Show DOROTHY SIX DIX TALIS TALK ff Fr 1 DOROTHY DIX the be Worlds World's Highest raid Pall WOmAn Writer HUSBANDS AND WIVES RESENT RESENT EACH OTHERS OTHER'S CRITICISM BECAUSE CACH EACH HOPES TO APPEAR PERFECT IN THE EYES EVES OF THE OTHERA OTHERA OTHER WOMAN asks me Should husbands and wises try tr to correct each eachL A others other's faults 1 Not unless they are to figure in the divorce court courtIn In the old fairy tales the cricket chirruping on the hearth was the symbol of domestic felicity The critic on the hearth la Is I something n else again and the min mm- minute yep e 1 ute it begins to peep that instant t kJ Reno Is put on the map of a mar married ned ried couple s pr R are lots of ot things that husbands re 1 and wives II will stand for tor from rom each other othere e but being corrected by the tho ho partners of o their ri ei t J bosoms is not one of o them They will willI wille e o unfaithfulness s and drunkenness r tf I and lying bine h and laziness end and shiftlessness q t but when Is comes to o having their wives lives t I hand nd nd husbands assume a superior air and andI 4 point out their little weak weaknesses t to them i w I the meekest Job and the tho most patient Gri- Gri v J I Isolda solda get their backs up and fight lIke liker r d Kilkenny cats 1 It Is in a gre great lt pity ply that marriage cannot cannot I DOROTHY DIX bo a mutual Improvement society because husbands and wives have baTe It in their power so often otten to sieve each other great groat help if only they would accept It IL It happens very frequently for example that a man marries a woman who come of ot a 11 much better family than he does doea and who has bas had advantages of ot education and social experiences that ho bo has not had The Tho man may have achieved great things He m may y have risen from froma a barefooted boy to a millionaire He may elicit our admiration in 10 ina Ina a thousand ways by his hin Initiative his energy hIs bis push We may love hIm for his IDS kindness and his generosity But Dut with all his virtues 1 his s grammar may be ba rickety his hia pronunciation faulty he may still sUII A eak cak in the tha idiom in which he was reared and run ran amuck among j e sliver at a dinner diner table r Ono would think that such a man would be glad to have his wife correct his mistakes and improve his table manners and so save him from making the blunders that people laugh at behind his Ms back But he h doesn't Any woman woman corrects corrects her husband garm- garm mar garm-mar mar and tells him which side of a spoon to eat cat out of or at her peril and there IS IG no surer way for her to lose his love than for her to try to break him of his provincial personal habits Polishing a rough diamond Is la no Job for a wife NOR MOR are women any more am amenable to criticism from Irom their husbands husbands 1 than men are from wifely criticism Many optimistic gentlemen who ho are arc themselves es educated and cultured marry pretty illiterate unrefined girls in the tho fond belief bellef that they will have havo no difficulty In InI I making their rives ves over according to their taste But Dut they find find that their slightest suggestion that wife should study and improve herself and that she the has bas anything to learn In de do deportment deportment is le met with such a flood nood of tears or storm of anger that the poor man never has the to make mako a second attempt to tor r se e his wife wito to his level Women wont won't learn of their husbands husband They will not profit by their husbands criticism Yet Vet many a wife would find that that she could make ends meet on her allowance and save herself half of her work If she would permit her husband to organize her house for her on the same tame on which he rune runs his business OF O F F COURSE perpetual fault finding Is an aggravation not to be J be Borne Dorne Eternal nagging about some little peculiarity the eternal knocking of ot everything one does will wear away any But this is far tar different from the constructive criticism that points out outto outto outto to us the opportunity to correct it It If we willAnd will willAnd And it is this helpful calling of o each others other's attention to their little weaknesses this giving of each of ot his or her ber greater knowledge and experience to the other and wives should be able to offer each other but that experience e experience soon Boon teaches them they can can- can ft do Curiously enough men and women do not net resent reGent criticism from strangers so 60 much as they do from their own husbands and wives A man will let another man tell him bluntly that he doesn't know what he Is talking about but he gets furIous If his wife put him right about his dates or his geography A woman will sit at the feet of another woman who tells her that she doesn't know what sort of clothes to wear but she weeps with rage if her husband intimates intimate that tier her hat Is too young for her and that her frock brings out every bad point In her anatomy the reason that husbands and wives are so o unduly sen en P attire to each others other's criticism Is because our vanity cannot endure to know that the tho one we lov by best and in whose eyes w we e most desire Ito to 10 shine sees our faults and weaknesses and knows us for tor the poor Imperfect human beings we are We had bad deluded ourselves Into be believing lIe lieving Ing that some one had on an affection for tor us so great that he or she was blinded to our shortcomIngs and we cannot bear to know that t Ibis Ws is 16 not true a Our poor miserable egO egotism makes us ua want to think that we have got our husbands or our wives wives fooled into thinking us without flaw or blemish and so we will not stand for the criticism that will help us us and we force fone them Into being liars and flatterers if they want to get along In peace with us imiCH is a 11 pity pitT all aU the way WIly around TV DOROTHY DOC DIli Copyright 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