Show II Dorothy Dix s 's Letter Box Boxx Box x I DOES DOMESTIC HAPPINESS DEPEND MORE ON THE HUSBAND OR THE WIFE HOW TO HOLD A GAY YOUNG HUS BAND HUSBAND CAN GRANDMOTHER A YOUNG WIFE AND AN OLD GRAND GRAND- MOTHER BE ADJUSTED IN TH THE SAME H HOUSEHOLD I DEAR DEAn EAR T MISS Our DIX DIX Our club has haa been discussing whether the hap hap- hap of o the home depends moro morn upon the wife or the husband Will you OU please give your opinion concerning this question S 0 O S CLUB CLUn r Answer v vIt It takes both a husband and a i wife a- a working In unison shoulder should r to shoulder to t tomake i make doit a happy home Neither one can do it alone It is if not man cone a one man or a one woman one xi r woman Job No woman can malc male a really happy home no andr matter how thrifty and Industrious how neat and r 1 orderly she may be or how well she cooks or how x continuously she wears the smile that wont won't come W oft off it if there Is s a man on OD the ho premises who Is grouchy 3 and tyrannical and selfish and stingy Nor Kor can a woman make a happy home It If she is married to toa toa toa a man who bo is not a good provider and of ot the wolf oll VIX Is 1 always howling oUtside the door Nor Kor can any man make a happy happy home no mat matter ter bow much money he lavishes upon It no matter how tender and Ithe kind and considerate he Is no matter If he Is aray a ray D of t sunshine it if he Is married to a woman who Is a shrew or a or a whiner or one who enjoys poor Joor health and who spends her time lying on the bed Instead of ot sweeping under It It A happy home Is a co operative mutual benefit tion tion into which both husband and wife must put their backs back and their hearts and their hands if they make It a success But undoubtedly the happiness of the home depends depend more up upon n the woman than It does don upon the man because making the home Is her part In the matrimonial partnership Upon Upon the woman depends the comfort the peace the cheer the atmosphere of the home A woman is la In the home all ot of o the time A man is in his home bome only andY a few hours a day so the home reflects the womans woman's personal Ity personality far fal more than It does the mans man's If It she Is bright and gay and tempered tempered good d and a good cook she can make some sort of cheerful home for her children Even Enn if it her husband Is a disgruntled sore sore- sorehead sorehead sorehead head But no matter how hate much money a man spends on his bis s home bome no matter how hard he tries to make it pleasant no matter matter- what his own charms and virtues he cannot make his home anything but a a place of torment from which his children flee It if his wife Is lazy and peevish and nagging Men are responsible for the well being of their homes Women are responsible for the comfort and the happiness of them and for the thc moral tone of their homes This Is I what causes cause homemaking making to be the greatest profession that any woman can follow and the one in n which she can achieve the greatest influence for every home sets aeta its Ineffaceable seal upon the child that Is raised in It DOROTHY DIX DEAR DEAn EAR r EAR j MISS I DIX DIX I am a young oung married woman with a bus husband band who Is also aha young young- youngHe o He Is Inclined to be wild while I am an old old fashioned fashIoned girl r I love to stay at homo home and sit by the fire while he wants wanta n to step out We Ve have e a car and every time he be goes out out outI outI I think that a he is s taking another woman driving r v ng Now I love my husband dearly and it would break my heart beart to lose him which I am afraid of ot doing although he says saS he loves only me What should I do MARY c C Answer Answerl You can take your choice between keeping up with that sort of a husband or losing him He has to be amused and If you wont won't play with him he will find some other woman woman who will will So my advice to you Is la to give up the hopeless task talk of trying to make a fireside of him When he sug- sug sug-gesta sug gesta going grab your hat and be on your way with him himIn In that way you can see that he doesn't go too far and when you are sitting on the front seat of the automobile with him you at least know that no vamp is getting In her dirty work Perhaps you will say aay that there Is s no more reason why you should sacrifice your our taste and go out with your our husband than there Is why he should not sacrifice his inclinations and stay at home bome with you There Isn't of ot course But nut It Isn't an abstract question ot of right or wrong that confronts you It Is a matter of at policy Whether he should be nailed to his own hearthstone or not cuts no Ice fee with a 8 man It I he Is Of ot a ga gay and pleasure-loving pleasure nature he heIs heIs heis Is going out where the bright lights beckon where the jazz bands bray where there is laughter and color and movement and excite excite- excitement excitement ment and his wife can either go with him and become his pal and companIon or stay at home bome and be neglected and forgotten Innumerable wives who might have kept their husbands lose lase them that way Men are bound to have companions ns They are bound to have women companion companions a In their pleas pleasure ures ure and If wives wont won't chum up with them there are al- al always al always ways plenty of ladies ready to take their jobs Job But nut you can have this for your that comfort comfort that If It you will go with your husband now later on he will come and sit by the fire with you For after arter a while be he will get tired of running around and and be be glad to settle down on the other side ot of the with you It Jt you have bave kept In touch with him The tragedy of so 10 o many marriages marriage is that the hu husbands bands and wives get so widely separated by the woman going her herway herway herway way and the tho man going his hi way that there Is a gulf fixed between them which no common memories and Interest can bridge over Dont Don't let that happen to you DOROTHY DIX DEAR kEAR DOROTHY DIX My DIX My wife died several years ago and left letl me with two children a It girl and a It boy who are now 11 it and to 13 years old My grandmother has been keeping house tor for me but I 1 want a life Ufa companion so I am thinking of o marrying again Would It be right for far my grandmother to continue living with us Would her presence inthe In Inn the home bome cause trouble between my wife and myself and between the children and their Could my wife and grandmother liv live livo peaceably under the same roof root Please tell me what to do WORRIED WIDOWER Answer Anwer I 1 dont don't wonder that you are worried with such tuch a problem on on your hands because there Is no way in n which It can be set let tied tied without causing suffering to some one It I Is I not fair to ask any woman to assume the double burden of being a stepmother and living with an old woman Either one on calls for endless self self sacrifice endless patience endless forbearance endless service and the two together would demand more self abnegation than even a female angel Is capable of il Halt grown Half grown children such yours s as yours are difficult d to manage They are impatient ot of o the authority ot of o even their own mothers and a stepmother must handle them with great tact and discretion If Jt she gets along with them theom at all Your wife fe might possibly do this If It she were left leCt unhindered but the case would be hopeless with their great grandmother continually interfering No old person In the world can keep from giving un- un unsolicited un unsolicited solicited advice There ti la no old person who I Is not perfectly assured that he or she is a second Solomon who knows It all So you OU need not hope that your our grandmother will be content to sit on the tho sidelines and let lct your wife manage the house and your children Certainly Certainly ly you should marry You need a companion and your children must mutt need a mother sadly but there will be no no peace In your house with two women in It with such tuch a dis- dis dis disparity parity of age and outlook You will have to choose between hurting grandmother b by finding her another home and sep sep- separating ep her from the children or loneliness for yourself DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |