Show Kathleen Norris Says 4 Life v e Is s Too o oBell o Short sort for Jealousy Bell Syndicate Service i t ta a 1 tY Jr cy til J JI I 1 n nt t l lI I td 4 1 9 1 J 4 w i t I 1 s. s tt It never to Sally that in every town there are women who icho make a nas of entertaining celebrities I If f she had stopped to think she would have hare realized these stars could have hate no interest in Martha I By KATHLEEN NORRIS OR the 17 best years of her F FOR life Sally Davis was envious envious envious ous of Martha Stevenson Then Martha was injured injure in a motor accident and died of a lingering disease Sally made madeno no secret of her sense of persona personal satisfaction and triumph Which was worse for her the her the long years of jealousy or the crue cruel pleasure in another womans woman's tragedy tragedy tragedy-it it would be hard to say None of it hurt Martha but i it destroyed Sally From 17 to 34 she felt her life shadowed twisted spoiled by Marthas Martha's perfections and after seventeen years of feeling like that no woman can ever get back to normal Sally will be petty jealous unhappy for the rest 01 of her days Once jealous always jealous is not just an old saying it is a simple psychological truth Not that there was anything remarkable remarkable remarkable re re- re- re about Martha A hundred other women were prettier smarter and more fortunate But Martha was one of those maddening girls who make other other- women think that everything they have is somehow mysteriously better than anything I anyone else has Martha had a away away away way even in high school of dressing dressing dressing dress dress- ing up her trips and possessions and friends and plans that made them seem all aU And she would comment upon what the other girls had to relate in a sympathetic sympathetic sympathetic amused manner that seemed to put them into a different class Took Martha Seriously Sally always took Martha seriously serious serious- ly it seemed to be her fate She watched Martha as a cat watches watches- or used to watch in less hygienic days days days-a a mousehole She reported upon Marthas Martha's doings in so obvious a mood of trembling jealousy that they really began to seem as enviable enviable enviable able as Martha tried to make them The school girls scattered went their happy absorbed ways But it was was Sallys Sally's destiny always to b be e within sight of Martha and to marry the man whose boss Martha married mar mar- ried Martha had a smart city apartment Sally lived out with Joes Joe's s mother in the country Martha had one tidy little l lifeless eless girl and she somehow made it seem amusing and pitiable in Sally to have four child chil- chil d ten Martha attracted clever persons to her Sunday lunches managed a sort of studio atmosphere dressed in oriental silks Sally came in from rom the farm to some of these lunches Joe no not t liking it much but feeling eeling he must keep in with the boss DOSS the children protesting the car in n none too good shape Sallys Sally's clothes not quite right and Sally in in purgatory To witness Marthas Martha's success success suc- suc cess and to hear huar her P praised ed almost killed Sally but she seemed drawn into it as a moth to a flame Envy her had lad its terrible way with her a and very soul was corroded b by it it When she he heard and that a singer or a lecturer was coming to toy town she would say I I suppose Martha is il going to entertain n him And she was answered that indeed when Ma Matha Martha Martha Mar Mar- tha was she writhed ft mentally It never occurred to her that great singers singers and movie actors lie and lecturers lecturers lec- lec all have dull wives and 1 relatives relatives rela rela- tives ives and secretaries and that these supposedly desirable S guests can eat cat up food and drink wine that hat sends bills up in a wa way y skyrocket skyrocketing ng and td WHICH IS BETTER Which is better better to to make the most o of f what you have or to tomake tomake tomake make yourself lt erable becal you jOU cant can't have what someone else has Y You oll can says Kathleen Norris Nor Nor- ris turn your jour assets to such a advantage ad vantage that you make what you have seem good whether whet or not nol it is exactly what you Oll think you want The story o of f Sally and Martha is the old old story o of 0 f the girl who has everything and the girl who thinks she site has nothing worth having Be sure to read rend Kathleen N Norris Norris' orris advice to the ih Sallies of this world world those those who w dont don't have or dont don't use the good sense to make the most of them selves j jr r weary a hostess almost to tears A Dull Business a aIt It never occurred to her that i ia m I every town and village there are a afew afew I few women who make a business d cf following up celebrities and enter enter- entertaining taming them If Sally had stop for a moment to think she would have realized that these glittering stars could have no possible interest in Martha They went to Marthas Martha's house because it was cheaper and more comfortable than the hotel Concert tours and personal appearances appear ances are a dull business in strange towns and any amusement is we i wel come Sally never thought of what she might have made of the farm Of the outdoor meals the simple hospitality hos hus- I the four delightful children in sandals and sun-suits sun the up building of a family life that might i have made Marthas Martha's tinsel achievements achievements achievements achieve achieve- ments seem small indeed e St I might have had Marthas Martha's tepid littIe little lit lit- tIe tle girl out for visits and have had Martha feeling a little twinge of jealousy in turn because Thelma p preferred preferred pre pre- Aunt Sallys Sally's farm to her o om oJ J home She might have had thousands thou thor sands of hours of gardening huff P of picnics years of cloudless happiness Instead she nurtured a bitter sense of wrong nothing that Joe could do compared with what Marthas Martha's husband gave her Sally got so that when she could buy a new coat she must manage that Martha saw it she must as ask Martha casually what she thought oft of ol it And when Martha said gen gently t bf neff Im waiting i until Braumann's coats are here they tell me they they're going to be much plainer promptly hated her coat and fe felike few felt like a martyr because she had W to wear it it My children are terrible little wild Indians she said to Martha Martna even though in her heart she knew kne they were perfect And it stung ht het nJ so soul u for days when Martha saId I I th think k any ant pleasantly Well truly woman is heroic to try to bring brine g up P four children without a n nurse urse 1 j I dont don't think one can do any anyone one o 0 of them justice me e j to Letter upon letter comes f from w women omen who have every g gin in the world to make them happY fortunate i iby who would be considered b by Y 9 99 9 out of every every women in it I world and yet who are eating the i hearts out because of the imag n nor old 0 or real of some friend Lose Youth and Beauty They lose their sense of pr P J tion lose and bea beaw ut Y they youth whom v th they Y they to wrong everyone owe service and affe affection by the Via I stant fresh miseries of hag J j I what that other luckier w woman m man on n 0 doing We make our own heavens th this s earth and our own hells |