Show I Dorothy Dorothy Drothy Dix Dixs Dix's Letter Box I THE DISHEARTENED HUSBAND WHOSE SPORT POOR WIFE AMES BLAMES HIM FOR BUSINESS REVERSES REVERSE HOW TO TREAT A FINDING FAULT SISTER LAW SHALL SHE MARRY FOR LOVE OR LUXURY DEAR D EAR T EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am R a married man with a wife n-lt n and four chit chil- chila a dren I have hav been fairly successful In a IL business way but re- re recently re recently I have hav had bad reverses reverie which necessitated selling our home horn and which have hav forced me m to deprive my wife wit of o some om of ot the th luxuries to which she be ih has ba been accustomed My ICe Ife Is furious over the th situation She Sh nags cac nar at atme atme atm me all alt the time lime reproaches me inc m for tor bad man management o- o ment and m me even to th the children This has got rot m roe me Into such uch a nervous nervous state that I hav have about lost all confidence In myself and I am so mis- mis mil mil-erable that I have bay not the heart for tor the tb struggle J should hould make Do you think thIck she ih Is I giving me a fair tair deal par par- particularly particularly particularly as a I am devoted to her and anil the tb children 45 and have hav no thought but for tor their welfare 5 A FRIEND I r Answer Anwer An wr I think that your wife I Is giving you a rotten deal and that she I Is th the poorest sort ort DIX of sport Any woman Is I a shIrker r and a quitter who dont don't stand tand by her h r husband In hi mIsfortune and share hare his hll luck Ill with as a good a grace graco graca as ae she he sh did his hi prosperity Also she sh shows how that she ahe sh not only h has ha lack of heart h art but lack of sense ense ne because by hr hor conduct ho sh I is a doing everything possible to kill the goos goose that lays lay the th golden egg gg and keep you from ever evor vr getting on en n your feet fett again For she he h ii I breaking down your morale and when that I It Is gone gon everythIng Is II I lost 1 to lose lor money even eTen to have To have hav a business venture ventur go to awry to give up your home Is I bad of o course cour e but It Is Js only a passing mis mil fortune fortune to those thos who ho take talc It In the right spirit Often It Is I 1 blessing In dIsguise we e learn wisdom from our failures failure and when we find ourselves blocked In one on direction we w turn In another Many a mans man's man bankruptcy hu has ha been heen the th foundation of hIs hia fortune Many a mans man's man failure In an an occupation for which he had no aptitude has forced him Into the thing for which he had a genius But It Is only the th man roan who does docs doe not get eel discouraged who can profit by his hi losses lodes He H must keep his hi heart high He must still have faith In himself and It Is very difficult to do this It if he he has a melancholy wife wit at home who whines over her misfortunes misfortune and wet wet blankets every plan and saps lap his bli courage courar by her prophecies of ot disaster dl a tee ter The woman who wants want her husband to succeed must hold holdup holdup holdup up his hi hands hand She Sh must mut breathe breath fresh freih coura and hope hop Int Into him For that kind of a wIfe a man can go out and fight the world and conquer But Dut the th woman who ho sends tend end her husband to the battle hattie with his ears cars lull full of her lamentations over his failure and his hi heart bitter with the sense ense of ot her disloyalty hat haS ha no fight left In him He Is beaten before he h fires fire a shot weather Fair wIves are no better than fair weather fair weather friends friend A good wife I Is I a good comrade comrad who fight fights the th battle der der to shoulder with her husband and who when misfortune corn misfortune misfortune- comes cornu and h he ask asks Are we downhearted smiles back at him and shouts houte No I know you will win out DOROTHY DIX C e 0 0 0 S SD SEAR D SEAR DEAR EAR MISS DIX I DIX I have haTe a darling baby 3 years year old and a good husband But I have an old maid law ln who makes make life lICe miserable for tor me m She Sh tells me m that I dont don't know how bow to bring brine up my child chUd It If we w dance she sh calls call us u sports It If we w play a jazz record we are are ar minded low It Ie I say lay Im I'm sick tick I am lazy When I have hav been up three night and three days day ays with my sick baby she tells me m bow how old and haggard hafs-ard I look Everything I do and dont don't do she criticises My husband tells me to pay no attention to her yet bow how can I help It when she sh comes come to my house and Irritates me soT so What shall I doT do PERPLEXED WIFE Answer Take Tak your husbands husband's advice Pay Pay sy no attention to her hr The Th fault faultfinding faultfinding finding of ot such a woman oman Is I no more mor to be b seriously considered than the yapping of a little dog do at your your heels heels Jealousy and envy are at the bottom of your sitter in Ister In criticisms Jealousy and envy of your youth of your love for him of the th little arms around your nock nick Surely Sur ly when whon you think of that you can find it In your heart to be b sorry orry for herIn herIn her In her hr growing old with no one to care car for her with the certainty that no little head will ever lie II upon her breast As A long lone as you lint live live- my dear there will always be disagreeable people with whom you have to hav have hav contact people who do things that get tt upon your our nerves nerve people who criticise you and say y un un- un unpleasant un pleasant things to you ou and It depends depend upon yourself whether you TOU let these people make mak you miserable or not You can learn learl to pay no attention att to them to t attach no Importance to what they say lay to literally let It go O In one on ear arand and out ut of the tho th other so 10 that It me means mean n absolutely nothing to you Or else Is you can brood over It and magnify It and make such uch a mountain out of your that It It will shut hut all of the th sunlight out of your house Dont Don't do that Dont Don't fret yourself over what your Tour sl sister law lter ln law ler-In-law pays or does and dont don't worry your husband by repeating repealing her bet and remarks to him Forget what she the says fay Dont Don't argue with her Dont Don't try to defend yourself Any phonograph will run down It If not wound up And remember that there ther Is I no such burt butter buffer r for sarcasm as good goodnature goodnature nature It glances elance harmlessly off oct those thor who laugh at It Cultivate a funny bone bon In dealing with your dIsagreeable law law Inlaw You will really enjoy her hr after you come corn to see how ridiculous It Is I that the she could ever v r worry you DOROTHY DIX S 0 S S C S SD SEAR DEAR D EAR MISS DIX DIX I I am deeply deply In love with a young man who I Is just a poor hard working boy while I am a s gi cirl who has had every very indulgence Would you OU advise me m to marry this thi young youn man roan or would It be best for tor me to marry a man who can give five me m the th things that I now have have PEGGY Answer Anler S I It depends altogether th r on en what sort ort of f girl you are arc Peggy If you are on one of the soft oft oft luxury loving kind to wh whom ni fin fine clothes and a C good car and living on th the right street are are- matters matter of supreme Importance then thon I I should certainly urge you ou not to marry a poor man No love lore or tenderness or fineness a of ot character In a man can make maite up to that type hpe of woman for tor physical luxuries She Sh will be miserable without them and make mak the man miserable who ho cannot give them to her But If you are ar one on n of the th women who think more mor or of f a aman amm man than you d do of a pocketbook If you would rather be crowned with a good god man mans man's l love ve than th the latest thing things In French hats hate if you yu would rather walk with the th man you love than ride rid in a limousine with one on for whom you care nothing then merry marry your poor man But dont don't do It It unless you ou are ar a x goo good food sport port and are goIng to be beable beable babl able to make mak sacrifices ces without and work work- without considering yourself a martyr Dont Don't marry a poor man and thin thon nag him to td death be- be because b tI Gauss cause h he cant can't give you yu th the thing that that- thata a rich man could DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |