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Show Slaking a Choice . Independence and Loneliness or Dependence With Ties of Affection TO MOST persons there comes sometime in their lives the opportunity for a choice between independence and loneliness or ties and affection. The wise mature person thinks long before choosing the former above the latter. There are many young people, however, who feel so sure of themselves and their ability to "get along all right" that they are irked by the least restraint. They throw it off, only to discover later in life that affection is worth the curtailing curtail-ing restraint and dependence entailed. en-tailed. Companionship has been their portion up to the time of their decision that dependence is what they must have, at any cost. They have no idea of what loneliness lone-liness means. Separation. The adult who is separated from his family because of distance, domestic estrangement, or who has outlived the other members, realizes to the full what it means to be alone. It is when estrangement estrange-ment causes the separation that there are times when the alone-ness alone-ness is bearable or agreeable, but these times are interrupted by hours when the feeling of loneliness loneli-ness creeps over him (or her), and companionship, though with but a small degree of affection, is craved. Individuality. Human nature is so constituted that people cannot live in the same atmosphere and always see eye to eye. There is wisdom in this plan. Individuality would be quelled if what any person thought (how- ever beloved) could always be accepted without dissent by thos around him (or her). Nor can actions ac-tions of even those dear to us, invariably in-variably meet with our approval, whether expressed or unexpressed. unex-pressed. It is when we learn to permit personal differences without censure cen-sure that companionship, in the home or out of it, develops best. Even when children are young, they must be allowed a modicum of such freedom or when older they will long to break away, and if they do then there is loneliness in store for the youth, and sadness left in the home. Divorce. Married couples, when they contemplate con-template divorce, have the choice between independence plus loneliness, lone-liness, or dependence, each on the other with affection restored, or remaining less than could ba desired. It may be there is incom-patability, incom-patability, but it should be remembered re-membered that no two persons, married or single, can live together to-gether under the same roof and always be congenial. However, this does not signify that at heart affection is gone. Separation means loneliness for one or both of them. Families. Within a family there is sure to be some dissension at times young folk may quarrel and adults dispute. But when these times are over, the ties of affection, the associations as-sociations that intertwine, and the fabric of their lives so closely woven together, should prove a firm foundation for continued companionship. com-panionship. The door to loneliness should remain barred. Bell Syndicate. WN U Service. |