Show I DOROTHY DUX TALKS I lly BI nix DI th liu World Worlds s highest Paid raid nn IF YOU ARE UNHAPPILY MARRIED MRS WIFE STOP BREAKING YOUR HEART OVER YOUR HUSBANDS HUSBAND'S FAULTS YOU CANT CAN'T ALTER ALIER AND MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO ENJOY TO THE FULL HIS GOOD QUALITIES I VENT ENT Into matrimony with all a romantic girl cirl a Impossible Ideals B I said a serene faced woman the other day day- day I I usa vaa as madl madi passion passion- passionately In love I 1 actual believed helleved that I was as getting a demigod for lor a husband and anti I I nc ne cr had ad a suspicion but what hat e wf y ni P dlF 4 would lead a laIr fairy book sort of or life st r SS Well Wll It didn't take me long lone to bo be b Jolted awake out of my trance of bliss and to findo find i o out that t my y husband had all cli of the usual usual yS rt r faults of the masculine temperament and then some tome The shock of It nearly killed me And R S w f c i instead of our home being belg a haven havn of peace sid and ad quiet it was w a bloody blo ly battleground on F which there waged perpetual civil warfare l lt FOR fOR OR of course I felt It m my duty to reform my say bus hus husband band and to fo force ce b by Ideals upon him and shen hen henI F K sK i 1 I T failed In doing th 3 I brat beat upon my breast and wait all 9 J ed c out t that t I I was vas of all women omen most mot miserable rable And AndI An I I grew crew hatS hatS-frd and neon Denous au and lost m my looks and LUIU buU II S I lia all nil my zest In life Finally one day a great light dawned upon me and I realized what a fool I was in kicking against the pricks which only made my own shins thine sore and accomplished no earthly good lood Thereupon I went into executive session and had it out with myself I I 1 CANT CAN'T change John but I 1 can change chance myself royse-IC I said Bald Aa As long lone as asA aslie a aA A ho lie 11 lives thea es he Is going to be bt eRk we k and Indulgent and pleasure pleasure- 5 41 A 10 Ing lie ICe II Is going going- to drink too loo much liuch ever every eT ry stow now and aad then lIe IIo Is going to play poker And he iso is alway al ays going to be bo a allda ama a petticoat chaser I can t help that th th t It Is bred d into his character I have worn vorn myself Into a n to lead him up to the th higher life liCe at he balks balk I 1 cant can't reform him so I am going to reform myself I Iam Iam Iam am going to cut out the tho self pity and dry my tear tears I am going to quit worrying over things that I I cant can't help and make the most of the things that I can help There are going to be no nomore more arguments remonstrance reproaches reproach s in my house if I have to chew off my tongue to the root roots to keep silence when I I see John doing things that I I think he should hould not do V other faults fault John may ha e hai e he Is a good pro lder pros p o Ider I 1 Iv have bave a comtoi table home an assured position In society and anc above all I have my children And AmI I am going to get set something out ot of life Instead of oC letting lettine It become a total loss lost I am going to oah al age what Is la left of or my happiness and it If I I dont sa sae e a e the hole ear cargo carso o Ith whIch I shipped as a bride wh vh mighty fe fw fey ot of us women get set through with Ith our entire park par ot or dreams undamaged So I quit worrying Oh yes yet you can if you will When you make up your mind that you cant can't alter something that you dont don't like and decide that perhaps It Isn't your job to alter It anyway accept the inevitable you cease ceas to fret overS f it And let me m assure you that when a woman quits trying to tobe tobe tobe be the guardian angel of her husband and to make him over according to her own little plans and and takes him a as Is as shipping manifests say Gay of a bale bat of goods why a peace that passes understanding descends upon herSI her I CHE Is no longer loneer herself out on an Impossible task to to Ing SHE SI 3 to matte make a silk purse out of oC a sows sow's ear as the tho homely old phrase goes loes She no longer longor struggles and strives to change and am and habits that thaI are just as much a part ot of him as the color or of hi ees or his bis hair So she the can enjoy whatever good qualities he lie has ha and and no man is boil bad bad- bad bad and nd ease sa e breaking her heart over his had bad ones Certainly our home has been a changed place since tince I I put this new plan into operation There Is no friction In It any anymore anymore anymore more because I I never offer a word of criticism on my bus hus band hus-band bands band's conduct no matter mailer what he does If he comes home well and good But if he stays away I know he Is at some someplace someplace place that he enjoys more than he does doe in hit his own home and ho Is welcome to be b there I do not sit up and wait walt for him with burning in my soul toul and a curtain lecture on my lips I do something agreeable and entertaining myself I 1 1 have got back my health and poise polte My nerves nerve are quiet Instead of being on edge edg as z they used to be I I am cheer cheer- cheerful cheerful circle about me roe I make a ful tul and draw a large and agreeable qUiet peaceful happy home for my children to grow up In and thousand times better solution of It seem seems to me that this is a the unhappy marriage proposition than divorce Is I SEE SEC many many women woolen who might follow my say example nith profit I I know h vises es who vho fret frel themselves Ives into nervous ns 0 oser er husban husbands untidy habits and I yonder wonder that the they ne neer ne er realize how much Jess less wear and tear it would be on their systems to pick up Is js be alwa alwais in a row ro and clean Tip lp p after a slouchy man than It to lo S 8 1 Itu him o cr a s bad habit C I I know Mires lives who ho worry vorry themselves into Inlo being hags bags oser OHr o er their husbands smoking or thir tn lr lodges or because their husbands wont won't take them out to places ot or nent and I al always feel leel lik Ike sang sa to them My My poor foolish foolish titters sisters quit beating yourself your elf up against a stone wall Shut Shut your eyes eyet to the th things you dont don't like In your husband You cant can't alter him Accept the Inevitable Take him hum as he h Is and you will save tave yourself and your home and your happiness DOROTHY DIX right Ledger Company |