thoughtful and considerate of his wtfb, And who WQrkfl 0 hard he grows hump shouldered trying try-ing lo pn hei bills, you will likewuc find that he has nearly always married a baby doll who never has a single thought that Is not centered on her own pleasures arid comfort, and who regards her husband as nothing more nor less than a combination eash-reglstor ana lackey, This Is not duo lo the noble and upright up-right being particularly unlucky In the matrimonial jcamhle Nor is it due t- ther being particularly stupid in the hc- , leclion of their life partners. It Is duo solely lo the fact that they lack the wis (lorn, the courage, and the firmness to deal adequately wllh one of Iho mosi difficult and delicate problems that lli: offers and that is how much we can do for another human being without ruining him 01 Uc I So they have .ipoiled tho men and ih. j women to whom they arc murricd, inn , turned thorc who would have been 0-1 feclly good husbands and wives into loafers, or l rants, or tightwads, or leeches. It Is a very easy thing to do. -md a 'very natural one. When wc love a person the impulse is always to gratify his or her desires at any cost, to do the thins 1 that will glxe him or her the most plea'- i urc This temptation to sacrifice them- , 'selves to their beloved is particularly 1 strong with women, and they seldom Stop to think of lis consequences, md i that their unselfishness breeds selfishness In others. j 8 (11 1 less do they stop to Ihmk thar. their devotion is their undoing, and tha' Iheir self-abnegation Is a boouieran;-that boouieran;-that returns and destroys them For when a woman has taught her husbar.o and her children that she is the one person per-son in the house never to be considered the one who always f,ts the worst clothes, and Ihe back of the chicken, and who stays at home when tho others gu lo places of sinusement she win Inevitably Inevit-ably find out that they have learned Ihe lesson all too thoroughl She will always be left al home, and never get anything hut the hack of ttie chicken, and the shabby - clothes. Noi l . - . -VWita . s- - . Will anyone thanl: her for her saerifi.-.-. They will take them as S matter t 1 rourte. and have a secret contempt for her for not having spunk enough to demand her rightful place in tho run. and shore of the Rood things. All this makes It Important that eve young wife should becin by adopting thi right attitude toward her husband, ann that she should refrain from spoiling him. or during the first ear of marrlag a a woman settles how her husband ! I no'.rtK to trc-it her. whether no is goln;; to be considerate, or Inconsldemu . Whether he is go in? to jrrowl at her. o iPal 'o her as If she was a la0 ; whether he is going to be stingy to her or liberal with her. It Is commonplace to ny that every Otl treats us Just as we demand that lie ; treat US, and that Is as true of husbands as of anyone else. The bride who Is terrorized by the temper of a man who has never learned to control himself, ar.o who submits meekly to his abuse who 5 he la In a rape. Is spoiling him. TJett-r a few scenes In which she makes hliu understand taht she is no menial to be insulted, in-sulted, apd sworn at. than a life tlm-? of cringing under words that stab like a dagger. It Is every wife's dut to he thrifty and saving within reason, but the women who begins her married Hfo by denyliK herself everything she can possibly do 1 without, spoil.s her husband. She malv.-s him think that a wife cun live on air, and that clothes grow upon her as feathers do upon birds. .md when ihe needs things he gives them to her gnidguigly It is the over-thrifty wives who make Sting) husband.' The young wife WTO never demand- anything for herself, who never makes her husband take her to any place rl amusement who never lets him aee that she expects him to pay h- r little our-tesles our-tesles and attentions Is also spoiling her husband. She is letting him turn ht: into a piece of household furniture r. i m a little while she will find that he considers her as lit 1 lo ns he doe? "he klt hen range. She will he merely household convenience to him, and nothing noth-ing more. Every man when he gets married Cor the the first time is beginning a totally new experience. Ho has to learn how-to how-to be a husband, and it Is up to his w if' to leach him hoc, to walk in the path -n which he .should go Ky pampering him In his selfishness, in his grouchiness. ill his egotism, she can make him surly and ineonsldcrate. stingy and brutal, or she ran teach him to be courteous to h and considerate of her. and to deal fairly with her about money. And lot no woman forget that to hoi 1 her husband's love she has to hold hlt respect, and no man respects the tarn'. J door-mat. He wipes his feet upon it when he walks ocr ii to find some woman who has gol more bark bone ana pep to her |