Show I Dorothy Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Letter Box I HAS A MOTHER THE RIGHT TO DECIDE HER DAUGHTERS DAUGHTER'S FUTURE THE LONELY HUSBAND WHOSE WIFE IS MERELY A GOOD HOUSEKEEPER WITH LITTLE WIFELY AFFECTION IS THERE ANYTHING TO DO FOR A HUSBAND WHO WHOP RINKS DRINKS P EAR r EAR MISS Ever DIX DIX Ever since gince I was a very young rows girl I havo have had my DEAR D J trained nurse I have never whole beart heart and aud soul on becoming a 1 is blocked by my mother molher ho aho in mr my desire but my path reuses refuses to permit me to take tako up liP that occupatIon for tor which I feel fe I I have hav a II special talent Mv tIon lion mother gives no reason reaton tor or her opposition only t J B says Sty that th t aho ho doesn't want mo roe to become a nurse tIe and nd that It If 1 I become becom a nurse nurs I will only earn am a FT ir small mail salary Sho pa pas s no attention to me m hen ehen a hen B I tell her that my roy happiness Is bound up In doing doln Bi l H what hat I believe to be my t Do ou ou think that thit a mother mothr has ha a right to tol her and to keep keen fl decide dedd her hr daughters daughter's futuro toi fot F the girl from doing the work ork she he wants to do inthe in the th world CONSTANT READER HEADER 1 B Certainly not A mother who wh prevents prevent K t 2 B her children from following f their th lr ambitions ambition R- R takes take upon herself an authority to which she e is II t not entitled for God G d Himself If has haa a s already decided that question and It Is DIX DIX blasphemous for f r her to Intermeddle with H His la purposes purpose When hen nature implants Implant Ina In a child a strong desire to be b a carpenter musician a writer that Is what be he or the she should or or a nurse nur or a a or Ibe be and nd not the th er or the clerk cleric or the th grocer that thit the tho parents i the th child to be We W see se the th effect of parents nt setting up their own ova judgments against t of ol the th Almighty In the thousands of o misfit people ft nho ho are aro ro bungling I along mAking failures failure of ot things thine they thy never n Ter Intended to do when theY might have baTe made mad successes It tr their fathers father and mothers mother had tiet let follow their own bents Stevenson says If a man loves love the th labor of any trade apart from any question of success or fame fam the gods have called him That la Ia true Each of us should th uld listen luten to the th call within SL- SL our own wn souls coul because b aule we w only do well wll the th work we w love todo to do for f r Its Ita It own sake lake ak And doing the th work we love lov brings bring the truest happiness that we w ever know Why Wb your mother should object to your becoming a trained nurse lis ha past pa t comprehension If It she sh Is 1 snobbish vou ou can cm tell her that It Is Ithe aristocrat among mong professions and one oni that Is 15 followed by many women of OtIe abroad who have h T chosen cho en It as a their means meant of ot low ow that so many noble nobia families have been Impoverished br by the war It Is I a learned professIon prof e lon for the th trained nurse has ha to have a better education than thin most mot doctors doctor had t twenty nty five yea year yar ago It Is I a well wll paid profusion profession and certainly c no lon could ho be b nobler or more mor humanitarian For no woo wooman wo woman man In the th world wrid dose dOH do more mor good or Is I more of a ministering angel angol than she he h who with tender and skillful hands hand soothes the bed hed of f pain and fights fight ba back k death dath Itself lt elf from the tho th sickroom If It you yoi really feel te I that being taint a trained nurse Is li your fol vocation tollow low It A foolish mother has no right to let her hu prejudices prejudice stand In 1 Inthe Ithe way of ot your career DOROTHY DIX S C CAR R AR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I has ha bar hae e been married about fourteen years DEAR I and have hare several children My wife wit and I have haTO been be n getting g alongI along I fine tin but I have hav not very VOl much love lov for or her because she Bh treats me mi so sot o t coolly She Is I a good rood housekeeper hou but I want hal hei to 10 lose lov 0 me m as ai a areal areal areal real WIfe wit should My lIy caresses car e and kisses are nr pushed aside and I Ife feel l more mor like a money mony maker malier for tor my family than a real husband I hue a gIrl friend with whom I am very much In love lov Do you thInk it right for tor me m to go 10 to see this toll girl for I know she ah loves love me 7 Please me m what to do to Increase my wife's wits affection for tor mo me for tor I amery am very tery lonely LONELY HUSBAND he I I should think Lonely Husband that the first step toward Increasing your wife's a affection for you would bs b for lor you to climb back on the th straight and narrow path and stop atop chasin young girl flirl gIrls How can you you blamo your wife for being bolna b cool toward you when whan you are ar philandering around with other women 7 It wouldn't exactly endear her to you for her to bo be flirting with other men would It Perhaps your wife wit Is 1 o ot of an nature and finds find It difficult to show the th love she ah feels That Is a pity because all of o us u men and women alike dote on haying having a fuss fur made mad over us We like to to be petted and jollied and babied and a woman ne neer never er makes mh a greater mistake than when she thinks that her husband doesn't just lap up soft talk and askor more that Love begets begett love You I know the th old proverb says So the th best belt way to Increase your wife's wit affection for you Is to tobe tobe tobe be affectionate toward her h r Tell ncr ner how much you think of her Bring her little litti gifts Woo her again ao ae a you did In the courting days day and you will find that her coldness will melt like snow under the sun As AI A for tor or the tile other girl firl ou know well enough that you rou have no right to make mak love lov to her b r You know r that the th attentions of ot a married man can bring brine nothing but harm to a girl cirl And eo so If It vou ou have haTe any affectIon for her hr or any aonie o e of o honor or manliness you will keep away from her and let her forget you And dont don't forget this Lonely Hatband No matter whether L er your yur wife is II I cool or not it doesn't alter altor your duty toward v the children you have hav brought Into the th world That Is tho the thin thing r you have hav got to consider first last laet and all the th time DOROTHY DIX C C I DEAR EAR p-EAR DOROTHY Tell DIX DIX Tell me m is there an thing to do for or a hue hus- husband Lf hus-Lf I husI band who drinks 7 When sober he h is a tine fine fellow tellow res respected cled with I many friends ri but he h is slowly and soon I fear tear he will lose loso his his mends friends nd and their respect This is lS really his only fault but it Is enough because during these days daye of ot bootleg whisky I am amin I mn In continual anxiety about him I dont don't feel that my ny husband is lS a drunkard as liS he h can stay sober as RS long lone as t to t o 0 months at a time then ho he goes KOCS on a spree I have pleased with him quarreled and tried In every TOTY way to reform him but my efforts orts have hase been in vain He fe promIses promise that ho he h will not drink again and stays sober for tor a while then goes on r drunken orgy orey I am twenty three years yara old and can easily support myself but I Ilove Ilove Ilov love him very T ry much and I want to help him overcome his weakness for drink Is thero anything else els I can do Is It advisable to send him to 10 some place to lo be bo cured ot of this habit Isn't the only cure self eIf will x HOPE My tAy dear dar you have ave ased the riddle of the tho th ages ag sand and ono on that nobody can answer an for you Nobody has ever bun been able abl to t devise any sure aure ur cure for drunkenness b because ause the tho th only real cure for it Is control self t And the th man who drinks s nearly always lacks lack the Ule strong ill that I makes him the master of hIs tate fate and the captain of soul aJ edl edly many of ot the cures do help h lp but thoy they are only e when backed 1 up by a mans man's man determination never neTer to touch Nor can rny my one advise the wife we of the drunkard what to todo todo todo do because so 10 many men mn who drink are so 10 lovable and have so 10 many m ny fine fino fin qualities th that t despite d their weakness they are better worth having than many men who 10 bo are arc IS I'S s 5 dryas dry as the Sahara and as sober ob r as u the town pump Yo i will have hav to de clde for yourself whether your husband huband Is I worth the price you have to pay for f r him DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 by Public l Lodger Company I |