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Show mi If Sweetheart Keeps i I . j Post porting Wedding, J LJ She's Probably Fickle. LJ PEAR DORIS DENE: I have " been engaged or almost engaged en-gaged to a girl for two years. At first we couldn't make it public because be-cause of my family's objections but I talked them out of their attitude and they accepted my fiancee. However How-ever she refuses to let me announce the engagement even now. She keeps postponing the day of the wedding and if I hint to any of our friends that we are really engaged she flies into a temper. She won't wear the ring I gave her and she claims the right to have other boy friends and says I may have other girl friends. Through it all, she says she loves me and I believe her. But what is the meaning of her refusal to make the fact of our relationship known? B. R. F. ANSWER There is nothing more distasteful than having to enlighten a nice young chap as to the nature of his fickle sweetheart And certainly cer-tainly if your long letter, B. R. F., had given me a glimmer of hope for your case, I'd have stressed the hope for all it was worth. But the facts look uncompromisingly uncompromis-ingly clear. Here is a girl who presumably likes steady devotion as much as any other normally vain woman. She enjoys that sense of security induced in-duced by the knowledge that there is a man on hand waiting to do her bidding ready to be her escort anxious to prove his undying love for her. This she is not willing to give up. But on the other hand she has a sneaking suspicion that her steady beau is not the hero she's dreamed of. Perhaps if she waited a while, Mr. Right would come along. And in the meantime nothing could be more convenient than to have Mr. Wrong on tap registering devotion in a big way. Believe me, B. R. F., there are hundreds hun-dreds of heartless, selfish young things in the world who play this trick regularly regu-larly on their unsuspecting admirers. The wonder to me is the unfailing good-nature uith which these aident swains accept excuses and postponements postpone-ments and alibis. It must become apparent ap-parent after a while to even the most credulous youth that something is wrong with a situation in which a lady claims to love her hero yet continually continu-ally refuses to make him her private and personal possession. It is pretty safe to say that when a gal is in love, she will move Heaven Heav-en and earth to hasten the wedding date, not to postpone it. Unless there is a really grave reason for delay it is the female of the species who clamors for wedding bells. She wants her ring, and she wants her wedding, and she wants the world to know that Mr. Right belongs exclusively to her. She also wants to prevent any other woman from making even a temporary claim on her hero's time and affection. So that when a fiancee shilly shal-lies shal-lies and fakes excuses and urges freedom and independence for both parties to the contract she is demonstrating dem-onstrating fairly conclusively that she is not marriage-minded. She proves that she is holding on to a good sure thing with one hand and feeling around for a more exciting romance with the other. Be warned, B. R. F., and don't waste your youth waiting for your girl to find someone she likes better than you. DEAR DORIS DENE: My daughter daugh-ter married a boy three years ago who Is nice enough In his way but has proved a very bad provider. His salary at present does not enable en-able him to support a wife and they have had to come to live with me. I am not rich and as my daughter is not good at housework, I am overworked. over-worked. My son-in-law Is still working work-ing but at a greatly reduced salary. sal-ary. I feel that I am being made to pay for my daughter's matrimonial mistake but do not know how to get rid of the Incubus. Is It my duty to tell the boy lie must get out and fend for himself until lie is able to support sup-port his wife? Mrs. A. G. ANSWER First of all.it might be a good idea to train your daughter to be useful around the house so that nt least you would not be overworked. over-worked. Presumably if she had her own home she'd have to learn to be a good housekeeper and It Is certainly cer-tainly not right that she should be allowed to drift Idly along depending depend-ing on you to cook nnd clean and wait on her. In fact it looks as though your daughter's problem were more serious se-rious than your son-in-law's. There is no evidence to prove that your son-ln-luw Is nnythlng but a well-meaning boy who believed that he was able to give your daughter daugh-ter o home. It Is unfortunate for you that he has found himself to be in wrong but honestly you can't blame him. I'm must regard the marriages as a partnership which has been temporarily tempora-rily rendered financially unbound. ) nil mint understand thai under the circumstances cir-cumstances it is up lo your daughter to do all she ran to help the man she's married, tnd surely her best means helping is to be as ellii ienl hi possible possi-ble in assisting ynu hji homework. I venture to say that if you had a willing able helper with you In your home, doing her utmont to spare you all the toll mid worry of the day, you would not be so seriously concerned Willi the present state u( tilings. llrll Hvnilk-nlv.-WNU Norvlc. |
