Show KA KATHLEEN NORRIS Block That Divorce Bell Syndicate Features SA SAVE AVE VE YOUR MARRIAGE if you can Partly because marriage marriage marriage mar mar- is the very root and basis of our civilization but partly too because there is no companionship companionship companionship compan compan- or happiness in m the world like that of a man and woman who have achieved a successful mar mar- Dont Don't think of your relationship with your husband as a fact accomplished accomplished ac BC- d finished settled never to change Think of it as bein being constantly in a state of development development develop develop- ment up or down for tor bett better r or worse Either your marriage Is a amore amore amore more perfect thing today than it was a year ago or it is a less per per- feet one Which is it Dont Don't let It get an an unimaginative unimaginative native rut a daily pounding along at distasteful drudgery And dont don't let tet Its only bright moment be es es- escape cape the cape the radio the movies par par- U tits tics s murder stories Make It In Itself the core of your happiness the center from which all these amusements and activities spring Easier said than done donet Of course But marriage like anything else worth while is a slow hard demanding demanding demanding de de- de- de manding job And its success or failure is far tar more In the hands of the woman than the man Money Is The Root Finances are of first importance and most wives fail in hi one of two particulars there and some fail in both First the wife wont won't keep expenses down to budget lines And second she takes no interest in how the money is made This last and it Is the most common common common com com- mon falling failing Is peculiar to American women European wives share every moment of a mans man's care anxiety doubt They know who the customers are what taxes and rent are what the mans man's hopes and d plans are But some of our women yd f- f 1 Consider expenditures remain all their wedded lives in hi a state of supreme indifference and Ignorance on those points What they want is the money and nothing else And some of them urge a aman aman aman man into actual dishonesties in their eagerness for money Once the money point is settled satisfactorily the marriage is halfway halway to success Girls before marriage ought to be encouraged to work out budgets to consider expenditures ex ex- The Cutter marriage was on the the- rocks 11 years ago this year Everything Everything Everything Every Every- thing was wrong with it The four tour expensive house apartment rooms the two exacting babies who started coughing in November and didn't stop until April The surveillance of Jims Jim's mother The money short short- age And all the details that dust didies dishes disgust and disillusionment disillusionment disillusionment dis dis- could supply The Cutters talked of divorce But how If Jim couldn't support his family in one unit how could he support it in two Quarreling Stops Then the older baby got polio and Jim and Nancy were awakened The carping scolding quarreling stopped like magic Mother and father turned to the task of saving little Beverley Beverley needed sunshine So I they drove out into the least fashionable fashionable fash tash- of Toledos Toledo's suburbs and bought two acres and a n shanty for tor 1300 The house had electricity but no bathroom no furnace no luxuries Freedom Freedom dont don't dont we all love stand st- st it and I was free she writes meNo me me No telephone no outside interests at all Just who was two when we went out there and Bev getting well visibly and Jim coming coming com corn ing lug home a new man He put our heaters floor-heaters in he got the garden into shape he brought in the first two of my handsome brood of ot chickens chick chick- ens in his pocket tiny pocket tiny peepers to amuse Bev In 1940 we mortgaged ourselves to the tune of and built two room five cottages on the front of our place They are completely completely completely com com- separate te from us and they bring in hi a month Jim says nothing on earth can keep us from being snug and secure Well we arent aren't worried about that Were We're happy I look back at our life a few tew years ago ngo the letter ends and I dont don't seem to be the same woman That other woman woman always was try ing lug to push her life aside and live in some dream It took terror poverty change to awaken her her Ours isn't one of ot the sensational sensational American merican stories It wouldn't have mattered to anyone if our marriage had ended in divorce and our family been scattered to try all aU sort IOn of miserable makeshift |