Show kathleen norris says be worth wanting girls and be wanted bell syndicate service jew Z tom said this girl we have to take my kid brother to grandeas grandmas Grand Gran dinas mas and alad ala d wants me to stop and get her some vanilla isn t this jun fun this is the first time wele been to a movie tog etherl by KATHLEEN NORRIS WOMAN in our town after A nine childless years of marriage adopted a baby boy she and her husband became so infatuated with the charms of the tiny keith that a year or two later they adopted a brother for him never were parents so happy as these two in their handsome boys john macgregor came home every night to play with our kids and help put them to bed nell macgregor boasted everywhere of the smartness of the children and when keith was three and bruce two nature stepped in and sent the mac gregors a boy of their r own and this morning when the ages of their small family are five four and two years I 1 am informed that there is to be another child stop worrying this happens so often that it makes one realize that the minute a woman begins to stop fretting and worrying and thinking exclusively about something is often the very moment when she is nearest to attaining it over and over again the years in which a woman talks and worries and hopes for a child are wasted years and when she becomes absorbed in something real and forgets her yearnings the contrary baby decides it is time to start on its way it is the same way with the unmarried woman whose whole thought is a fear of spinsterhood and a desire to secure a beau she emanates some element that repels a mans interest she creates about her an atmosphere that is destructive to a love affair such a woman places far too much importance upon th the e whole thing she cant take love naturally she is always thinking of it construing the most innocent friendly advances of any man into serious declarations frightening him off with her own too eager response looks play minor alinor role hundreds of women whose ages range from 24 to 40 write me every year about this problem sometimes they send their pictures to prove to me that they are good looking As if looks had anything to do with III but they think looks have and many a time it is her fussiness about her appearance her embarrassed apologies for her hair or her old hat or that maddening little patch of poison oak on her cheekbone that make a man know that here is a born old maid thinking of nothing but herself or rather thinking of nothing but the impression the man is getting of herself she can be natural and simple and tm amusing using with comfortable silent intervals ter vals in the presence of anyone else but the minute a man is around she goes stiff self conscious and silly uttering tittering saying things she mean painfully shy one moment wildly reckless the next always presenting to him not only her least natural side but making an impression that is absolutely unfair to herself develop comfortableness the real basic trouble is that such gi girls r is make men too important the man knows it and while it flatters his secret pride he goes tor for comfortable for table friendships to the other girls those cheerful casual souls who dont mind his seeing them with a co cold id in the nose with an old coat with errands to do if there is one qu quality al a man likes in a woman it is comfortableness s he likes to be made to forget himself forget that he is openly announcing himself as an admirer of this woman forget everything except the pleasantness of companionship and the fun and joy of a good time the other night on an evening walk I 1 passed a small lighted house from whose doorway a tall girl was briskly emerging A young man was waiting in the garden shadows for her and as she approached him she was calling back a message into the house mary if you read my book dont lose the place I 1 will mama I 1 vill dad tom said this girl joining the waiting swain we have to take my kid brother to grand mas because my sisters here with her baby and mama wants me to stop and get her some vanilla I 1 promised id make a chocolate custard for dad tomorrow this faunl she went on as she and the young man went toward his car isyou ayou realize this is the first time weve been to a movie together the full life the first time but if I 1 know men it the last for in her easy joyous way shed told him that she loved her family and needed them and they needed her and that even a beau put her fathers mothers sisters brothers comfort out of her mind that she was interested in plenty of things other than the excitement of having a man take ke her to a movie to be able to extend simple friendliness to male friends as easily as to women friends is a real gift but if it is not a natural thing it can be cultivated the secret is to be a whole complete person yourself not waiting for another person to round out your entity the moment a woman finds life full and satisfying some man turns up who wants to break in on that happy contented life and share it she is absorbed in books friends work hobbies plans next summer she is going to do wonderful things next winter she has been promised that adorable apartment ashes had her eye on for two years friday night is symphony night and tuesday night is the hilarious spanish class on sunday she always goes out to her brothers place and they picnic or do something with the children she has a a radio and a car and one or two of those male stand bys who are not beaus exactly but who are always on hand for escort duty on real occasions challenge to men blen when an eligible man meets a woman whose life is as well rounded as this a yearning to upset her smug little apple applecart cart takes possession of him she need him and so he has to convince her that she does he asks her curiously why she ai at 32 has not married and she can answer with perfect truth and seriousness that ashes been too busy she likes men really she does but she never seems to have any time to think of marri marriage agel 1 but surely shed like a home and kids of her own well ye es of course but then so 0 often things dont turn out right and she is so comfortable with her fire and her books and her friends he then must set to work to convince her that she is all wrong A woman know what happiness is until she marries hes always thought he want to marry himself but as a man gets older and sees the happiness of his friends and from that point on all is smooth sailing |