Show I Do Dorothy rothy Dix Dixs Dix's s 's Letter Lette r Box THE FAILURE OF THE HENPECKING WIFE THE YOUNG MAN WHO THINKS THAT MARRIAGE DOESN'T MATTER THE WIFE WHOSE WARTIME HERO IS A EAR r EAR DOROTHY DIX Why DIX Why cannot women see the con constant tant op opposing opposIng op J DEAR R D posing of ot their husbands husband's wishes will sill in time make them stub stubborn stubborn stubborn born and determined to have hae 18 e their 0 own oan n way aay ay a as no man hk likes to ar ac ac- ac kno knowledge ledge that thai he Is not ol the head of his 1 t own hou men ba have e a right to li have t their nay av In dome domestic tc affairs halt half ot of the th time at least It seems to 10 be b the thE th nature ot of omEn to ant nant to rul rule the roost For my part I regald the comic pictures I 1 about wIves as real missionary 1 orl a ork for tor It must shon sho many a omen how J tyrannical they are to their husbands tn in I little 1 aas a sand and how v It results I Maybe youcan you can laugh women out of f doing things Ja that you cant can't t r-t reason then them out of doing Anyway i If women only realized it they can je get more out of their husbands by being liberal with them than they can being close dote and by agreeing them thein with them then instead of ng with DOROTHY DIXI DIX I know v a oune couple where the husband hus bus husband band hand has been amiable and nd pleasant to his nite nife but he is be be- be beginning ginning to rebel at her bossy boslY ways and Is getting ugly and an surl surly and andI andI I would like to sa sae save e them It if 1 I can But how AN OLD orD WIre WirE- W HO KNOWS Answer Sister the reason that wives try to t dictate to their hus hue husbands husbands bands is y the same reason that makes husbands try to manage manag their wives Human Humm vanity Love of authority The conceit that makes each one of us think that we know exactly how to run the universe and that it is III a pity that the Creator didn't have a chance to consult us and get a little good e about how to do things when He made the world A passion for tyranny that makes us rule anybody who will stand for It Men and women are equally guilty of the am- am ambition ambition am ambition to dominate the home and it Is this struggle for supremacy supremacy acy sty and of each to s hi his hs or her will Wil Wiland and last taste and opinions lone ions and ways on the other that is us at the the bottom bottom of the per per- perennial ennal family spat and that makes households a dark and bloody eg rou nd The Tho husband Is determined to treat his eife Ite if like an Idiot child chUd She must com come to him for tor or e es every ery penn penny she spends She must bU buy the clothes he likes She cant can't join a club or go co see her Iter mother with with- without without without out asking asUng his permission And the oman omon J ana hates hatt'S him for forthe forthe the mean grinding Orant t rant he Is The wife Is Iq bound and set let that her ber husband shall obe obey her She Sh wont ont let him smoke He has bas to est eit the things she considers good for his stomach no matter mailer hohe how hon he loathes oathes tern He lie cant can't go to out of o an evening e He has to accept her bEr friends and let his own on go co And the husband huband hates bates hei hel for Lei hei nagging boss bossy bossi ways and lies Ites and deceives her Believe me sister the domestic will have ar arrived rived when husbands and wives agree to fifty fifty-fifty on the head head- head of of the house proposition and when each concedes to the other the right to have his or her own way wy half of the time But iou OU are right about the woman oman who alto wants to her rul hus hus- husband husband band doing It easier b by the gumshoe method than Ithan the way Sugar will aIwa s catch more flies than vinegar r and any man 1 be grateful for having the henpecking done In as painless a a way as possible S S S S S S S S DEAR D DDOROTHY tEAH DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am In love lov nith aith a young oung man nho ho thinks things that marriage doesn't matter maUer and that two people who care for each cach other are united by their 10 love lose e But I have hive been ben brought up aith other Ideas and I 1 am troubled and afraid Yet It if I dont don't 11 give gie e in to the wishes ot of m my sweetheart s In this matter III I will II lose him What hat shall shallI do BARBARA J S Answer It is a shameful proposition that this man is making you Barbara He would kill any man who wio made mad such a one to his sister and you will be lucky Indeed if it you lose such a craven No man really loves lovea a woman no man with a single shred of honor asks a girl to do a thing that degrades her In her own eyes and puts her In a discredited position before the world The un unwed d wite Ife maybe be inay be a romantic figure In no noels novels els but bellevo me my child sho she Is a poor forlorn pitiful creature in real life liCe Sh She Is an outcast In society society Her children are nameless She has no claim claimon claimon claimon on the man who l has dragged her Into the tho gutter putter and nine times out or of often olten ten En he deserts her after she has her youth and beauty and chance In life liCe to him For the man who means to do the square thing by a woman ber her to begin with He has too much r for the woman he wants for fr his wife even to propose any protection rose romance to her hr Marriage was waa devised for the th protection tion of women against Just such yellow hearted men as the theone theone theone one who is asking you to throw throwaway away your good god name to gratify his fancy Barbara Dont Don't do It as you value your own soul and your lifes life's happiness I i Take 5 our stand on what our English friends call thell m lines and t tell 1 him that the man who aho gets gels vou ou his has to come across with witha witha I a wedding rIng and bell and church and all the appurtenances ot of reo re respectability S 4 SS S S S S S S S S S SD SEAR DEAR D EAR DOROTHY My DIX DIX My father and mother are v ery cry well to-do to to-dof-f to people and I 1 a was as brought up to ha have e e ei every ery comfort and luxury When the war came cam on I 1 married as BO so many other r girls did in a frenzy of ot patriotism I wanted my husband to know that some one for or him and loved him alone I knew that DI my husband was poor and when he returned from from thE th war I 1 set out to help him I became a good and economical cook I 1 kept on the least possible amount of ot money mony made all o ot of m mo my myon y oan o o n clothes did o make my husband a success Only n fly wouldn't become on one He H thought that m my father should set him up In business and resented it when he wouldn t do it Then he decided that he be would like Jike to take a special course at aL college at nt night so go I encouraged him and was a little more mor so that he be could go eo But he h wasted our little money buying good cigars playing pool and so on Said he was so tied down n he had to todo do that to relax When he was nas as supposed to b he be at college at night comIng home at 2 or 3 In the morning hea he a was nat really runnIng around girls We have halE two children children now Before the th second wits was born I found out bou bou lila his with Hh other women It was an awful blow u cause I am I oung oune and good looking myself and keep myself dressed on next to nothing and keep my home clean and tidy and an aiwas have e ae appetizing food on my table 1 I base hav tried to figure out where here I have failed tailed my husband but J I cant can't Perhaps it I had been wasteful and be h would have thought more mor of ot m roe What do you ou think A rous r Answer I 1 think two things The Th first thing tilIng Is la that there Is II noth Ing so eo true tru as th the homely old ld saying that you cannot mak make II a silk purse puree out ut of a soWs sowa ear No wife has haa any magic whereby she can change a Into a real man She Sh can work no miracle by ty which she sh can Infuse energy ambition and pur pur- pose pole purpose Into a weak pleasure loving l nature nor nr can she ahe sh implant a sense sens of honor and duty into a man who wh has haa no principles No task Is il so thankless as trying to t help such a man He ably Invariably hates his hll wife for fr it because bec luse she sh Is la a living reproach to hIm M My second thought Is that n a woman who aho ho has done don her whole hole duty as a wife ife wit bravely and nobl nobly has the th consolation of or a clear conscIence I and her hr 0 own onn n self seU respect t And that thit is worth much She has his been good sport 1 She Sh has ha played pl the th game came a aI I And perhaps being able to look yourself In the th face is ill the greatest of f earthly consolations DOROTHY DIX nr 1923 by Public Ledger Led Led- Company f I |