Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Lette Box Boj I WHY A GIRL SHOULD LISTEN TO HER HR HEART INSTEAD OF TO HER HR MOTHERS MOTHER'S AMBITION IN SELECTING A HUSBAND BUSINESS MAN OR HOUSEWIFE WHICH WORKS HARDER HAS BROTHER THE RIGHT TO SELECT SISTERS SISTER'S BOY FRIENDS flEAR MISS mss DIX I DIX I am a business girl making a good salary and I am amin amin amI DEAR I in love with a fino young man who makes a month and has hasgood hasgood hasgood good prospects for the future I have also a chance to marry a very wealthy man manS and my mother insists upon my rp marrying him although I do not love him and do love the poor man My mother says that she Is older and wiser than I am and that I should be guided by her advice She says that romance soon dies after marriage and then the only thing that counts is money I cannot see it that way Which one on of ot us is right DISTRESSED DAUGHTER u ANSWER You are right A thousand you are right Your mother Is Ix alto alto- altogether altogether gether wrong and If you listen to her evil counsel you will wreck your life 1 0 Love Is the only thing In the world v that counts In marriage It is the only thing that makes It worth while It ItIs ItIs Itis Is the only thing that takes the sting out of the sacrifices that marriage in inevitably in DOROTHY DOR THY DIX OIX entails No matter how rich may be the man you ou marry you have havo got to adjust yourself to him You will have to give up a thousand ot of 3 your our own tastes and desires and inclinations to him You will hae have ha e to bear with his bis little peculiarities and idiosyncrasies and mannerisms You will mill have to put up with his disposition You will have to endure his daily conversation and nearness n arness If you jou love the man all of ot this as nothing It Is part of ot the happi happi- happiness happiness ness floss of ot being married for a woman Roman to sink her individuality and per personality Into that of ot the man she loves It is a joy to her to serve gene him to do the little things that make him more snore comfortable His ery faults endear him to her and she never neverA A wearies carles of ot his society But if It sho Is bound to a man she doesn't love she begrudges every sacrifice she has hasto hasto hasto to make for him She regards as a tyranny his every effort to enforce his will Everything he does and says gets on her nerves and his society bores her to tears And no DO money In the world can pay a woman for tor that I would strongly advise any girl not to marry a man mart who cant can't support her In modest comfort because for one thing there can be no happiness In a household where the wolf Is always alway howling at the door and because for another g any man who Is Industrious and Intelligent can make to support a family If he is le willing to work But beyond that in choosing a husband never consider what a man has Con Concentrate your attention upon what he Is and how much you care for him A great many mothers mo hers influence their daughters to marry men they dont don't care for luse bec the men are rich and they are ambitious and want to see their girls splurging around in fine cars and living In Infine Infine Infine fine houses But such marriages have a curse upon them even In a financial way wa for time lime and again by the time lime the rich youth Is mid mid- middle dle aged he has lost all the money he Inherited and the poor young man the mother would not let her daughter marry has made a fortune The girl who sells herself In marriage or lets her mother sell Bell her has no right to draw her skirts away from the woman of the street So dont don't let your mother make you party to any such sordid transaction The greatest thing that the emancipation emancIpation pation of women has done for them has been to make It so that no girl need marry now for anything except love She can make a career and not a profession of matrimony DIX iff WhO WhO- the the- DEAR flEAR DOROTHY DIX Who DIX Who leads lead the easier dally daily life Ufe the present present- 3 day business man who attends to business every working day or his wife at home SAMUEL ANSWER It depends upon the Individual case The poor woman who has half a dozen children and who has to do all of her cooking and washing and cleaning and scrubbing and tending baby works harder than any other human being on earth Her hours begin before her husbands husband's because she has haa to get up and get him his breakfast and they thoy end long after his because she is patching and sewing and mending after the rest of the family is in bed And in addition she never has a nights night's unbroken sleep deep because she Is up and down covering restless little sleepers giving drinks to thirsty little lips answering the eternal cry for t o t r. h r. e-r. Holidays and Sundays that bring rest and relaxation to the man make added work for her because they are the fam lam family famIly ily feast days There are no union hours for her no strikes no layoffs After supper the husband sits down with his pipe and paper or he draws his chair chait up to the radio or he steps around to the poolroom for fora a game or two but his wife has the dishes to wash and the supper thIng thine- thin to clean up and the children to put to bed and all the million things to pick up and straighten out that must be done to keep a ahouse ahouse ahouse house comfortable Why taking care of the children for one Sunday afternoon will reduce an bodied able man to a frazzle but his wife does that all sil day long every day Just as a sideline to her regular labor But among rich people the reverse of this Is true and undoubtedly the prosperous man works harder than his wife does Indeed the more successful a man is and the bigger his business grows generally the harder he ho works and the closer he is tied down to It il It Is II his wife who can spend her mornings shopping and her afternoons playing bridge and her winters In Florida and her summers In Europe The husband Is bound to his Job and cannot leave It There are many millionaires who are slaves and many millionaires' millionaires wives whose hardest work Is killing time Among people of ot moderate Income it is a fifty fifty proposition The wife works as hard in hi her home as the husband does at his busi bust business business ness and the difference between them is this that the husbands husband's work is more interesting and there is more variety to it than tha 1 the I jr He works out In the world where he meets people contin contin- continually where he sees lees fresh faces laces and has social contacts but the wife's labor Is performed within the four walls wails of her home where she Is generally alone and where she does over and over again day after day the same things Also the hus hus- husband husband husband band has the stimulus of getting the reward of his work In his pay envelope every week while the wife gets nothing but buther buther buther her board and clothes So whether hether you jou ou or your wife works the harder Samuel depends upon your our status in life DOROTHY DOROTH DIX DEAR flEAR DOROTHY DIX DIX I I am a girl at that awful age Il e 17 17 when hen you TOU 1 begin to feel independent and self sufficient self Now No I have an older brother who vho thinks ho he has a right to Interfere and say what boys I Ishall Ishall Ishall shall go with Has he SUE ANSWER Well of course he hasn't any real right Sue Your par par- parents parents parents are the only ones who have the privilege of bossing you but all the same If I were you Id I'd listen to what my brother said A brother Is a mighty good friend to have and a wise ad ad- adviser adviser because you see he goes around among amona the boys and knows them as you cant can't possibly know them and wont won't go far wrong If you take his tip about the ones who are arc gentle gentlemen men and safe ufe for a young girl to go with and the ones who are cads whom she will be wise to pass up DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |