Show t i Kathleen Norris Says lj No Husband Is Perfect Dell Boll Syndicate Features tJ WI r 11 i i 4 c I J s sW ss sw sw s w w W Carol reads his paper at breakfast I f read mine We ITe both keep an eye ere on Jackie lackie see sec that tat he lie finishes h his milk and gets off aD in In time This five days cIas a week By KATHLEEN NORRIS weakens a aI NOTHING I I womans woman's will like a alove alove L. L 4 love affair Nothing so completely turns reason topsy top top- sy sy and breaks down the principles the principles the codes that have been years a When it comes some years after marriage to a wife who has begun to doubt her own charm begun to fear that her day of compliments and thrills is over what a love af fair does to her spirits how it brightens her eyes and renews her zest in life And what a terrible pity that is for lor like strong drink gambling racing horse-racing firearms and turnip ina in ina ina a stew passion has to be u used ed with extreme caution or it ruins every every- thing That's the way civilization has worked it out a hard way but the only safe road to follow One man manfor manfor manfor for one woman and fidelity from both and no teasing and playing with love along the sidelines If you have a husband who is even 50 per percent percent percent cent satisfactory youve you've done as well as most women have no more to endure than they have and would be wise to draw most of your happiness happi happl happiness ness from other sources Illicit Love Causes Suffering It would be pleasant if it an attractive attractive attractive tive wife could have an affair with witha a strange man say man say a handsome young captain recently stationed in her neighborhood Pleasant if Li nobody nobody no no- body would be hurt But the catch catchis is that somebody is hurt the hurt the other other other oth oth- er husband and wife suffer the tortures tortures tortures tor tor- tor- tor tures of Purgatory children suffer I neighbors and families are disappointed disappointed disappointed pointed if H i not scandalized and inthe inthe in inthe the end the lovers pay too Neither one all the rest of his or her days is particularly proud in fn looking back to those delirious hours of passion So make up your mind before the affair really gets under way that I what has been the law for or strong and self respecting folk for generations generations generations genera genera- is the right law faithfulness to that promise made on a June day of radiant happiness and confidence so many years ago Here is a letter from a woman who wants to jump the ropes after 11 years of marriage Of course I Iam Iam Iam am going to advise her not to do it but the chances are shell she'll do it any any- look at the way laY She has only to lures of some of the men and vu who have done it to see what sh she is letting herself in for but no one one ever does when an affair affair af af- fair ha has gotten a good start Husband Wife Wile Drift Apart We have one son of eight sole sale interest interest interest in in- is writes Winifred He our terest in common But for Jackie I believe Carol and I might go days without speaking to each other There is no quarreling although in inthe inthe in inthe the beginning of our marriage we did quarrel a good deal We simply dont don't exist for each other Carol reads his paper at breakfast I read mine We both keep an eye on Jackie see that he finishes his milk and md gets oft off in time This five days a week On Saturday Jackie has sweeping watering and raking to todo todo todo the afternoon he and his do do- doin in father pick a movie never one that I 1 want to see I hate bombing zooming of planes close small theaters thea thea- Saturday night poker club for Carol and usually dinner with a school pal for Jackie Sunday Carol drops Jackie and me at my mothers mother's mothers mother's mothers mother's moth moth- ers er's house goes on to the country club M Mother ther is an invalid very nervous and i if I can leave Jackie with some friend or send him Wm on with his father I usually do My sister unmarried and very delicate lives with my mother there is no quarrel between them and my husband husband husband hus- hus band but he rarely goes to the house I try to cheer my own people lunch l r J 1 ri i. i a TILL T DEATH US DO DOPART DOPART DOPART PART Strict adherence to the marriage marriage marriage mar mar- vows as a foundation for self respect and the respect of others is the basis of this weeks week's advice by Kathleen Norris She reminds a woman woman wom worn an who is about to bring tragedy to her child through divorce that all men even her herh h husband have faults and that if she has bias a partner who is is even 50 per cent satisfactory she has done as well uell as most women In her letter this woman writes that she and her husband simply dont don't exist for each other She STze believes believes believes be be- she can find happiness by marrying another man with them and walk back to a quiet house to wait for the others About two months ago I met an army doctor of 51 I am 34 From the first moment we two liked each other and now our feeling is something something something some some- thing much stronger Harry is married married married mar mar- ried has two grown girls he and his wife wile have been estranged though living together with every outside appearance of harmony for many years He is commissioned will go goback goback goback back to private life after the war and lives in a distant suburban town We want I will say frankly to get divorces and be free to marry I Ito Ito Ito to keep Jackie with me The lawyer to whom I spoke about it said that with a minor child that was customary cus eus- tomary but I would have to make it very clear as Carol has a sister with young children who would gladly take Jackie Plans Flans Home With Doctor My problem is to find some someplace someplace someplace place in the West where I could take my boy and where we could live quietly during the processes of divorce Meanwhile Harry would write his wife and set the wheels in motion there Then if he is sent as he expects to be overseas I would go to his own town establish establish lish myself and Jackie there and begin at once to make friends and prepare a home for his return What do you think of that plan and where would you advise me to go go I have not attempted to tell teil you jou ou what this inrush of new happiness and love means to me how good life suddenly sudden sudden- ly seems how miraculously changed is the world I will spare you that And she signs it Joyfully yours Poor Winifred her letter is one of the most pitifully deluded I ever read the most childishly blind Does she imagine for one moment that a doctor doctor of of all professions professions-is is going to re-establish re a good practice in a suburban town whose every resident knows that when he went off olI to war he threw over his wife for another woman Does Docs she really really really real real- ly think that having completely failed to hold her first husbands husband's interest interest in interest in- in terest and companionship she is capable of starting of off with a new almost unknown husband and making making making mak mak- ing a success of it If she does she is heading for a terrible disillusion ment For one thing Carol with a good sister to whom to send him is very unlikely to give up his child Pang first for Winifred Then in Harrys Harry's unknown suburban town she has not a n friend She would be homesick homesick homesick home home- sick and strange disliked from the start and suffering a heavy handicap handi handi- C cap lp More pangs Then when she discovered that a dull life lle makes a dull husband that Harry wasn't so very different from Carol and that at least part of the trouble in her first marriage was her fault the she h would really begin to suffer Far better for her to change herS her self than change her situation Change into someone amusing and ard intelligent and above all alt arTe affection i n. n I ate f. f tr |