Show I L Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box Boj r THE BACHELOR WHO IS HUNTING FOR A MODEST VIOLET IN INTHE THE MODERN GARDEN OF WILD GIRLS MAKING THE DO- DO DOMESTIC D DOMESTIC WHEELS GO AROUND THE YOUNG YOUNG WIFE WHOSE HUSBAND FINDS WORK WORK FOR HER BUT NOT FOR HIMSELF DEAR flEAR EAR MISS DIX Before Before prohibition girls used to sing slog Tho The lips that a touch wine shall never touch mine Now a lot of o us men are sing sing- singing ing the same tune but our version of ot it is Tho The lips that are painted shall never touch mine We dont don't want to marry the kind ot of o girls who are arc painted up like a circus who wear Vear their skirts above their l knees displaying their supporters hose-supporters who have hare nothing on their minds but clothes and c. c who eho class you as a cheap Johnny unless you spend a big pile of ot money on them I haven't come across a sensible girls for years It U I could find one who had real gray Tay matter in S her head and who was willing to stick to me mo mee e s' s like glue who was modest in her dress and I conversation and who w o would be willing to love honor and obey me Id I'd be glad lad enough to marry marr and share my fortune fortuno with her Where is 15 she shel hARRY S. S c Answer Anwer Oh she ahe Is U probably In the next block from you Harry Or maybe she he DOROTHY DORTHY DIX works work In the tame same office with you Or Orthe the she Is I the girl your mother hat has been telling you about for the last lut five years yeara but have never noticed her because she It la such tuch a quiet Inconspicuous little thing Vio Vio- Violets lets dont don't make show In a of sunflower rc I dont don't blame you for tor not wanting to kiss the lips that arc arem smeared ared over with paint until they look like a raw flat eat t ot of butchers butcher's meat They certainly are unappetizing and I never see a girl with her lips all gummed up that way that I dont don't wonder how any man can cau have a strong enough stomach to relish a a. mouthful ot of cosmetics I should think that It would break up kissing quicker than all the moral lec lee lectures lectures tures on the subject su Apparently however it doesn't affect men that way as girls con con- continue continue continue to daub on a fresh tresh coat ot of o red paint as soon as the last one has been licked off ort But they wouldn't do it If two men in would Join In your chorus and sing ting to them that the lips that are ire painted shall never touch mine For girls gins dress to please plene the men They calcimine their face to please the men And all that men have to do Is I to turn thumbs down on any feminine foible and they drop It before you can say uy Jack Robinson So mens men's criticism critic Im I'm of women and of girls gin I Is I always unjust The girls are what the men make them Just at present men are demanding that girls shall violate all of the canons of what has ha heretofore been considered maidenly propriety and reverse erse and so the girl who ho is half naked who drinks and ands swears s ears and pets and who generally goes the limit If she does these things men will wilt take tako her out and give her a good time It If she sh wont won't her dates aro are few ew and arid far between and she mostly stays at home The result Is It that most of the girls do things that are re repugnant re- re repugnant repugnant to them and against their Instincts simply limply because became they are young and pleasure pleasure loving loving and they haven't the moral courage to refuse to pay the price that men demand for their attention But not all girls are like that There are still plenty of ot them who bo bostick stick to their ideals and have kept themselves untarnished 1 There are plenty of girls who dress modestly plenty of o girls who read and think and who would make the very best sort of ot faithful domestic wives But men pass laSS these girls over because they are not showy and because they are too modest to go out and pursue the men they want for hus bus bands The trouble with the men who complain that they cant can't find this sort of wives Is because they hunt for them in the wrong places You will no more find them at night clubs cluba than you would find a point lace lice In a blacksmiths blacksmith's shop But you wont won't have to do much sleuthing if it you really want one And at as a I Inid Isaid said taid before you can ask your mother or 01 any other middle aged woman without daughters daughter to give you a tip I DOROTHY DIN Dlf a C C S S a aDEAn DEAn flEAR DOROTHY DIX What DIX What would you ou do If you were wore a man and anda a had a a. wife like mine We have been married six months and I am disgusted She brings home 20 a week and I bring home 12 She handles bandies the money and has only been able to put away awa in six sir months but I tell her If it she could keep house like my sister she could have havo saved I am always telling her what good gool managers and good cooks my ray sister and anI my mother are arc and she says that she Is Is' neither my sister nor my mother Dont Don't you jou OU think my wife needs a a husband who would slap her once in a II while to wake her up I know it isn't me who needs it It O. O C C. H. H Answer Maybe you dont don't need any anyone one to slap you but you certainly certainly do need to have your head operated on for the sillies for any man lacks natural gumption who throws hit his sister and hit his J mother up to his wife at u models model for her to copy and who tells her how far short she the tails falls of their perfections That would rile any woman on the face of the earth It would cause a female Job to get up and throw things at her h r husband and make her determined to do Just exactly opposite from the way they did Furthermore it will inevitably make your wife hate hale your sister and your jour our mother m She Sh is fed ted up on their perfections and nobody can blame blaine her for tor feeling tee ling that If it you jou ou admired them so much muth you had better have han stayed d with them And or goodness sake come up to date a few thousand years and realize that in this day of ot feminine emancipation a man cant can't slap Iap his wife no matter how much he would like to No woman with any spunk would stand that She would get up and anI leave and on her way out she would have him arrested for tor assault and battery and for the remainder of his life lite he would be branded with the stigma of o a wits wife beater Instead of contemplating slapping slipping your wife and Instead of throwing your mother and your sister alster In her teeth why dont don't you sit down with her and try to arrive at an understanding and figure out a good working program to which you both tub sub scribe for making your marriage a success 1 Begin with the money end of the problem As your wife doesn't handle the finances satisfactorily why dont don't you be the tho th banker Budget your expenses So much for tor rent so much Tor Lor or food tood so much for tor amusements etc and the remainder for the savings bank ac ac- account ac- ac count Let your wife wHo contribute to this a definite amount of her salary and the remainder of the money that she earns urns is hers her to do with as she chooses As you make m more than she the does and at u she the contributes her labor as the housekeeper It It la fair that you Y U should bear most of the burden of supporting the family Then determine on how many evenings a week you shall go out and how hw many to stay at home and cut Gut out all references to your family and you will find that you have eliminated the causes of friction DOROTHY DIX DIX I 1 I am 10 1 and have been married seven monthS month Ii My husband is 30 He lIe has no trade and has hi h 1 only worked four tour months since we were ere married I J am employed and aDd have hare a good Job My Sly husband tells me roe that there is no opportunity in ID this city for a ayoung young joung man so he wont away and wrote m me that flint he had procured me a good position But he hasn't t got anything for himself to do Do you think I would be foolish to quit my position and go on to him Do you jou OU think a man and woman have the same chance here as in other places REX Answer c I think you would be very foolish to give up the petition position In I u which you are established to go on en a wild goose goote chase Ghue follow- follow followIng followIng followIng Ing a husband who It Is too lazy to work himself If your hut hut- I band displayed as much energy In something to do him self telf at n he does doea In getting a job for you there might be tome some reason reason for your going to him But certainly there It la none for for your giving up a certainty for an in uncertainty It is not tho the place that makes the man a D. success U It Is what is In Inthe Inthe Inthe the man himself In every city in the land there are thousands of men who have havo lived t li d there all their lives leaving it because they think It offers them no opportunities and there thero are thousands of o young men coming into It from the outside to make their own opportunities in It The man who wants to work will always find it My advice Is not only not not to follow your husband but but butto to write to him that you are never going to come to him until he goes gon to work and makes maket a living for you If he caret cares anything about you or there It la any manhood In him that will rouse It DOROTHY DIX ight by b Public Ledger r |