Show KATHLEEN NORRIS this engagement Is too WHAT WOULD YOU DO with a daughter like mine writes georgianna white from a small oklahoma town june will be 24 in january she is an intelligent girl took a line fine job after two years in business college col lega is handsome tall popular plays tennis and is a well trained housekeeper and cook this last through chance rather than any plan of mine when she was 18 june met a quiet decent slow boy I 1 win will call bill her brother first brought bill to the house and june soon began going steady with him both of them then in business college bill flunked out and has since held jobs briefly as car salesman on oil stati station ort attendant soda fountain clerk hotel night desk man he and june have been constantly in each others company tor for nearly six years during this time my good husband died and I 1 resumed my wartime job as schoolteacher this gave june an excuse for giving up her own good job and taking over housekeeping for myself and her brother completely infatuated my boy Is a doctor with his office right in the home june and he lunch together we all dine together and I 1 must say that she maintains a perfect home for us but bill who has no job now actually 1 telephoning her every hour is at the house nearly every day or telephoning her every hour she appears as completely infatuated as she was at 18 her brother and I 1 are satisfied that there is nothing wrong in this relationship relation hip partly because bill is so cool an admirer he takes her affection for granted borrows small sums from her she has saved some bonds goes to movies with her meets friends at the drugstore counter and often takes her to church his mother infuriates me by telling me occasionally that june is such a safe friend for her adored bill june has of course lost all her other friends the distressed mother continues cont mues in every other way sweet amusing and natural her mouth shuts tight when we mention bill we an all dislike him as spoiled lazy and irresponsible at 27 but june sees in him only her first love why dont they marry why dont they marry I 1 wish they would junes small savings woud soon be gone and probably both of them would be forced to be realistic but if ever bill does respond to her ardent hints about a home together someday it is merely to say grandly not until I 1 can take care of my wife without appealing to her family or mine now what can we do this letter ends june is too old to be sent away my son has twice told bill pretty plainly in the past year that we dont like the situation bill explains amiably enough that he has a good job in mind and june angrily resents interference can you advise us no my dear georgianna I 1 cant A girls infatuation for a man of this negative seemingly undeveloped type is always a mystery I 1 it bill were a gallant dec orated hero there would be some understanding ot of it but such a man would sweep her oft off her feet into marriage in a matter of weeks bill sensing instinctively that once removed from his protecting mother easy pocket money and generally profitless existence he would be exposed for the weakling he is calmly declines a matrimonial entanglement junes eyes would be opened to her own foolishness before the honeymoon was over but even that situation would seem to arle me preferable to this it might make a woman of her whether or not it made a man of him some women marry these weak lings by sheer force of superior will one case that came to m my y notice some years ago in my own town found the bride triumphant at the church at the wedding hour and the groom in tears this particular bride is now the head of a busy hollywood shop her husband still handsome still idle has arranged that she deposit his pocket money at the bank child wives used to be popular in fiction a century ago david Copper fields soft little helpless dora and miss i aleys careys wee W the dear little helpley hel ples sa creatures were always raising tear laden blue eyes in appeals for help to big strong mates nowadays it is amazing how often the situation is reversed and the gray mare is the better horse perhaps if you georgianna and her brother can hurry june into this marriage by congratulating them on their engagement however prematurely giving it to the social column talking wedding plans finding rooms for the first home or better yet moving them right in on bill and his mother you will wake june up such arrangements range ments have worked and more than once meanwhile what a pity to have her stubbornness and his weakness destroy these years of youth and friendships |