Show kathleen norris says say what one F mily did dell cell syndicate WU features feature 01 0 od 4 M 0 o ma she did not try to change him or spur him into efforts that were beyond him by KATHLEEN NORRIS LIFFORD LAWRENCE C who went vent to school with me married a girl from brittany his father who was an authority on international law went to france on an important case took cliff as his secretary cliff met denise whose father kept an inn and married her he never has regretted it clifford made four separate attempts but he never passed the bar examinations his father lost all his money and going was very hard for all the lawrences laurences Lawren ces all through the depression denise however never was daunted by this time she had two boys and a girl she he found an old farmhouse moved into it took boarders and eventually opened a roadside restaurant tau rant to which real french cooking drew a fine trade every weekend cliff meanwhile had tried a good many things without success and denise came to accept him as exactly the man she had married not better and no worse always amiable and affectionate musical well read good looking and well groomed a good father and fk a good husband she did not try to change him bim or to spur him into efforts that were beyond him they worked together denise unquestionably did the brain work and cliff just as unquestionably stion ably took i on several jobs far beneath the dignity of the average american husband that Is he went event to market he brought in ice he waited on tables everyone worked the boys and the girl worked too denise was a proud and loving mother but there was no nonsense about her jim drove the station wagon to meet trains pierre brought in wood marle marie was every where from the age of 10 on there was hardly anything about the farm that marie do the they had their own chickens cows f bees bee squabs squats from the first they lived like lords and they saved money pierre perre is now a doctor but jim goes on with the family business which clears about a year marie is a war widow with three babies she lives with her father and mother and helps jim but the hard hard days of demises Deni ses slavery are long over there is a little florida place there are two ponies for the seven grandchildren dents denise at 60 la is broad serene silvered and happy cliff loves her leans on her admires her perhaps because we all worked together she answered me when I 1 complimented her upon the shady sweet flower filled restaurant the lamous famous crepes cerepes and tete de boeuf sifroid the handsome serving girls who come over from brittany and make good marriages here he her r own villa over the lake her gardens and orchards perhaps I 1 found out what I 1 could do and what cleef could do and let him do it if never losing his cifes confidence and love the children were taught that work Is good she went on they had plenty of play plenty ot of gifts and privileges while they earned them they knew of our hard times they shared them they saw other families less happy breaking up drawing apart cleef has always been good always understood that nothing else elde mattered as long as we worked it out together she finished with many an american husband it might not be so perhaps she has the secret there in few american marriages are the cares duties and responsibilities of overworked mother gets no help husband and wife shared bills business Is a mystery to marian when the she marries him and just as deep a mystery on the day ot of the golden wedding it if they get getto to a golden wedding but most times they dont no sharing of duties marian wastes his money because she has no idea of its value when she wants to move to a more expensive apartment she wangles wa him into it at a cost of tears scorn per sl si stence stubbornness worthy of a better object when he r refuses fuses her for a new fur coat s ahelias sh elias the old one re cut at a cost ok oi bill on his side feels it beneath his dignity to come home homet tired and pitch right in on table setting ba bies baths trips up and down stairs she would not dare ask him even to watch the chops or fill the water glasses gl asies thatcher That sher her jobi and ana the accident of the wet crib and tho the spilled ink and the wasp floating around the belling are her job too marian may be dropping with fatigue when two babies are in bed with whooping cough and the third Is somewhere about the neighborhood entirely unconscious of the passage of time tirrie but buti she cant ask bill to read peter rabbit to the invalids start supper or hunt up tile the truant everything must be wonderful for bill when he gets home its a pity for operation cooperation co and companionship and sharing are what wh athold hold marriages mori lages together og ether unify interests help formulate plans for happier and easler easier times when the wife the money conscientiously and intelligently and the husband shares the home duties the miracle of atrue a true marriage Is under way |