Show DOROTHY DIX TALKS nit Worlds World's Paid Won Woman Writer Rf 13 DOROTHY DOROrHY nl DI the th ALTHOUGH THERES THERE'S NO SET RULE FOR POPPING TION THE QUESTION TION T HERE ARE SOME POINTERS CHOOSE A ROMANTIC SETTING NEVER PROPOSE WHEN THE GIRL IS GAY AND SUCCESSFUL AND NEVER PROPOSE BY LETTERA LETTER LETTERA to tell him how to propose to a girl cirl whom A YOUNG man wants want mo me m A AYOUNG lie he li wishes to marry morry Lordson Lord n I cant can't do that Popping the th question I I one on of the th things thing that every II man has ha to do for himself bi and what hebe he be VI Sl says say depend depends upon the time the place and andT p A the th girl There I Is no set formula for make mak- makr making rS mak r i Ing the fatal speech pech Not Nor do the words that man u uses use matter The only requisites requisite l JP ft Hl are that they thy be spontaneous something t a J that bubbles a up from his soul real ral heart B stuff or else no girl will listen to it SS Iy tF fV F COURSE there ther Wl S wean a time tima nhen hen courtship t OF yf Ky A v was conducted according to Ho Ie In those B y vj das da i s a suitor first asked a father for his daughter's daugh- daugh thIs having h been ter's tor hand band In marriage m and t granted tell fell upon his hia knees before his lady love and taking her lily w white hand In his saId saidI HO V Adored Clarissa will wUl ou be mine I swear by DOROThY all the t gOds d etc ete c etc etc Ic Even ven as late ts the earl early enamored s swains ams still quoted poetry and took Byron and Tom Moore for tor guIdance But Dut In these jazz jazzy azzy days they do It differently and between ft S fox trot Irot nd a two ste step Tom casually remarks remark to Malsi Malsie Say kid you lo loOk good to toe me m M My Is Ia at the th door Lets Let's beat t it to the parson and joyride through me life together What say And alls all's ir well that know And Maisie says Surest thIng ou ends well For It doesn't matter what you say It Is just jutt th the way you say It Except for the th high faulting and Impractical tipS offered by novels novis the th stage staga stag and the th movies there ther la Ia I absolutely rio no guIdance for the tho th youth who wishes wish to sell himself as a matrimonIal proposition to a girl flirl For the one things that no nolean lean an ever tells I Is I what he h said wh when n he asked his hi wIfe to marry t him and the th secret ecret a woman carries with her to the th grave are arc the th words word her husband huband used when n he h popped th the question to her this Is because the man knows he bungled the situation PROBABLY P and arid that after r spending weeks thinking up lovely soulful speeches rhen the time lime came he ho swallowed ed his Adams Adam's apple ham hafti two Iwo or three times lines and gulped out a bald request unembellished d by an flower nOer nO er of rhetoric or poetry Certainly the Ur reason reaton why the th woman doesn't doesn t tell Is because she annot bear bor to even Ten remember her disappointment oer 01 0 er the shattering of the tho th dream ot of her life me Ever since Bine she sir was a schoolgIrl she ehe rh has coked forward to her one great treat moment when the tb m man man n she loved would uk ask her to be b his Ills In high hith romantic phrase and say things to her that she could treasure treasur in 10 her heart as long Ions as she he lived And then Ihen hen a henhe hen henho ho he proposes to her as it he be wore acre re asking for a second helping of pie It makes her want to say No no matter maHer how much she loves and wants him It I Is II a matter mat r of record that when a man asks a woman to marry arry him and she h accepts accept she the Invariably throws herself Into hIs hi arms arm and weeps weep on his hi breast The Th man thinks she is Ia shedding tears of Joy because he h has hu come across at last but such I Is not the th case cue She Sho Sh Is crying as If her hr heart would break because of the th way he popped the question and her fairy story under hIs hi humber r ten brogues brogue No I cant can't tell you how to propose to a girl son but I Ican Ican Ican can give you one on valuable pointer p r and that is to choose choos the psychological moment In which to do It If you want to win out men are aro ar sIngularly Insensible to the effect that environment MOST and her moods have bar upon a woman an and the result that many a lover over sets gets the mitten Instead of the glad hand it 19 1 just because he dido t S1 bae ba sense enough enouch to know when and where to speak and hen ahen and shere here to ke keep silent ellent Given a moonlight night with the waves breaking on the seashore I or or a long ride rid in a smooth going going- car through the th woods at or r a a secluded corner behind the palms In la a conservatory with the music pulsing In la the th or distance distance or a quiet evening together er an open and Lire fir and any woman will incline her hear to love talk and say Yes Ys If It she has any affection at au all for the man roan who ho asks aks her to marry him But Dut let the same tarn man pop the question as men do In the middle of the da across a beefsteak and onIon dinner or while the are dodgIng dodgIng I Ing automobiles on the street or on a crowded train and the th woman a ill say No every time out of o sheer exasperation at his lack of ot tact I sod and nd at his hit being such a bull in the china shop unless she feels eer certain tam that she the cant can't lh 11 e without him and that thaI this is the list hat call he be ill ever gh ghe g e hereto hento the dining car Never propose propos to a woman when she ahel hl Is gay and Joyous and at the th top tp of her success Then she I Is II sufficient unto herself and her thoughts are not of love and home horn but of furth further r pleas pleas- pleasures pleasures ures urea and triumphs Walt Wait until Lady Luck turns her back upon her and the she h Is 18 I needing sympathy and consolation and a good strong prop upon which to lean Then pr press your suit as fortune teller say oay Finally dont don't propose proper by letter It is ia a cowardly subterfuge fuge that every vry woman resents ALSO A Aa A It Is 1 a foolish throwing away jot of all the potent weapons of per peri personality perC tor for it Is much easier to lo write a refusal than It I Is to say i jt t when there ther are pleading e C es and lips 1118 lip to work their spell upon ay a a adoring ering heart y The sum of all Is son aon that you can say it any old way And If the th girl loves lovs you It goes and if she the doesn't no do- do elo eloquence quence avails And that that's all there is la to It DOROTHY DIX I 1924 by Public Ledger Company |