Show A f Af a I Dorothy Dix s 's Letter Box B x MR HUSBAND WHO BLAMES WIVES FOR THE WRECKAGE OF MODERN THE HOMES HOMES THE TRAGIC BLUNDER OF A FOL COLLEGE LEGE BOY WHO MARRIED TOO MARRYING EARLY EARLY EARLY- MARRYING A TYRANT X DEAR EAR T angelL MISS Mrss DIX DIX- YoU DIX DIX You ou seem to think that all aU women are aro angels angel angel- I LE- LE L Well let me mc tell you something Seventy five per cent of o all allen IT en married women are responsible for the tho unhappiness of married lICe t F Fand f and nd the tho wreckage ot of homes They may t be T good g od housekeepers but as homemakers the they t tg are alo utter failures They try to make their F husbands over by y hammering at their faults reminding then them of their weaknesses scold scold- 7 Jug inK and insulting them honi You cannot sand sand- gui SUI paper a husband without arousing a fatal tuti Q r ti protest f WOMA ww lt i It If wives would try to correct faults Sn n a J j their husbands by appealing to t the e best In n VO WOMAN woMA N 1 i t f Bh i them and make the home the tho dearest sweet sweet- 1 2 r- r rr K est eat place In lit the tho world world they they would not need nee O OMAN r m I Ito h- h v to write those sickly y letters to ou you when be gets married rAiB B Nearly early every man rAi- rAi 1 A t s i t has as made up P his mind l to live happily and aud 1 In f and it Is the character o of the woman P peace cc J s i and her Ier Ability as a n homemaker which Is 1 ri A SR A mostly responsible for Cor the happiness of o the theAr th Ar At family or the wreckage e of the home I i DOROTHY DIX DI A HUSBAND no Iy 3 Answer IT- IT ITI iL t I agree with you Mr Husband that It Is wrong and foolish for i a wife wIK to be always finding fault with her hus T I band and nagging him about his hie weaknesses and that the then n way to handle a man Is with velvet gloves But why l I Is it any an more Incumbent on a wife ife to use diplomacy in rf ii ft dealing with a husband than it I Is for a husband to te use In e 53 s dealing dulin with a wife Why should a wife sidestep her hus bands band's faults any more then than h he does hers Why shouldn't a husband make just as much effort to get along with hIs hIsa C a w fe as she should to get along with him 0 e c S 'S Women men dont don't enjoy being sandpapered any more than men do lor or have ha women a monopoly of ot the soft soap barrel ban It Is as free freeto freeto to husbands a as it is to wives wl and it works just as efficaciously li In out life liCe and making things run on oiled wheels when ap ap- ap- ap applied applied plied by masculine as by feminine hands I grant you that every man when he marries looks for forward ward to having a iI happy and peaceful home So does every woman And when she doesn't docant get It her chagrin and dis disappointment appointment are oven even greater than his because her lose Iou Ismore Is Ismore Ismore more complete than his The man JUan whose marriage Is a failure and whose wife wire is Quarrel Quarrel- quarrelsome some lome and fault finding has compensations Ho can get away from th 1 homo when conditions become Intolerable in it it He has thic the ab sorting Interest of ot his bis business to take his mind oft off his troubles JIS Is with and cheerful people K is is association during the day bright But the woman has nothing by way of a consolation prize If her home Is unhappy she is simply out of luck for pleasant or unpleasant she has to stay In It She cannot escape from a disagreeable husband as he can from herand her and the very quality of her work is such cuch that it gives her time to brood and grow morbid over every little ittle unpleasant unpleasant- unpleasantness unpleasantness ness of her lot Who Is Ss to blame for the wreckage of ot a home Is always an in in- in vidual matter Sometimes It Is III a wife sometimes the husband Generally both of them are equally to blame But I 1 do doI donot donot donot not think that there are more bad wives than there are arc bad I husbands hu n ds On the contrary I think that there are ale more unfaithful hus ands than there are unfaithful wives wires that there are arc more neglect neglect- ii 11 husbands than there are arc shiftless shirtless wives that there are more mor irly ny and grouchy husbands there are nagging wives wl and aud that tha I tere Iere are more stingy husbands than there are extravagant wives i I But there is no profit in the kettle accusing the tho pot of being black The helpful thing would be for husbands and wives to try harder to get along with each other for In matrimony we are very likely to get Oct paid back in our own coin A good wife will make a good husband and a happy and contented husband will make a happy and contented wife DOROTHY DIX S S I S I DOROTHY DIX DIX About About two years ago my brother married BEAR a girl who did office work thinking that she sho would continue her job until ho had finished his college collese course and was able to support her As soon as they were wore married however howe she refused to do any work saying that it wa the husbands husband's business to support the wife So o he had to give up colle college collego go and go to work He has hag become very much discouraged at not being able to finish hIs bis education My father could help my brother finish his college course but refuses to do so BO because he does not Dot want to do anything for hIs bis useless and selfish wIre wile What do you think of the situation SISTER RUTH Answer It seems to me that the whole situation 3 Is a tragedy of blunders In the first place your brother did a wrong and foolish thing in getting married too young No boy who Is still at college has any business with a wife Any man who marries before he has established himself and ha has some definite definite nite and settled way of supporting a family Is Jeopardizing not only his own future but that of his hi wife and the children he may have Your brothers brother's second mistake was in not knowing definitely the kind of ot woman he was marrying and what she was willing to do Evidently she is utterly self-indulgent self and selfish and has no Intention Intention tion whatever Cr of ot being a helpmate to her husband r The man who marries a girl without ascertaining what B her ideals of wifehood are arc is too simple and credulous a for this hard boiled age The rhe woman herself Belt Is making a great mistake For the tho sake of indulging herself h self in loftiness and idleness she the is throwing away her Iter chances o of much greater Idleness in III the future By Dy depriving her Iter husband ot of the benefit of ot further r education she Is definitely curtailing his earning power It 1 I she w would uld help him now the chances arc are that he would be able ablo to give her luxuries after the next ten years year that he will never be able to give her If she he Is I a drag upon him now Your four ow father is Ss making a great mistake In not Dot helping his bis son because bo ho help him without helping the selfish wife It Is true that your youl brother has acted foolishly In g getting married before ho 10 was ready for tor it and that t ho has picket out a quitter Quiller for Cor a wife But It ft is 5 the duty of parents to save their children from their folly and to keep them from ruining their whole lives by their mistakes So It seems to me that the best way to te clean up the mess men is for your father to give your brother enough money to finish his education and help him go In for the work for whIch he was fitting himself DOROTHY DIX e I I ID I DEAR D EAR MISS For DIX DIX For two years I 1 have been going with a n young oung man who says he lIe wilt will marry me roe If It I will promise to mind him and not Dot dispute him In any way He lie Is also vel very stingy but I think ho he would mako snake a good husband If it I could just juat yield to him and atop top fighting with him DISCOURAGED Answer I think if you m marry rry that kind of a man you had better get a marriage license with a divorce coupon attached to It No modern woman would submit to that kind of tyranny Dont Don't consider marrying him DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |