Show L I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box I A FROM RECEIVE ATTENTIONS SHALL SHE CONTINUE TO WEALTHY CHINESE STUDENT WILL A COLLEGE EDU- EDU EDUCATION EDU EDUCATION CATION MAKE A GULF BETWEEN A MAN AND HIS FIANCEE IS IT WRONG TO KISS A BOY J rEAR EAR DOROTHY DOROTHT I DIX DEC I hue have har been ke keeping company lately with a ayoung DEAR IDEAR D young yount Chinese Chines man whom I met at college colloto He Ito Is 1 very well we'll thy and has ha all kinds of ot cars car and I have hav always alRY al ays hid h a good tood time tim with him We W are not engaged en c cd d In fact he be lisa has ha not asked meto meto me to 10 him on onS i to marry him but my ny mother objects S account of his hi nationality I would like lour our td lc ad Ice on this matter m r ALISON S a Answer My dear Alison Allson I have been much In Inci China and I am a great areat admirer of the tho ci Chinese Chine nation I have hav never met more brilliant cultivated fascinating gentlemen anywhere than I have In Peking andA and Shanghai But East Ea t Is I East and West W t Is A I West We t and never the twain shall thai met meet aj matrimonially speaking and I I cannot con Con- of any fate fato fat more mor terrible for an anly I 4 American girl than to marry any ny oriental This Thi Is I entirely without reference to the DIN DX man an himself or his hi wealth or hi his social status statu It U sou OU marry a Chinese rAan lean you you win will become by law a Chinese woman oman subject to the th laws law and traditions tradition that bind ChInese Chines women A Chinaman's first wife Is I picked out for him by hIs hi parents parent and It ItIs ItIs ItIs Is not likely that a wealthy and aristocratic Chinaman Chinaman's father and mother would elect select a t foreigner for or that exalted position petition so o l ou would probably start tart out as a secondary wife wite or concubine At any rate i our husband would have havo many wives and it If you failed aUed to have sons your positIon would bo ho a most unenviable one You are ar used to goIng colne about ab ut to having a good time tim to all sorts tort of amusements The Th life lite lit Of o Chinese Chine women ll la from our standpoint one ot of Incredible dullness They They live shut abut up In tIle the women's quarters with absolutely nothing to do but gossip and and how would sou ou even gossip In a a language that you probably never would be b able abl to master And you would have bay precious little other society for tor there ther Is small Intercourse between the foreigners and Chinese In China And writ worst of all my dear the tho th Chinese Chines mans mILn's man mental at at- at attitude at toward women Is I entirely different to that of the Anier- Anier lean ican man and he h can no moro more mor change chang that than he h can change hi kin For untold centuries the Chinese have hav looked down on n women as a Inferior beings Women have been their slaves and their playthings plaything of more value than the th meanest animal No veneer r of education ani and culture can change chang this and It would be b practically impossible for a Chinaman to give to his hie wife the th tenderness and consideration con and the th deference that an American lean woman demands demand of her husband and without whIch life If I Is I cinders and ashes and dust dull to her International marriages are rarely happy Those Tho e between orIentals and occidental always alway being misery on the tho th woman DOROTHY DIX C S S C C CD CE BAR E MISS DIX I DIX I am i a young oung man just In my twenties I hay have avery avery a DEAR D very kind uncle who offers otter to finance me It if I wish to get a uni education which would take from rom four to eight sears ears depending on the tho course It If I became becam hIghly educated would this place a a barrier between my fiancee who has hat only a public school chool education and myself SELFISH It would depend on the girl If she the has an alert mind and andI J I ambitious she sho h could keepIn keep in conversational distance with you by reading and Improving herself and generally widening her herrn mental horIzon But If she h is I one on of the th girls girl who does doe not net read at all or T who only reads reade rd foolish novels to a amuse mue herself I think that you would find that you had very vry little In common com men with her by the time tim you were graduated from the university and that she he he would be very dull company for you On the th other hand In declining this question you have to take your own type i Of ot mind Into consideration con There are ar man many men who do donot donot donot not care car for Intelligence In their wives They prefer women who are ignorant nt and before whom they can pose poe as is They like the kind Of ot a woman who takes all of oC hei hOl opinions from her husband and Yo who a ho asks ask him what she he thinks and aud what hat she the shall do on all occasions They like lik wives who ho ho are re perpetual Incense burners and who ho ho gasp Rasp with ewe awe w every time their husbands husband speak C C S S SIf If you belong blong b long to this complacent elf conceited class clus clat of men you yu will find It no drawback to your wife that she Isn't your mental m e equal ual But If you want companionship in a wife a wife who talks your language and who I Is Interested In Just the th things that you are Interested td In you had better stay itay on the tho th same am plane plan a ayour your sweetheart or ole else I wait walt until you get through school chool and then select the kind of woman who appeals appeal to you then Consider this thir That eight years year spent In study tudy at a R universIty will make of ot you an entirely different man You will be brought under every sort of o cultural Influence You will be polished and refined You will form new habits habit different associations a which will set et sou ou higher ideals How can sou ou possibly po tell now what sort tort of a wife wit you will want ant then DOROTHY DIXS DIX S S S CD CEAR C DEAR D EAR DOROTHY DIX Is DIX Is It wrong wrone to kiss kits bo bolt bole s What Is a soul tout kiSt THELMA AND ELAINE s 's 1 Answer An w r Yes Yei It Is I wrong to kiss kill kr boy boys boy when It lent Int l nt common and It ItI ItIs I Is common when It Isn't l nt wrong If a kin klis kis wasn't want wrong If It wasn wasn't t dangerous If It wasn't playing with passion as a chIld play plays with fire there would be no kisses kles and the boy boys who take you to the movies movie wouldn't exact a kiss kits In payment for forthe forthe forthe the th thirty I cents cent they have spent on you You dont don't ob observe brothers brother Insisting ln on their sisters listers kissing them goodnight when hen they have hav taken them out There Ther I is 1 no such uch thing III as a a soul foul kiss kin except the one on that your mother gives give you All kisses kl e from men outside of your own family a ar an of the th earth arth earthly and of the th flesh fleshy Beware of them DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 by Public Ledger Ledier Company |