Show 0 DOROTHY DIX TALKS TALES Ey Dr 11 U 1 Ile III Il Worlds World's orl ls l's Highest raid IS omen NO OTHER RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN CAN TAKE THE PLACE OF MARRIAGE FOR LOVE IS MADE UP OF FINER THINGS THAN ROMANCE AND PERSONAL FREEDOM r A YOUNG w woman oman oman ot of o my acquaintance refuses n fuses to marry tho the A AYOUNG young oung man she Bhe 10 loves ores es and who alto ho 10 loves loses es her and wants wante ants to marr her she belle es that marriage will kill hill 1 their love She Sho offers lice Ih e with him without benefit of clergy as Mr Ir KIp KIpling ling hug would say as bho bhe is convinced that there Is 15 magic about the illicit relationship that thit keeps lovo love sv avs al a s at fever heat and nm miraculously preserves presence es romane mane mane- mance manex x Silly girl Misled by the false teachings of hectic romances Little does she know of sl real life For the marriage tie Is the tie tit that binds men and women together not the loose i red ribbon of fancy and where you can show me one couple of lovers who have been faith faithful ful to each other for thirty or forty years I 1 pI will show you a dozen middle aged married cY couples who love each other better than they did on their wedding day Y vis DIS IT TT IS true that marriage is the death o of love lose for many roan men and women omen but the tact fact that they were legally bound to each ench other had bad nothing to do with such killing their 10 love loco 0 and blight blighting Ing their romance It vias 1 as the disillusionment of ot association that did It 11 ItMan Man of o the gods that we sae worship from rom afar we e find have hale feet o of clay when we ne draw near them There are thousands of ot people 1 who ho are beautiful at a n distance but plain and homely at close range who ho fat fa as us for tor an hour but who ho bore us to tears If it we get an 0 o of theft theli society who awe s a 1 e us vs with their noble sentiments until wo Soo e find them holding out their street car tare fare Toe real proof of love Is Its ability to stand the wear and tear of dally daily life and to survive curl papers and unshorn faces and poor dinners and cigar ashes on the best rug and the first of the month when the bills come in and sickness and and nerves and an l temper r and funny fussy little ways tu ue This aCid test t et of love lov comes Just as much to the man and woman who are living to- to together to together gether unconventionally as it t does to the orthodox couple who have had a big church wedding and who are living In respects respectability respectability bilty andin and in ID the midst of bridal presents AND AND the regular marriage will stand the strain far tar better than the th irregular union for the tendency of ol marriage Is to promo promote to love loveI lather ather I than to diminish It There I Is something In the very sery cry kno knowledge ledge that we have bave made our choice of o a life partner and must abl abide lo by it ft that unconsciously ly draws us closer to him or her and that causes us uto to try to make the best of our bargain and e exalt alt its II lues and blind es to its faults On the other hand the man and woman who are not mar reed to each other who are free to go whenever their theor fancy changes have always a roving eye and are on the lookout for some more attractive mate In their hearts they know that their romance will not last so they are always restless and dissatisfied They arc are never settled The difference between the married and the unmarried lovers is that between the householder who owns his own home in which he knows he Is going to live for years and the renter who has always the moving ng ing van in the back of his mind rA iLSO human vanity sanit is to bo be taJ talen into consideration that ALSO LL of men To fa the tho man the mere fact that he has picked a woman out for his wife Ife and given en her his name raises her value salue a hundred per cent in his estimation and gh gives es her charms charm and qualities which she did not possess before She is pact pait of himself and there ore are dear to him hm Many men are not faithful to their wives but the man who is untrue to his wife would be untrue to his mistress and the theman theman theman man who would tire of his wife would tire also of his mis mis- mistress mistress tress The horse you tie may not always stay hitched to the post but the one you leave loose is sure to roam illicit relationship does doCs not promote love It kills it because there THE are none of us strong enough to 10 defy public opinion To be We must ha have base e the approval ot of our fellow fello creatures es Wo We must ha have hate e corn com No two o people suffice for tor each other each other ther no matter how hors con con- congenial congenial genial they al ate aie e When a woman finds other women drawing their skirts away from her when old doors are shut to her and old friends cut her when a man finds that other ether men him askance and make sneering remarks about his little establishments then they begin to count the cost of what they have done and think It Isn't worth the price And when you look at the price tag tagon tagon tagon on love it Is limy tim to send for the coroner and the undertaker You have a corpse on your hands rP there are the children Our conscience bars bringing THEN little hUle ones Into Inlo tho the world arId The bond that baby hands bands forge behl between pen penman man and woman oman is one of ot the strongest ties tics on earth It holds couples together and makes ordinary men and 1 women omen see ee each other glorified because they are arc Bobbys Bobby's and Mamie's fathers and mothers Romantic 10 love lose e pales into insignificance before the oneness that many persons with sith Ith children en come to feel for tor each other of Passion and romance Love isn't made up anyone any one thing and freedom have their parts but so have pride and the sense of possession and the respect of ones one's fellow creatures and a decent observance of the conventions And all of these are fos fos- fostered fostered by marriage not killed by it Marriage is not a perfect institution but it Is the is-the the best scheme that civilization has yet been able ahle to make for the rela relationship of the sexes And It Is a womans woman's only safeguard DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1925 b by Public Ledger Company |