Show Dix Talks CAN NEVER MARRY OUR IDEAL MAN OR WOMAN BECAUSE NO SUCH PERSON HOW EXISTS EXISTS HOW MUCH WISER TO TOMAKE TOMAKE MAKE THE BEST OF OUR HUMAN PARTNERS INSTEAD OF BEING UNHAPPY BECAUSE DREAMS REAMS DONT DON'T COME TRUE TRUEr WO WOMAN IAN writes me that she IS married to 10 a man who Is tender A AWO kind and considerate to her r and who gives her every comfort and luxury but that she Is h i thinking ot of leaving heaving him because he doesn't come como up to her Ideal If thi this thil ladys lady's grievance li Is admitted as a just cause for breaking her marriage vows divorce will become universal for tor no man come up to his hll wife's ideal of what a per per- perfect husband should sho be Neither does dots any woman an woman approach within a million miles of a mans 1 mans man's Ideal Idal of at a perfect wife v A BEFORE DEFORE IndulgeD marriage both bolh men and women indulge In dope dreams ot of matrimony In which the they 1 exist In an earthly paradise that has none of ot the the the- sordid difficulties of the workaday world and r andr hand ln with the through which they wander wandel is godlike creatures who possess posses none of ot the nerves and tempers and end cussedness that afflict ordinary hue hu hu DL man beings How people of ordinary intelligence can so befool them them- them Into believing that the marriage ceremony Is going to waft them Into Elysium and give olve them these for wives and Is beyond explaining but we all do It And we get gat the shock of our lives when we find out that no miracle has lias been wrought in our behalf that matri matri- matrimony matrimony mony Is strewn with tacks for us as Just a as it is il for everyone every one else and that It does not take long for tor the halo with which we have crowned our brides and bridegrooms to dim and let 1st us see them as mere ordinary men and women with their faults and defects thick upon them has said that thai every wife Ife holds h her hier r husband responsible SOMEBODY S 3 for tor the wreckage ot of o the dreams of ot her girlhood This I is true Many a a bewildered be man doing his honest best b st to be bo a l good and In- In Indulgent In Indulgent husband wonders why his wife wire Is disgruntled and discontent discontented ed and utterly indifferent to him He wo would ld find the answer In the fact tact that the she he I li Is taking out out O on him her disappointment In not realizing her impel sible sible sibie ideal It il I i not net what ho does or Is that she objects to It li is what he Is II not that she cant can't forgive She feel feels herself herselt cheated because her visions vision have not materialized CUE lIE Is not fair enough nor just enough to realize that no such SHE SlIE S 3 human beings as her Ideal man ever evel existed for she had bad welded to- to together together to together gether In a her Imagination every virtue and every charm that the whole conglomeration ot of mankind possess and left heft out all of ot the faults and blemishes It sounds like liko a Joke but In sober truth over every young oung girl dreams or of marrying a man who will be as handsome as a movie roo Io actor who will dance like Maurice who will have havo tho the making talent of oC Mr Rockefeller who nho ho will ho be co as soulful as a poet as humble curable and aM patient as Job who will nt be a 1 perpetual lover hover and who will never weary of petting parties and telling her hel how bow wonderful and beautiful beautiful ful she che Is and that the first drat time tinie he be e ever er a saw w her he ho knew she was his predestined mate male Of or course she doesn't get this wonder being for the very sufficient reason resson that no run such paragon ha has yet been born of woman She finds when she is married that If her bus hus husband band Is II I a getter go-getter In the money line he Is II apt to very short on sentiment and have little time for spooning Or she sho discovers that her dreamer who walks with hIs hie head among the stars is mighty apt to be bo a poor provider Or that her gay and handsome husband with the dancing feet Is ii Isas Isas as easy on the eyes of other ether women as al he i is on hers and and that he isn't satisfied to two step with his wife wite Or that the husband who is an adept at making love is generally a philanderer 0 SHE walls wails and beats belts upon her breast and cries out that she Is 1 SO S miserable that her husband doesn't come comae up to her Ideal be- be because because be because cause he Isn't every good Instead of ot just one good thing And she blames him whereas the fault Is really her 0 own n In expecting and demanding more moro than any human being had to 10 give II Men are just as unreasonable about women as women are about men A mans man's Ideal wife Is a woman who stops steps the clock at 25 and never gets a day older who never loses her hair or her teeth or her complexion or her girlish figure w who o Is al- al always al always ways beautifully dressed In dainty chiffons that she the conjures out of the air and without his having to pay for tor them who ho can walk the colic all night without looking sallow and bleary eyed the next morning who Is always sweet and amiable and jolly and natured good and thinks think exactly as he does docs on every subject who is ready to stay In If he wants want to sit it by the fire or to go with him If he wishes withes to tD step out who v ho never desires any amusement herself herselt but realizes the tho necessity ot of othis his diverting himself yet who can set et a good table and run a ahouse ahouse ahouse house without running up any bills and when th the thea to sa say no nD such female marvel exists NEEDLESS a i man raan finds that his domestic wife smells of bread and butter and wife wire costs babies instead of ot black lilack orchids or that a plate fashion money and that his wife wire no more has the secret of perpetual youth soul calls marriage a 11 then he also In his secret than he has why failure because he ho has failed tailed to get his Ideal woman and aDd Sometimes he starts out to tD hunt her ber up amon among the flappers sometimes he revenges himself for tOI or his bis disappointment In being mean married to and who Is Js breaking and grouchy to the Iho poor soul he Is her neck trying to please him talk fool foot foolIshness foolishness our ideals we So when we talk about marrying and th the part of There are arc no Ideal men and women wisdom Is II to make makl the but best of ot the Imperfect wives and bus hus husbands becauSe with them bands we have ave instead of being not the embodiment of our own romantic dreams are they I DOROTHY DIX BIX Copyright by Public Ledger |