Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's LetterBox Letter Box I MARRIAGE MARRIAGE THE IMPORTANCE OF OF DISCUSSING MARRIAGE PROBLEMS BEl BEI BElFORE FORE THE KNOT IS TIED SHALL MISS TWENTY FIVE WHO HAS NEVER LOVED MARRY TO KEEP FROM BEING LOVELY LONELY HOW TO TREAT A SELFISH HUSBAND DEAR D tAR r EAR MISS Should DIX Should a young couple who are ar engaged discuss the problems of their future life lit together before they are ar mar mar- married married ried ned or should they wait walt until after alter the they are aro married to settle setti them t MARION IB- IB Answer If It you yu were going Into a business part part- parta part part-n a with a man mIn Into which you yu were were putting every cent that you yu had or ever ver cx x to have and ever every vry bit of your yur ul ul uland uland and body wouldn't you y u try to t have hav just Ju t IS as clear and definite an understanding about abut It Itu a u as possible e Wouldn't you want to know just what duties and 4 tot K obligations you ou assumed Wouldn't you want to t know what he be h expected of you t Wouldn't you OU want S to know what his Ideas were ere what his hla principles principles were and how b he proposed to manage tb the concern t tAnd And wouldn't you want to know just what hat ho he h wu was wuI I l nix lIX Investing in the dna and what sort of a division he ho proposed to make make of of the th profits and what hat your our status was to be In tho the business You wouldn't sign tie up a me life lit contract in an any soft sott of a business concern without looking Into l y It and asking the advice adrice of experts and calling In a lawyer to make mak out the papers paper so ao that you would get a square deal Why then go 10 blindly Into matrimony which i is a bust bud bustness business ness ness contract as well as aa a sentimental one on I think a great Ireat deal of unhappiness would be b saved It If every young couple cupl who are contemplating matrimony would wul only thrash out on the safe af side of the attar altar every svery very tub sub subject that affected their mutual life lite but if they would w uld have hav a good lawyer draw them up a marriage contract In which the dutIes and obligations of ot each to the th other ther was wu specifIcally set forth It might not be b possible to enforce all the pro pro- proVisions pr Visions c contract but hut It would certainly be b a useful dot doc dc umen to refer to in time times of domestic etress tr ss No man should marry a girl eirl for tor instance until he be b knows definite definite- definitely definitely ly ly whether she will do her ber part In making a home out of the monEl money he earns or not If It she sh Is career mad mad or society crazy and If it she sh thinks that the function of a husband Is merely to support her while she be amuses amuse herself in her own way ay a man certainly has the right to know If it before he commits himself for keeps Alto Alio a man hu has ha the th right to know before he marries marri a girl whether she ahe sh prefers Pomeranian pups to babl babies or r not net and what her views on n the money question are and whether she Intends to be a parlor ornament or a kitchen help and whether she sh will permit him a latchkey or not and how many of her relatives relative she propos proposes to t hive have pay her perennial visits Knowing these things hints he could either take her or leave leav her lie would at least know what he h wai was doing and he be would not suffer the awful shock of surprise he gets li when ho he h finds out that his hla regards matrimony simply in the light lI ht of a graft craft and that she sh don does donnot not propose to worry rorry herself about making him comfortable or giving him anything fit At to eat and that she ehe considers that all he hO Is good for forIs torIs la Is just to make mak money moneT fo for tor her to spend and take tak her herout out to places of amusement Certainly no no girl should marry a man who will not make a definite agreement with her before marriage man to te give her sit an allowance for the th house andone and one on for her own personal cx- cx ex expenses who will not promise to take tak her out ut at least once a week t to some place of f amusement and who will not bind hImself to spend mot most of ot hIs hla hi evenIng at home For many of the men who swear at the altar to endow their wives with all their worldly goo goods food la begrudge their wives wins Street car carfare carfare caare fare Many a man thinks that being belne married to him I Is all the enter enter- entertainment any woman could want and and and many a lover who ho drew the most alluring pictures picture of the sWeet sw et little UttI home horn they would have ban never comes home until every other othel place is I closed up So my advice Is I to find out all you yu can about but the th views ot of the th man or woman you are ar about to marry before batore b fr the fatal knot I la Is tied tied- tie Even then there will crop Up enough tan tan- un unexpected expected quirks quirk of temper and temperament t to keep you In Ina Ina Ina a state stat ot of f amazement till your yur dying day DOROTHY DIX S e C S S SD SEAR I DEAR D EAR DOR DOROTHY THY DIX DIX- DIX I am a young Toung woman 25 years year old I have havea hava hav- a fine position with every very chance chanc for lor promotion Here Her Is my m problem A man dan man whom I like and admire wants to marry me but I car care nothing for him I have hav never been ben In love lov Shall I marry this man who loves me ma m or shall I keep kep my position and walt wait to see aee se If IC I ever a man I love It la is I all alt right now to be unmarried but It Is ii I the years after 40 that I hate to think ot of spending alone slone alon BETTY DETTY Answer It la is i foolish of you yu to despair at t 25 of f fatting falling In l love vt Y You Yeu have only come corn to years the In which a woman I Is I really rally caps capa- capable ble of the grand passion Up to t that time tim It Is I only mushy calf calt love that gIrls girl feel And you are ar lucky to t have hav u as- as u d that So I should hould certainly urge you not to marry this thi man titan whom you do not love lov for tor there Is every chance chanc In the th world that before long your real mate mat will III come along and you will want to betre befree be be- be free tre to take him Instead of being bound You dont don't want to be b held b ld by every tie of honor and duty to a man that you will hate bate when you realize that be he stands stand between yo you and happiness Believe me m Betty marrIage man I Is Ie no n picnic for fr women It Is full of sacrifices and suffering of self denial of f work and lf worries and nothing n on earth arth mak makes make It worth w rth whIle except a love lov for a man so 0 great that It makes make you feel that you would rather have hav a crust with him than a feast feut f a t without him that makes make an any labor a pleasure If done for hIs hla hi sake like ke and that causes you to feel that lit life without him I Is cInders ash ashes end Ind dust You have a a good position Yo You are ar doln doing dolne the th work you enjoy Your life Is I full of interest You have hav Independence and money These are ar mighty good things s to hav haye Betty And you should hould be b very ver certain that you are bead head over heels heel In lOVe lov with any man mall ma before you give them up for tor him lithas And dont don't worry about the th years yar after 40 Every phase of life Jle has Its It own particular joys and Interests and you will be b Just juat as aa keen about things thine at 40 10 and have hav just juat as good a time Urn doing them tb m as yoU yo have hav now Th The chances hance's are r that If 1 yu you dont don't marry yu you will k be no nomore nomore n more mor lonesome than you will Will Will-bc will will-b be If yu- yu do d marry Look L about aut you and see aee how many middle aged men m n are ars ar chummy cumy with their middle aged wIves I It Is I a g eat thing to t marry If yu you find the th right man min But it is ia i a lot lt better bettT to f be b single than to t marry the th wrong one on n And th the r ar are no compromIses In matrimony DOROTHY DIX S e DEAR D EAR r BAIl MISS HISS DIX My DIX My husband goes g oes e out to the th movies three and an and four tour time week I have hav two a small children and when hen I ask alk as ashim t him to mind them so eo that I can co go to see ee se a picture he h refuses ruses and i says ayS that a womans woman's place Is i In the th home bome horn with witti her children Do you think he Is right MRS 0 O C Answer An wr I I certainly do d not I think he Is I monumentally selfish and unfair The Th children are r Just Juit as a much his hi ag i they h y are arc yours youra arid ard It Is II just Ju t as a much hla hi duty to f take tik care car of f them now nw and then an and give you yu a rt rut and md a change chang a II as It I Is your yur duty dut to t look after afler ft r them most m t of of f the th time tim A right thinking man should not only feel leel that It I Is lila bl duty to t mind the th children sometimes but that It Is la also aIle a privilege because It gives him dm an an opportunity to get acquainted with them and all In In- In Intimacy li between parents and children has haa to begin In 10 the th cradle cra le You cant can't win tb the confidence of grown halt girls eirl and boys bors It has bit to begin i in the pillow fight days daya day The Th great trouble In thi this county country Is I that our children have too teo much ma and not ft enough nugh pa Give your yur husband i chants chanc to t rectify thi this by sneakIng out ut of the th back door dr yourself and an going ging to t the th movies movie leaving th the babies on n hi his hand hands H He wont won't desert them And he h will nally really like lik It when he h gets gell acquainted with them th n DOROTHY DIX Copyright by 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