Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box I THE HUSBAND WHO IS TOO COWARDLY TO MAKE A WILL CAN THERE EVER BE A SECOND LOVE AS STRONG AS THE FIRST THE WIFE WHOSE CRUEL HUSBAND CALLS HER DEAR INSTEAD OF MARY DEAR D TAR DOROTHY Why DIX Is It that some ot of the most devoted husbands with the most moet deserving wives cannot be Induced to tomake tomake make out an insurance policy or make a will T My husband and I are everything to each other and during the dozen years I that wo we have been married we have worked shoulder to shoulder I have sweated every penny and as ti- ti tithe the result we have a nice homo home on which we wo are paying and some good stocks tacks which are of ot course In his name But I have never been able to Induce him to make a will and so It he died I would only p have bao my widows widow's portion I know my husband ants me to have what he has and what I have helped to tomake tomake make just as much as he but he just cant can't bring himself to make a will What makes a man treat y 1 the woman he ho loves this wa way y MRS MRS- THRIFTY 3 Answer It Isn't lack of affection for you that u keep keeps your husband from making hi his hie will Mrs Mn Thrifty It I Is II because he I Is II a coward vv un Iwho 01 L I- I who lacks the courage to face the fact that he must one day die He cannot bring himself to visualize his own end as al he I is bound to do when he make makes r I Irwill a will wili Many men have this same feeling and It keeps them from mak making ing their wills wms and taking out any life Insurance They stultify them themselves selves by pretending that they can evade ende the common fate of mankInd by refusing to recognize that It can ever come to them and so 50 they die leaving their affairs affair In disorder and working a grievous wrong to their wives and children It I Is every mans man's man bounden duty to protect his wife by taking out as u much Insurance as u he can afford to carry and by making a will that will take Into consideration his hll wife's personality In a case such as II yours where the wife I Is a good business woman and know knows how to handle money It I Is safe ufe to give her the money outright but where the wife Is a woman who knows knowl nothing of financial matters and who Is likely as ill not to sign ign a check cheek Yours affectionately the hu hus husband band should leave her Inheritance safely tied up In a good trust company Such woman are the predestined victims of every sharper of at their vicinity All the grafting neer ne'er neer ne'er-do In their family use their tie of blood and affection to borrow money from flom them Pious gentle gentle- gentlemen gentlemen men who come to pray with them In their affliction remain to prey on them talking Glib bond salesmen Induce them to sell gilt edge gilt securities and Invest In ast schemes that promise 60 50 per cent and pay nothing And the black sheep children who are always In trouble hom mother molher Is always paying out of their scrapes eat up the estate and the tho good children not only get nothing but have to take care of at mother In the end All of ot these things a man should take Into consideration in making his will And it if he has money to leave lesve to his daughters he should tie it up so good and fast for tor them that they cannot give It to their husbands Thereby will he save them not only their fortune but theIr peace as well For no woman can refuse to give her ber hus hue husband husband band her mone money and live In peace place with him but he cant can't argue with papas papa's will Certainly It I Is every mans man's bounden duty to make a will willand and if he wont won't do It of his hll own accord It Is hi his wife's duty to make him do It So my advice to you Mr Mrs Thrifty Is to have your husbands husband's lawyer come to the house some eve evening ning In the immediate future and draw up the Instrument then and there All your husband needs I Is Just to have his courage Jacked up a bit And he will be a as pleased as punch after the ordeal I Is over and he finds he IS is still alive DOROTHY DIX S S SD SEAR EAR DOROTHY DIX Do DIX Do you OU think there here isa Is a second love Jove ove Can aman aman a aman DEAR D man or woman who have hae loved a wife or husband and lost them by death marry again and love as they loved the first ones INQUIRER Answer Certainly the human heart Is capable of loving more enore than once and in many cases cues the second blooming of love Is more beautiful more fragrant and more satisfying than the first This Is particularly apt to be the case when hen men and women have bave married when hen they were very young Their tastes then were unformed They had not come to themselves and did not know what they wanted In a wife or husband and as they developed and their sense or of o values changed they found that they had bad outgrown their wives wl and husband Appreciation ot of the other ones one's good tenderness points points tenderness pity the bond that binds together the man and woman who have hoped and struggled and planned together who have bave gone through the agonies cf C birth and death together the memory of their early love kept them still fond of at each other kept them from really analyzing their feelings toward each other and made genuine the tho tears they shed hed over the ol of the dead wife or husband But when they married again they were able to give to their second wife or husband huband the choice of their maturity a depth of passion a completeness of devotion an utter oneness of soul soui that the first love never called forth Then too we love people for different things and It is quIte possible for a man to have loved one wife because she was gay and beautiful and frivolous and another wife because she was practical and sensible and domestic and made him hi comfortable and for a woman to have been devoted to her John who was a money maker and gave her limousine and pearls and to Adolph who Is romantic and feed feeds her soul on poetry and sentiment Perhaps we grow In wisdom In love with experience II as we do In other thing things Certainly second marriages are much more mere apt to be happy than than first first marriages DOROTHY DIX S S S S SD SEAR EAR MISS What DIX DIX What is your opinion of ot a husband who tor for thir thir- thirteen thirteen thirty DEAR D ty teen years has neglected to call his wife b by her Christian name knowing all the while that It has hurt her deeply During our en- en en engagement my husband formed the habit of calling me Dear and he never uever uses my name although he knows this hurts me terribly and mortifies me greatly I have havo tried every way in the world to break him of this habit without avail and my last resort Is writing this let letter ter to you Perhaps when m my husband sees It It and your reply he will change MARY Ii Answer Anwer I trust he will Mary and I think he will because It wIll probably make him realize for the first time that a sane woo wooman wo woman man could make such a mountain out of a molehill But you ou certainly put it all over the pampered princess who had to search under her forty mattresses of ot ease to find a a crumpled rose roseleaf roseleaf roseleaf leaf It If you have nothing to object to In your husband except that he calls you Dear Instead ot of and Mary Mary and yet you let that make you miserable you are are- certainly a trouble hunter from way back Take the blue ribbon as the champion Nobody will dispute It with you Most Mot women would be pleased to death to have a hus husband band who called them Dear and who thought of them con con- continually with such luch tender thoughts that they ceased to have havea a moniker as a woman and were Just something Infinitely precious and near to them something dear and sweet Sup Suppose pose pOlO you had a husband who coupled an Insult with your name or called you vile names name or even addressed you u as asSay Say you Then you would have something to complain of I haven't much sympathy tor for you Mary All the pity I have got goes out to your husband And listen dear if It I were you I would go and consult some real good alienist DOROTHY mx DIX Copyright by Public lublic Ledger Company |