Show kathleen norris says grin gi and bear it bell syndicate features fea turea I 1 14 t 11 it blau those babie yours youn are ara fetter etter off with a neglectful yet friendly and gaa gay mother and their grandmothers dully daily visits than they would oiin be in an institution by KATHLEEN NORRIS HERE are timea times when THERE acure there is no immediate cure for in an intolerable situation times alien we simply simi s I 1 y have to grin and bear it there here is no use arguing argul ng ab about out guiti justice ce and reason they have nothing to do wi with thit it things are all wrong and they are going to stay wrong and we nave have to wait for the long months or years to bring about the ch change arige such a case case seems to be bb that of a lieutenant who writes me from florida his wife and babies babias live in wo worcester arcester rc ester mass mais they C cant go to him forit for it is impossible to find living quarters where heas he Is and he gets home to visit only no now and then ihen my wife Is ei extremely pretty says pays his letter she Is 10 years younger athani which ellch means cheis she la 24 our children are a girl of 0 5 and a boy ot of 4 betly bedy Is gay and friendly she loves boves a good time jime an and dwell well in a word she sha Is unfaithful to me she goes about with a fast crowd stays mays away nights neglects neglect ithe the children runs nto into debt and Is altogether unsatisfactory it if I 1 le reproach her for an unald untidy home crying children who always have colds in their heads unpaid bills fand and affairs with other men she only anly laughs she deny anything desperately when il I 1 was last at home Lac I 1 accused cuse aher her of having lovers and she answered boldly tm m fotr asking you any questions and while joulie youre away if dons dont think that what whit ado I 1 do is 19 any of your busin business essil I 1 any of my business what my wife diesl does I 1 going Ovir overseas seas of 01 course concludes the letter athis sort of action odther on her part and this attitude have somewhat destroyed my old love for her but what I 1 want your advice about Is what lant can I 1 domy mother Is dead I 1 have no sister nursery homes for babies of those agal ages aro are too costly and although bettys mother is living i and goes in dally daily to acl do what inocan sho can forthe for the C children hll dren she 13 3 not noi strong enough to assume full care of them I 1 am shortly to be sent overseas it Is unthinkable to me that 1 I must tolerate the ignominy and discomfort of this state of affairs can you ri recommend commend to me any society that cares for cases like this and might help me find a place placa where I 1 could put my babies 0 0 no don I 1 dont and if I 1 did I 1 recommend it this Is a miserable problem tor for you and you have my hean lest sympathy to have to go away to the battlefront under these there circumstances Is a real martyrdom and tho the bitter thoughts that tha tare are seething within you will do nothing to strengthen your arm or quiet your nerves when the hour of crisis comes but at A the same time those babies of yours are better oil with the neglectful yet gay and friendly mother and with the daily visits of the grandmother then than they would be in any institution or under any careylu car care eyou you could buy for them now all the kindly older women who used to care tor for little charges in comfortable homes are out in the world pow now driving rivets nursing wounded packing over overseas peas food and clothing it would be ba much wiser tor for you r j she loves d good arise to endure what you cant at the moment cure write betty as pleas antly antl yand and affectionately as you yot idan can trust liento her to grow up to improve ve to become a better mother praise her hei to io her mother and praise her root inot herto hero her v I 1 I 1 if as your letter lette r indicates your last hallil with her bei was somewhat in ith the a natu nature re of a an n angry scene ignore it artle WrIt etier her as if it hid no occurred you will find that she has cooled down too and will be gladdo resume relationship oh the old basis when you are a away send her a present now and then iff if louian you ian can in other words make thebert the best beit ofa of a bad ad situ situation atio n and w wait alt until the war ends to dome to another understanding 1 I 1 I no code of decency sheer decency should have kept betty from these excesses of course sheer decency on the part of certain national leaders would have prevented this warl war and you would boat be at home ome still la in your nor normal m a 0 o occupation C cup cu pation able to protect yo your ur wife and children but where code and honor honoret hon dont exist or where a weak ea easily s lly ln in fluen ced woman is is left too much to her own devices wretched crises like ilka these do occur and they have bobe to bo faced like the abnormal problems they are it might be b that in anger betty exaggerated her escapades just to provoke you it be you come home in a year or two louwill you will find a dif terent sort of wife mont attempt to solution now leaveat leave it to time it Is hard to reach the understate understanding of a girl like this One reminds her berof ot duty character code fine nass ness moral law she never heard the her only law Is that of pleasure Ie asure and she sha t gadany hada any I 1 guidance even to show her what pleasure Is sato safe and what is dan berous ge rousi rous prayer and gorace would saved her has ever taught her what grace is or how to pray her whole argument and creed and bil lefand law are covered by the one express expressive ivl phrase so what |