Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box ADVICE TO A COLLEGE STUDENT IN LOVE WITH A WEALTHY MARRIED WIDOW CAN A TEMPERED HIGH MAN WHOSE WIFE HAS LEFT HIM PERSUADE HER TO RETURN SHALL A GIRL WITH A BASHFUL SUITOR POP THE QUESTION DEAR D EAR r EAR DOROTH DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am a oung college student and ond have base ha e fallen J madl madI In 10 lovo loo a with a n 1 woman oman Mho ho Iio is flie III e vears ears rn m I senior ThIs womans woman's woman hu husband band is very rich but sho ho does doe not love lose him blin I feel that I can help her very much by filling her empty life but II If I do I Ift ft aill lose Icse the respect of ot mv friend What shall I do J D Answer Why J D 0 the best belt thing you can do Is I r Just Ju t to sit elt t down and have a 1 good laugh at atH 1 lo yourself and realize that what you are suf suf- suf tuf A- A I H fering Is Ic not the tho th pangs of love lov but growing pains Virtually 1 rv boy in the world arid goes e es through the thell f AR experIence of o falling failing In lov ioe 10 e with wilh a woman oman older than A 1 ho Is ls It la Is the little boy loy need ot of a mother to cling l J y to that you haven't outgrown You will get over ItrI Ity I i and It lt wIll be b one on ot of those tender funny tunny memorIes of at o our that we w all ill put away in iri lavender and DOROTI DIX take tako out of their secret ecret drawers when we wo are old and smile at them thorn with a tear in our eyes eves e es and wonder how we could base bar been Io so o absurd It Is Ic lovely and nd chivalrous for you to want to help the th poor rich lady J D 0 but sho h probably doesn't need any help and Isn't as a lonely as ai you think she ll It When you are r ten years older and have cut your wisdom teeth on the th ways of women you wont won't bo be unduly depressed by the tho th hard luck tales of wives who complain that their th ir husbands dont don't understand them and nd are arnot not their soul mates You YOU will will have nav found out that that Is the th favorite device oT or married women of starting a flirtation And you can be very sure that this woman has no notion of giving up her rich hue hus hue band band for anything that a schoolboy has to offer her kl Moreover I think J 3 D she ah Is ll a pretty poor sport to pick out a aboy aboy aboy boy as young as you on whom to exercise her blandishments It Isn't cricket She should take somebody In her own ago aeo class J JIt It Is a cruel thing for a woman for the sake sak of flattering her vanity to play with a boys boy's heart He H gIves give her the purest and most unselfish affection a man ever has to give and when she he finally diSIllusions disillusion him the thc th star tar dust Is gone forever from out of his hi eyes and he always sees women a little cynically thereafter r Dont Don't make any for tor or this woman J D LI she Isn't worth It And six mouths months from now ou will have forgotten her and will III be ba pla- pla Inc log Ing around with sith some torn little girl cirl of o your own age are DOROTHY Dl DI Dr AR MISS DIX I DIX I am a young man who has been married file e years DEAR DAR D J and has a little son Be lie adores Unfortunately I ba have base e a terrible temper and friend wife wIte Is very ery set in her was wa s and headstrong We had many and she started going colne home to mother and nd lelling telling her all her troubles Being Beme human this Infuriated me and my wife's mother also being human told my to come home and stay star and she has done dono it It I love my wife and child better betler than an anything thing else on earth and am utterly miserable without them How can I get them back bacic again ain 7 I IAnswer Answer I I don dont t know ImO unless it happens that your wife ICe ate has had her lesson IW i 1 as you have hav had 3 sours ours and vou ou can persuade her to Ipe the slate clean and start all ocr o 0 cr again acain It Is a much easier to break up II a home than It is to rebuild it out of the fragments of wrecked hopes and lost il II II- II illusions and bitter memories And the patched up contrivance Is l never the fair and beautiful edifice that the house of dreams dreams was It is a pity that men and women omen cant can't realize this before It Is too late You cant can't e expect any woman to beery be very ery ery keen about coming back to toa toa toa a man who aho ho has a temper and who makes make matrimony a perpetual perpetual ual fight There Is nothing alluring In that prospect The Tho Th woman who Is married to a high tempered man knows the strain of always alway walking on eggs ggs to keep from saying ordo oi or do doing ing something that will v rile him She knows the th humiliation of having cruel and nd brutal things said to her that the man thinks that she should overlook because he said them when he was angry Not much prospect for happiness with a high tempered husband and It Is not strange that after once trying it and havIng got away from It the th woman doesn't want to go back to It But Dut often otten going come back to mother molher is not all peaches and cream either at Generally a woman oman finds ends that alter after she has run her hr own on house she does i r not fit ery ery comfortably Into anybody else's else house and that bIle mother ma may be for lor her she doesn't want to support her and the baby haby And sometimes sometime the that she is not Vi wholly either and that she sho might have been male moio patient and lag and used a lIttle more mor common sense in dealing with ith the situation And often she is big enough to be b willing to sacrifice herself for her ier er childs child's sake take takeSo So If you are really repentant and heartbroken Just go goto goto goto to your wife and humble yourself before b fore her and try to per per- persuade persuade suade her to come back for the boys boy's sake sak S DEAR DEAlt D EAR f EAR MISS pIX pIX-I PIX I am very much in love lore with a min mn who bo ho comes to to- to see me 1 every ery night but who ho will not propose to me I think he lie Is isery ery anxious to marry me but bul he is too bashful to 10 pop the question Shall I 1 propose to him Answer An awe r rIf Answer It If the man Is In love lov with you and desires to marry you he will do the proposing No man ever hesitates to ask for what he wants When women ImagIne that a man hides his love they kid themselves But if you cant can't lead him up to pop pop- poppIng popping popping ping the question by Indirect methods ask him his IntentIons rather than waste wast any more time tim upon him But I 1 warn you he will probably say No DOROTHY DIX Cod COl right 1925 bv by Public Ledger |