| Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's LetterBox Letter Box Box I THE YOUNG BACHELOR WHO MAKES HIS HS HEAD RULE HIS HEART HEART THE HUSBAND WHO OBJECTS TO HIS WIFE EARNING EARNING MONEY BY HER MUSICAL TALENT CAN ADMIRATION CHANGE INTO LOVE r EAR MISS DIX y DIX My greatest desire has been hlen for or a home of ot my DEAR DEAlt D but I am afraid to fall la iu 10 love lose e with ith any girl because I am not In a position to think ot of o getting gelling married I know other young oung fellows who are married but I am not optimist enough about the future to take the Ole risk If It I 1 were ere married and hap happen pen cd to be out ot of work and there was no money monty com corn coming coming 1 ing In I would ouId get very ery disheartened Dont Don't you ou think I am acting I wisely sicly el In stud studying Ing my position first first 1 hEn I see so 80 many young loung oung married COil couples pIts pIt's In want I 4 sl ahas R s congratulate m on being single 51 ENGLISHMAN w Answer I I think you show not only good flood sense but good principle Mr Englishman In staying f single tingle until you have havo some good settled way of 01 supporting a family It shows that you toward women not tl have havo a chivalrous feeling to be willing to drag dma one ono down into poverty F real mans man's e and It also shows show that you have a sense of responsibility to refrain from bring brIng- bring DL DIX Ing inn children into the world wold whom you might not be abl able to feed ed and clothe In Intact Riches and luxury are not necessary to happiness In to marriage lad fact people who ho ho have hae to work ork ork and struggle together are generally bound together the closer by that experience But It Is la not sare sate to undertake the venture there is a margin of ot security No home I Is II a happy home In which there Is not bread and meat In the cupboard and warmth and decent clothing No home Is a happy home where the wolf howls at the tho door and the dread of sickness I AA- AA AAi or being i i in n out of work for a few where B HIV Ul w v r-v v g day days hang hangs like a sword word over the tho head of the family A single tingle man can shift for himself It Is the married man who looks at his wife old and broken and worn before her time with hard work and worry and at his children ragged and half fed fd who knows know the worst of poverty The poor man who marries before he can afford It never has a chance to get ahead because It takes all bo ho can mike m to support his lam II The single man has a better chance to lay by a little Ittle mone money and get Into a 1 better hetter position So wait walt until you can see cee your way clear clar to establishing a ahome ahome ahome home on a good flood sound financial platform It I is sad ead but true that matrimony has become a luxury in these days of the high cost of living loving DOROTHY DIX C C L Y H DEAR MISS I fIX DIX I am aIn a musician I teach music and play in My l l public ery cry ery often orten I 1 contribute as much toward the home as my husband does docs but hut every time timo I play even for tor money to spend on the home borne my ray husband Is perfectly furious f He curses like a madMan or else does not speak to me for eor several da das davs s sometimes a aneck eek or more I fairly worshipped him when hen we e e were ere roamed but lila his conduct has so eo disgusted me that I would Ita leave lease c him except e that I have havea a 11 child who is e exceptional and It Is 15 his welfare that I am distressed about as he Is 13 the tho average I work very hard and the be double strain of or my domestic unhappIness and nd my work Is breaking me mc down n Can sou OU throw any light on my y problem DISGUSTED WIFE Answer Your husbands husband's attitude toward your work Isn't unusual In fact most women who continue to follow their theu their professions after marriage find fund that their husbands take a very unreasonable position petition on the subject They want their wives to keep on with their work because they want the money the work brings In Inand and yet they are Jealous of the work It hurts their pride and vanity that they are not able to support their theor families alone as asmore asmore asmore more successful men do And so they hey take out their spite by ever er ob obstacle In InAe JIe he way ay of their wh wives wises es their careers and by being as dis agreeable about it as possible If It you will recall the women vou ou ha have base e known who ba have liae e continued to support themselves after acter ru m ou will hardly ber one whose husband treated her Iler decently t 1 Of course in time it is going to be bo an accepted thing for women to continue with professions profesSIon for which they thoy have talent talent and for which they have spent pent years fitting themselves And And men will grow out of their vanity and sympathize with their wives and encourage them in their life work as women encourage their husbands now new But that day has yet to dawn In your particular case cd WI Wife shY by do you not have bave it out with lIh your hush husband and and tell him that you will wilt gh give glio 0 up our work and leave lease him to support the unaided If it he lie objects to our money making That will brio bring him hun to his senses quickly enough nough If he Is I pot not amendable to reason rason why continue to stand hIS abuse Surely you could support yourself and your child and a man such as you describe your husband to be certainly Is not an uplifting Influence In a child childs child's life DOROTHY DIX S e S C CD CEAR DEAR y EAR DOROTHY DIX l DIX I do not believe in loi 10 love e myself but a dear D friend ot of mine thInks she Is in love lIh R a man ho bo has hab f marked that he lie admired her ber greatly Do ou think admiration can change Into love The thing people call love I maintain Is only Imagination but she dIsagrees with me Which one of ot us is right MARY Answer Anwer I II II I should say that all love begins begin in admiration but not all I admIration enda end In love W We can only love lovo those whom we wo adI admire ad ad- ad admire mire I I Beauty ot or fact face and form Intelligence gentleness s sweetness good good- goodness goodness ness flees that Indefinable thing we wt call charm call forth our admiration attract us to a woman oman omao and we conic come to love her age as ag we e e bee ee her hr h r mote mOle tt and more the embodiment or of o the qualities that appeal to us put gut on en the tho other hand we can admire a womans woman's good looks we can enjoy her conversation and respect her good qualities without having one throb of personal or desire for her So It Is I not Inevitable that a man should fall In love with a woman he ho admires Of course courso love lovo Is Imagination We endow those thoe we love lovo with a thousand grae graces and charms they thy do not possess Oth Other Otherwise wise none of us UI would be bo loved lovd DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 by 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