Show I I I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's s Letter Box I I ADVICE TO THE MOTHER OF SEVEN CHILDREN WHO Wi-to co CONI CON CONSIDERS SIDERS HERSELF A FAILURE HOW TO HANDLE A JEAL JEAL- JEALOUS JEALOUS JEALOUS OUS WIFE INDUCING A SPENDTHRIFT HUSBAND TO SAVE WITHOUT KNOWING IT EAR F EAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am aol marrIed man to is a man nan who makes a small DEAR D salary and have seven eeTen children the oldest 9 years yeara old the young young- youngest youngest est old months twin My husband working hours hour vary BO so that I I cannot even systematize toy rny work and have mea at any settled hours hour I used to be an attractive well we well dressed I dressed woman Now my attire consists of the cast ca oft cast off cit clothes of which kind hearted relatives and I In laws In-laws law have tired I race through the tasks of the the end of them We hue ha day and can never see lee frequent visIts visit from relatives on both sides who ju C have to come and see the darling children and in their eyes ees I can always read condemnation on my myown a myown own appearance and the lack of order In the house bout Now I have no tear fear of the future but wonder wood how bow I am going to get et through the next few years yea without losing my mind Just what should you say sa are the essentials to strive more What at can I do to tou keep the time while th the children are little from tro being a total loss loIS so farAS far as the Joy o of living goe goes A WIFE WHO IS TIRED OF BEING A FAILURE PIX DIX Answer The first thing thinO to do my tny dear dur I Is II to face fact about and Ind got get the alt right outlook on yourself and your Job Quit thinking of yourself as a failure because you cant can't keep kei yourself dolled up in pink silk lIk and lace negligees and have have- tidies On every chair and doilies dollies under every ery plate These are all well enough for the woman who has nothing more Important to engage her atte atten attention tion but you have bigger things thIng to do Think of yourself as having embarked upon the greatest career to which any woman can aspire and doing the greatest work In the th world that of making a hone home ho ne for your YOl family and rearing seven IOven children to be fine men Think of yourself as ss bestowIng a graat grut gift on humanity and of do- do doIng do doing ing a great patriotic service to your country for the tha world need needa now new won wor wore than anything el CI els the th sons sens and daughters daughter of women such luch as you are art Why you are like a great soldier a great philanthropist a a grei great manufacturer a great teacher a great a-great great moralist and when you think of combining all of that In the person of Just one on woman does It seem to you to matter whether she has the latest boyish bob or the U newest thing In frocks or whether every chair and table In her house bout boutis is I In place or not nol notT A As for the essential thing for you to strive for I think It I Is la serenity and humor mor Whether being poor I Is a curse no or not to a family depends upon the spirit In which the mother takes It If It she is peevish and fretful and always alwa's repining at her lot In life lit lithe she he can m make her home borne a place of torment and turn her Into little anarchists who are filled with hatred and envy of everybody I I who Is better off oft than they are lInt But If It the mother Is cheerful and loving and tender tender to her chi chil children dren hen dren If she teaches them to laugh at hardships If it she che breeds In I Ithem them courage and determination to succeed she sends forth the go- go g go getters who Inherit the earth and and the fullness thereof Most of the men and women in America today who have done worth while things thing and arid who sit It In the seats seata of the mighty had mother who wore checked cheeked aprons Instead of ball gowns and who knew more about making an Irish stew with lots iota of potatoes and onions and mighty little meat mut than they did Id about the best place to go for imported hats It Is not the mothers mother who are always perfectly dressed that chI chI- chi dren dren Iren love best It Is the mother whose breast I is a haven to 1 they hey can flee nee and on which they can weep out their little sorrow It t is ls not home that WAS waa always alays span and and where nothIng wu c-ar ever out of ot order that children love to stay In and that gra gray gray- haired gray haired men and women keep keel In their theIr- hearts till they dIe It t is the home where there was always love and sympathy and a mother nother who understood It is not the formal feast that children en- en enJOY er en enjoy joy 07 It Is the porridge and milk that they devour to the accompaniment accompaniment ment nent of laughter and frolicking So If you haven't the time and strength to be be- bea a model housewife and ane a chum to your children let the housework hOl go and sit lit down down and talk things over with the youngsters and listen lIten to their hopes and plans Dont Don't work so se so hard that you keep yourself nervous and Irritable It wont won't matter ten years yeara hence whether hether Marys Mary's pinafore had al handwork on It or not or Johnnys Johnny's stockings bad had a hole In the knee but iut it will 1 make all the difference imaginable whether Mary am Johnny regard you OU as friend mother or as a shrewish woman whose socIety they duck as often as they can And finally enjoy your children children- when they are little Most persons put off enjoying their children until they are grown which Is twenty years yearl too late because se no grownup is II a s millionth part as fascinating as Is II a little child I There Is no drama so Interesting Interesting as watching a little childs child's mind min unfold and no adventure so thrilling as trying to mold it its Hs character there here is no poetry so beautiful as a childs child's thoughts and no humor 0 irresistible as the funny things he lie does and says Pity the poor woman who gets getz no fun out of o h her r babies and who thinks binks It a bore to have to stay tay at home and take care of them And just Juat think Just think of this you poor tired wife and mother mothr who considers she Is la a failure because Ie she he cant can't keep houseas house houseas houseas as a rich stylish woman doe don does Just Juat think you have hava got seven chances of achieving fame fam and fortune for who knows know what geniuses what whit talents what potential achievements are hid hidden den In those thole seven little children of your yours DOROTHY DIX a S I S I S I EAR MISS I DIX DIX I have havo been married twenty five years rears Best Dest of 01 DEAR elves ves Everything always has haa been agreeable But one little rift nfl In z the lute My Idy wife says she isn't jealous but let some woman speak peak kindly of me or to me or let me do a favor for tor one and ii iiI itIs Is I all oft off for tor a a few days She sulk sulks and pouts and cries and tells me re other women come first What had I better do let her pout and andry cry ry ot or salve her over with kisses JACK Answer In dealing with wom women I am strong for the salv ulve alv method Jack Apply It with a liberal hand and with perfect dence dence In the outcome There Ther Is II I nothing that does dou doe so 10 much to atop top the squeak uk In the household machinery and make It 14 1 run smoothly I You cant can't argue arlle with Jealousy because it Is a form of insanity and ad so beyond the reach of reason All that you can do is to fill lill the IC Jealous one so BO full tull of ot compliments that Its crowds crowd out suspicion Besides thia thie Jack the woman who pout pouts generally don does donI donIt It Just to get her lip lips kissed Into a smile mlle again I DOROTHY DIX a C C 5 EAR r SEAR MISS DIX My DIX My husband and I 1 are devoted to one another DEAR but he has one fault that causes ausel me great creat unhappIness He lie has haa hasa a mania manta for tor running Into debt usually for tor things we could do wIthout such ich as a radio a new car etc He Ho worships his family and It ls is always ways something for tor jus Is is but we e have children who need the mone money he I Is always putting out for foolishness for tor their support We are hounded by debt collectors What can I do to make him see how bow rone 1 rong It Is to buy things we cannot afford aCord PATIENT WIFE Answer There Is no vice that is 11 I harder to curb than extravagance The Theople people ople who have a 8 mania for buying things seem unable to resIst whether need them or not or the e temptation to acquire to-acquire acquire things thing they whether bether the they can pay tor for them or not i The Th advantage of o thrift are r as obvious and the Inevitable fate fat of the thriftless aa so 0 terrible that It u seems tern m as a If It should hould necessary to point out to anyone any one above the tha grad grade of an Idiot the necessity of living well within enes ene's one Income But the spenders shu shut their eyes to the misfortunes they bring on themselves and their families and continue throwing away ay the money I that at would save them from dependence and want Inasmuch as money mony burns burna In the pocket of th the spender pender probably the best beat thing to do la 11 la to Induce Indue him to spend It Iton t ton on something worth while and as a he is II I never happy hippy he Is II In debt to beguile him Into going Into debt for a horns home hornor or good stocks or bonds In this way alone can un he ha h be In- In Induced induced In Induced to save uve sav without knowing It DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |