Show KATHLEEN NORRIS no T TWO Wo marriages are the some same AST YEAR an idaho woman Is wr wro ate te mi me ancL ana asked me if 1 I thought her hei ST 27 year year old daughter who I 1 iq stone blind should marry the man who loved her had a good job with ahe local electric power plant and had been beeh her beau since high school daysly answer to this woman was i definitely no ao this week I 1 have another letter regarding a marriage between a sighted and a blind person but this time the circumstances are somewhat different barbara also Is 27 and the maudis a war veteran four years younger barbara was his nurse through a long and painful hospital siege stege and ands othey know each other pretty well ile he hacob has obtained ajob a job at only 80 a month as organist in a nearby near by church barbara Is head night norse in a large hospital and makes three times as much they could be comfortable for table in her hospital roams rams love and ad devotion to bar ibara bara are the deepest and happiest emotions he has hag ever known raised and somewhat neglected by a busy father and stepmother he his has never known intimate loving companionship and exactly that Is what barbara longs to give him she herself has i been hungry tor for love and i domesticity early orphaned lonely plain but the picture she sencie sent i me showed an intelligent and likeable face fac eshe she Is just the ahe girl to appreciate hughs sensitive hungry eagerness for or the miracle of her loveana love and her helpin his darkness in the pt picture urh the Is wheeling hughs c chair h a I 1 r through some magnificent garden and Hugh Is smiling mosi most perfect unions so 1 I bayto sayto say to these two ga go ofie ahead U find and god bless you this might be one of the wonderful marriages marrin for many of the most perfect unions was his bis ourse are the apparently handicapped ones my reasons on the other hand tor for writing the idaho woman as I 1 did were based as every marriage is upon circumstances that make it just a little different from any other her daughter avalene Av allne had fallen in love with what might be called a run of the mill young roan man that Is 13 carlton had a salary of 55 a week a car a club a circle of friends who liked an occasional duck hunting week end a weekly game of poker a certain abbu amount nt of informal entertaining A smart woman could manage all that perhaps on less than a year but Av avallie Avalt allne ne alth although ough she is brilliant cultured and alas for herl deeply in loye possibly take over the careful marketing the kitchen details that must be watched every hour it if this pair were to remain solvent sol vint too hard a task it sweetheart had been an established professional man whose home was in the hands of st a good housekeeper or if ho ha had been a much older man the family doctor or lawyer ithe the marriage marriaga raight might well have been successful but never to know whether or not her room and her kitchen and the lowers flowers in the sitting room and the books in the cases were tn in order never to be able to drive to meet carlton at the office always to be the helped and the pitied one among a group of amusement lov ing friends this would prove too hard a task and unlike other women it her marriage went on the rocks avaline console herself with the bitter philosophy that after all she might get her freedom reform her life on more endurable lines avalene would have been handed over completely to carlton and tier her family would be rell relieved eved of what even she must realize is a burden it would be impossible to go back but as I 1 wrote her mother a blind person is a burden only when that blind person Is placed in a false position and there are many positions in which blindness can be minimized almost almos tto to the vanishing point boint while she can be at it home with the tha mother and brother who love her avalene is as fortuna fortunately teli placed as she could be anywhere but asI as I 1 wrote her she would be wise to prepare e are for the tha time when her mother will not be ba with her and the younger brother may marry I 1 suggested that she get in touch with whatever institutions handle the problems of the ahe blind in her cerii community learn a hand band craft learn a language just for the mental menial stimulus tim ulus open a few of the many doors that are open to those e who cannot see but when all Is said any marriage can bo be a success any one can be a failure some conditions seem harder some seem more ideal |