Show KATHLEEN NORRIS johnnie bosses in inthe the kitchen litchen how TU OW mul MUCH BOSSING should a wife take demands minna carew carswe a st paul housewife and mother of three boys 1 I am 31 her letter goes on ei everything very about my life would ibe serene and satisfactory to me if it were not for johnnie Johnn le my husband that is it if it were not tor for johnnies Johnn les in ter fering wi with r h what I 1 consider my business my business bushness busl ness is the rooms the beds the kitchen the dinner plans the fam faint ilys lys clothing the childrens schooling our ho hospitals ties simple as they are and our amusements filco all other ho house e wives I 1 add to these the extra tasks of such crisis as illnesses family visitors and general supervision of manners homework radio programs garden r moderation node ration in use of light telephone car gas this items seema to me a full job demanding real budgeting of time and energy as well as money to johnnie johnnee it la Is merely a haphazard collection of minor dt dulles Ales easily shunted and changed about and never to be regarded BS important for example my training has been to leave a spott less kitchen at night half set the break breakfast fait table the last thing wipe and air the childrens lunch boxes and generally get ready for the morning the children help greg gre g and tony help me with clearing up they are as handy a as girls these thesa are twins of 10 th the baby Is only 8 5 but even he to Is useful johnnie hates all this he says his mother always piled the dishes in tho the sink and amused her husband ai I 1 4 M N 1 I 1 OP bs bloss Oss is the kitchen in the evenings ile he says gays I 1 am mak ng sissies of the boys and ancl though I 1 lovo love and admire his mother and know that it was only on rare occasions that she was a slipshod housewife a and n d though my boys sturdily persist that they are going to help mother johnnie will never give ive la in when the kitchen Is in ordera matter of perhaps 20 minutes we wa go systematically at homework johnnie then says that he be has no wife and no children and he will on the radio so loud it distracts the boys sometimes we vre moye move upstairs into the back room tor for quiet quiel what especially exasperates me and makes me feel really unfriendly to johnnie Johnn le concludes minna Is what happe happened nedi two nights ago we had faur guests our clergyman and a histing bishop and their wives and I 1 gave the boys an earlier supper so that everything would be nice tor for us the dinner was perfect and everyone was ina in a relaxed and conversational mood afterward when johnnie over my astonished protests pretests said suddenly that we always had to do the dishes right after dinner min stand for delay and we had to tc I 1 set the breakfast table too they 1 an all played up most kindly everyone helped but rny my evening was rul ruined tied and I 1 think theirs was wa too after ward johnnee and I 1 had a talk not quarreling and decided to ask you whether my jobs job justify me in making my own rules and my own hours and having them ie re spec spooled ted ridiculous conduct my dear minna johnnies Johnn les ridic ridiculous conduct Is similar to that of t thousand of husbands who take their own stuffy office tiling filing and copying and dictating as important and sacred b ut toss off the little lauk laughable hable jobs as sporadic gay little duties that need never soil her pretty fingertips or very seriously interrupt her novel reading and chocolate nibbling such men are ara immature the job of homemaking homernik ing and of raising a family takes two persons and of the two jobs yours Is infinitely the more important in its effect upon the morals mentality and cal health of the race it must be handled not only with good will and affection but with real knowledge of food values child psychology sanitation domestic science in a word I 1 gather that minna carew knows known something of all of these and puts her knowledge know ledga into energetic practice they tackle the congealed gravy the crumbs and sticky plates and crusted pots next morning morn Lag personally isavei always belonged to the other school except of course on too tile ec occasions ea of entertaining distinguished visitors that was pure mischief lel orf johnnies John Johnni espart part and indicates dl sot something ethling wrong with both his heart apil and his head A I 1 would advise johnnie to contina confine his observations regarding affairs in hla his household to two remarks amla mill youie youre a wonder and darling I 1 dont see eee how you manage it ant all |