Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box THE HUSBAND WHO WAS TOO KIND SHAUL SHE CHOOSE THE TEMPERED TEMPERED HIGH YOUNGER MAN OR MARRY THE PLACID ELDER SUITOR THE MAN WHOSE WIFE WONT WON'T LET T HIM SMOKE AT HOMED HOME DEAR D BAR r EAR MISS DIX Is DIX Is there such a thing as showing sho a wife ICe too much J kIndness I am business man and have been married for several bars cars I loved 10 cd my wife dearl and ba have hate 03 showered e ever er thin thing on hei hel I ha have hate e her a beautiful home a car ear of oC o her her her- 0 miD oun n jewels everything that was ass in my 10 power er to tobe be beStow v to upon her She Sho ho never showed me n I any re- re reS rp-gaid rp gal gaid d or consideration It was as all a take 11 S Kw t iS X tion on on her part EL J she has now left let me and started dh divorce orce pro B and begs me inc not to contest the case Ikno Ia I I 1 a i BB knot knoy kno there i Is no other man in the case She 41 S just thinks she wants freedom And nd she 11 s sacrificing Wi r t-aB t me as she has everybody and every thing to her 0 own oan n desires all nil of her life What do doI Hy y I YOU ou think I should do under the circumstances LEO LEONARD ARD j r Answer T y yf f I 1 do not think ink that a woman who Is Isso M ii so selfish and self centered will ever makeI make I any man happy and that the sooner he DIX DEC puts her out of his life the better That type of woman never loves anyone any one but herself and the pity of It is that by some freak of ot nature she I seems able to inspire a deeper love in rico Men than any good woman ever gets woman I do think that It Is possible to be too oo good to a woman Just as it Is possible to be too to te a husband It Is just as ea easy y to te spOIl a husband or wife VUe as it Is 19 to spoil a baby and they react the same WB iva to It They get peevish and fretful and howl hoYo 1 for tor the moon and need just as badly to te be he taken over oer somebody's somebody knee and spanked and made madl to behas beha behave e themselves I I I A great many many domestic tragedies would be avoided if In In- In Instead In stead of trying to save their ther wives from all hardships men would make their wives carry their fair share of the domestIc V burden A great many silly and frivolous wives could be steadied If their thir husbands would put responsibilities upon them Men think they are being kind to their wives when hen they work themselves to death so to o that their wises vives may be Idle This is a great mistake It is work werk that tat keeps women out of mischief that keeps heeps them Ulem in fit love lovo with ith their husbands Because no woman ever cares long Ion for tor a aman anan aman nan man who ho lets her run over ever him and put things 0 over oser er on him Furthermore a man should require some sacrifice at his wIfe hands because we love Jove the bet best people that we help and that Is I particularly true of women It Is Ig not the man who gives most to women they love most It is the men who de- de demand de demand mand most of them You take In washing to support a good good- nothing good husband And there are several morals in that DOROTHY DIX 0 a S S S 0 S DEAR D r EAR BAR DOROTHY DOEOTHY DIX Can DIX Can ou tell me rue which Is the safest gamble to marry a man of ot my own a age e who ho is 19 j jealous alous grouchy conceited and exceptionally tempered quick-tempered or to choose for my life lite partner a aman aman roan man fifteen sears ears older than I I mn-I am I am t who twentythree-who twenty enty three three- three who ho is humor humorous humorous humorous ous kind gentle loving and thoughtful and who ho pas PIlS me all the little attentions dear to a womans woman's heart I I admit that the first man Infatuates me but I am in constant fear of displeasing him or of o his leaving me for some other woman oman for tor lie he heIs lieLa hela La Is fickle tickle minded While with the second man I feel content and safe knowing that whatever I do or say will be right In his eyes Is fifteen years ears too great a difference in age alte bet between a man mau and rui woman when hen our pleasures and friends ark are ar the same Do you OU think I Bill will forget my first love lose 10 e when ben I am married to the second NEW YORKER Answer It Is that temperamental people stormy tempest tempestuous ones have a fatal lure about them but to marry one of tiem iem Is to bring down certain misery on ones one's head It is f electing to live in a perpetual storm center in which there Is no peace or rest reft reet If you marry a man who Is Jealous and grouchy you will spend the remainder of your daye days walking on eggs which gets to be a mighty tiresome promenade for a wife wife 9 p ou ou ou will al ala a s so go in fear tear and trembling dreading to rouse rousa the devil that crouches within l him You will live lIe In terror of ot his maniacal outbursts ot or temper You wilt will ill alwa always s be hiding things and keeping things under rover OHr that might vex sex ex him There isn't any gamble as ou sa say about marrying marring a high tempered jealous grouch grouchy man Such a mans man's wife ife always ays loses out Her lot Is ts never ending unhappiness On the other hand If you marry the older man who 1 Is gentle and kind and considerate you will have everything that thata a rational woman needs to make her happy for the fifteen years of difference In your ages does not matter when it is on the mans man's side fide But here the complication comes comee in So con con- contradictory contradictory con contradictory is the human heart that If you marry your high tempered grouchy man you will hate him within six months but If It you dont don't marry him he will always remain a figure of romance In your Imagination that will make your quiet lover seem commonplace So the question simmers Itself down to this If you want a peaceful quiet life lite marry the elder man If you want an hours hour's happiness and the remainder misery take the y young ung one DOROTHY DIXS DIX S e S C S S S S 0 0 DEAR D EAR T theU EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am m a married man with the dearest wife In the world arId but as in 80 BO so many homes there Is a little friction I like to smoke but l t T my e objects so much that I never smoke at home the It If I should attempt to te light a II there Would be a regular storm And tho the mole mote she objects the more I want to smoke You know how hose It la Is about the en fruit I dont don't smoke to excess and I cant can't understand why my toy wife Ife doesn't let Jet me take my ease In my roy own bome and drives Iris es me out of o it for my pleasure that she he is In driving me away from her Can you HANK HANK- HANKI I Answer No I cant can't Hank I have never been able to understand why God denied so many otherwise Intelligent women all knowl knowledge edge of how to deal with husbands Wives want to keep their husbands at home and yet I 1 have known plenty of women who wouldn't give their husbands a single angle spot in the house that he could call his own and in n which he could do a as he pleased I have kno known o women en who let their husbands indulge In any hobby at home women omen who considered their husbands treasured collections as B a messes wives who ho wouldn't let their husbands eat ht they wanted at home horn hom who ho wouldn't let their husbands smoke In the house bouse And et these women wonder bonder onder why they had v husbands T Concretely If I were a man and wanted to smoke at home C ltd Id dot do it it The man who pays paya the freight has haa got some soma rights that even a wife should respect DOROTHY DIX right 1923 by Public Ledger Company Compan I |