Show DOROTHY DIX TALKS B t DIX the Worlds World's Highest Fold DONT ARGUE DONT DON'T MEDDLE AND PUT THE SOFT PEDAL ON YOUR SPEECH SURE RECIPE FOR A PEACEFUL HOME WOMAN writes I me that lier homo l is a a place of o A find and discord and strife Str wants ants to kno know bow to pour oil on lite doubled waters aters and still the and nd establish an atmosphere of serenity and peace Well there are three thre rules for tor waking a peaceful home h me mel l To follow them requires nerve grit an ironclad self control and more inor ifS readiness to sacrifice ce oneself than 3 or f us possess P I 4 1 7 But Dut the lh are guaranteed to any woman oman who is willing to pay the price j I The dove o of pence peace will ilI roost above her door and nd all who ho go her home will 11 bAr r it as a haven haHn ot of lest In a storm tossed y- y Sw sS The first rule for making a peace peaceful ful home is not to argue The Th only thing on earth that an argument IS good for Is to rile the th temper and start a quarrel Nobody was wat ever convinced by an a but ev everybody who engages in one gets collar and says things he DOROTHY DIX hot in the or she didn't mean and is more than he or she was stubbornly set In his or her own opinion before wasI I T in lD any family tilde is as good for tor a spat and A IllatIon aud ud recrimination and a woman oman and a huffy man manas mans it is both sill and as a R nickel is for a ginger cake So to Indulge in one The bl table argument that a man sore soro and irritated with his wife fe sends many a husband to a pretty stenographer 10 be b ted and nattered bick Into complacency The breakfast able argument that leave lea a woman with ith a bitter sense or injustice herself herse toi fOI hat rankling in her mind makes many a woman revenge Bhe considers her brutality by in some piece of el extravagance ra with dynamite It Is sure to so go oft off In Inan inan To 10 argue arpie Is like pia plains Ing an that things nines and so it is past comprehension lOn hy otherwIse sensible people should Indulge in such a dangerous dan erous p And any ay is a mean sport that is 18 an IndIcation I of an 01 o and t l l disposition t r FT For when all is said why should we try to force our Ions our point of f view our religion and our ur politics en on oth yer I erst 7 Surely they have just as a much right to t their own faiths and beliefs as we have to o ours Unhappily there ther are people who ho are born with Ith disputatious dis dispositions llo and to whom hom an argument is pie pl md Ice cream but even they can be b circumvented for tor It tikes takes two to hold a debate and it if you vou let Jet them make mak their assertions they tall fall flat and lifeless There is no pep lit In argUIng when hen nobody Is Interested enough In our statements to contradict them Silence Silence is the best weapon with which to puncture any gas bag Just try refusing to argue arcue any question whatever and iou ou will be perfect amazed at the quiet and harmon that will ill settle setti like a down 01 er the th house and iou ou will marvel Barrel el e en more at athow athow how much friction it sales our own O and tempel The second rule for making a peaceful home Is to give the soft answer that turns away wrath This Is pretty hard to do because the natural human instinct is s to fight back hen we are attacked But it doesn't pay pay with women for in n the domestic scrimmage the wife and mother nearly al always I ways gets the th worst of It It a woman oman ii h unlucky enough to be married to a man SUPPOSE is a charter member of o the Knockers Union When he criticIzes she has don done she can start bT bv defending herself her and him what hat she thinks of a husband who ho neier neler speaks of his wife does except to find fault with th It But what can he say what hat can be he do Ec except t be b ahamed ot of himself it If he has a hber of decency in him it he says that she Is sorry that she didn't please him and that she to dp better next t time There are mighty few people who ale aie cowardly enough to attack a genuine pacifist and ou simply cant can't put any punch in a aper per on who ho admits his or her shortcomings and is anxious to tone Atone for Just oppose ang anger r with ith gentleness meet impatience and lIP leason with reason and the Jizzi out like a spent firecracker And Anda all ays the one I who ho can control his 01 her temper dominates the sit situation The third rule for making a peaceful home Is not to t med med- meddle meddle dle The chief source of discord in family life lit r 8 the lack laek of personal liberty Because people are ar bound to each other by bythe bythe the ties of marriage they consider that they have a perfect right to supervise even the most minute detail of the lives of those about them St arc aro ot of families in which no one can rise up or sit sitT sitf T A 1 do down n or eat a meal lacal or let get a letter leller or buy an all article of clothing In They liv live to a perpetual accompaniment of Why by don t OU go to bed hy dont don't ou set get up Whom is our letter leller from did ou get a blue blu dress Instead of a red one Why didn't ion ou do this Why didn't ou do that is more mor maddening Nothing gels sels peoples people's nen es so o on ge From are we so anxious to get awa And ills it is this per per- per ending nevel-ending interfering with the tastes and hab habIts habits Its of those with Ith whom we live that wrecks the pe ce of homes that husbands and wives to the loss of their mates and th makes children leave home Dont Don't argue dont don't meddle and put the soft pedal on your speech are the rules that never tall fail to make a peaceful home DOROTHY DIX light 1923 by Public Ledger Company |