Show why we behave like human beings ft GEORGE DORSEY phd UD U D gushy girls gi als waste sex emotion heria are many histories historic of at marriage T thern in three large volumes Is 18 a mere sketch and was out of date the aay ay it was printed new marriage customs have been invented marriage does not stand still it grows backward forward up and down there are as many forms of marriage behavior as there are married couples possibly more some dis dia bohe and remarry marriage laws vary hiom riom state stale to state nation to nation age to age can marriage ile bo hamlor be generalized generali sed or reduced to law there Is no biologic excuse outside structural deficiency or unmated adult human beings many human so ci bitle tle respect that law other communities muni ties flaunt it disregard puberty indefinitely postpone matin mating g or mate casually casual ly and make the best of ebil children ns as they do of other accidents in other ron re e get little light on human ciari lage behaN behavior lor from tile the mind of the ameba abeba or the social instincts of the anthropoid apes human marriage behavior Is as distinctly and peculiarly human cis as Is a sewing machine or tile the wedding march of loh en englin i in the mate instinct must be there la Is there it if we are horn born whole we have it the capacity to seek a mate the impulse to find one it if it takes us overseas why cn a world of sexually unadjusted divorces ott oft m courtesans courte sans prostitutes homosexuals loveless marriage childless marriages endless kinds two general observations 1 Eu ropes population has doubled in the last hundred undred li years despite the enormous losses from wars disease infantile mortality and drains overseas the mate hunger bunger Is not impotent 2 we hear only of the sexual sexually ly anad austed there are millions of happily mated couples in america now for the other side the behavior of the mate impulse it leads many to marry the marriage falls drunkenness ns cruelty infidelity delity desertion etc the courts recognize many grounds why does one man become a drunkard another beat his wife marriage morblake Morr laKe itself is no more responsible tor for such than Is business for arson or banking tor for defalcation the man inan who rho beats ills his wife rife probably beat ills his sister or ills his mother the man who drinks because or in spite of his R wife ife would turn to drink under any other situation to which he could not adjust himself between the age of if fifteen and t twenty arlt r five a are re ten long years durl during these years tears the mate hunger impulse cannot be put to sleep as one does a child or locked in a closet as one does but should not a naughty child it Is inevitable that huge amounts of energy be diverted but where what Is to be its outlet raise the standard of mens morality but not by talk work will do it many a boy Is bo ao hard at work lie he lias has no further energy left the boy or girl who for ten years chases pleasure as the main business of life may be pure but neither will be likely to acquire any socially useful habits during that time both men and women can become such habitual flirts that they are abnormal they are sexual per perverts N erts the normal sex complex can he be broken in many ways disappointment in love no response on the part of the mate etc the sex complex thus becomes conditioned to abnormal methods of response tendency to avoid or be disgusted under conditions which are neither diR disgusting gusting nor to he be avoided prudishness sloppy sentimentality morbid interest in the externals or ace accessories s ories of sex ses conduct the sex complex thus comes to mean for one individual one thing for another quite something else it comes to be as varied as behavior its itself e if what it Is nt fit anyone any one time depends ork on the lessons it has learned its experience its habits no man or woman enters into marriage with a sex com plex slate on which something has not been written until recently it was likely to be too little on the part of the woman an ignorance so ingrained that learning was painful too much on the part of the man more than he could rub off foundations of habits which means character are laid in homes nine tenths of the girls that enter juvenile courts leave bad homes As thomas puts it many a girl cannot be said to fall because she has hag never risen she Is not immoral but amoral the male hunger bunger Is turned into love for adventure denture fi clothes theater attention distinct distinction loh freedom and some discover that the only blouins they have to realize these acquired appetites la IS their sex they use it as they would a coin to buy advantages and pleasure thomas cites dumas as saying that girls in paris lost their virginity as they lost their milk teeth they could give no plausible account of the loss or they marry with that same colu colf or buy entree to the stage singe or a trip to paris having chosen the easier road they soon bome become habituated to it until recently women had bad almost no DO incentive or opportunity tal t attempt achievement neble in mate male fields field t why should she ashen hen for every won wom nn an there was a purchaser tor for tome some many bidders 0 Q by george arg A L doy domy |