| Show kathleen norris says moral code result of long bell syndicate service 41 0 I 1 J 71 7 some women never tease getting into romantic mischief they go on into wrinkles end and gray hair still looking for conquests still secretly proud because men continue to so be e selfishly attentive to them by KATHLEEN NORRIS WO words that used to TWO TAmer play an enormous part in american icah family life are duty and morality these terms went out of fashion along a long while ago our younger generation know how to apply them to general behavior duty they think means doing certain disagreeable things whether you want to or not and what a nerve anyone has to ten tell you what you should or dol do morality means not lying g not talking scandal keeping your word keeping y your our thoughts and your actions cure pure conquering in bod your i soul as much as you can feelings of hate revenge jealousy lust anger not being intemperate not bein being p proud roud not being selfish r it comfortable to be bagood bg good t one of the wisest women I 1 know said one day 1 I iss secret of married bliss so that when an old wife talks to a younger afie one and aad advises her to make humility and pil patience leAce forgiveness give gi veness neis and understanding a par part ori of her wedding outfit she is not advocating vo cating a course that leads to martyrdom she is giving the br bride ide the secret oi of married happi happiness neos she is telling her that tha t s she a w wp be happler happier in the long run u will indeed aed be one of the truly successful and contented women of the world it if she goes into matrimony armeo armed with a sense of duty and a strong determination mi nation to keep the moral law once that law is accepted firmly nothing else matters v X here is a letter rom om acoman whose hose experience unfortunately is somewhat typical today it is just possible possibly that if come some good mother t 20 years ago had giventer given her a sound respect for morality and duty her story might have been different twelve years ago I 1 was madly in love with a doctor I 1 will call bill slie she writes me he loved me too but he want to get ma married it hur my pride to be the one most inlove in love but there was no help forit tor it and even though I 1 knew he any paragon para goh I 1 was weak enough to give him everything be asked v first love renewed after awhile he went away and I 1 forr formed ried a deep affection for another man frank frank was the one in love now but I 1 med liked him so much that eventually we were married had a nice home hoie and a soli son and andi daughter five years igo ago we lost our boy a grief ailef that caused me a serious illness in this illness my doctor was bill who had come back to town and soon the old in took possession of us both with bill the more ardent this time he was married now and had two little girls frank discovered our affair and ana was heartbroken asi as I 1 was also for he had always been the kind kindest estand and best of husbands and had never known of my affair with bill W we were divorced and bill was divorced by his wife and he andi and I 1 were married wretchedly unsuited to each other this union was doomed from the first bill was wag always talking about his first wife and how wonderful she was and I 1 soon discovered that he was taking his daughters to lunch once a week and that often she joined them 1 I w went e nt to reno and feeling lone A WORD TO THE WISE what a pity we tv are so reluctant to heed good children dont diketo like to hear about such disagreeable things as duty and morality and when an older olden woman tells a younger orce one that the way to insure the happiness hap pines I 1 of her marriage is by pati patience encI I 1 tolerance i and forgiveness the younger youn ger woman is likely to say something about not wanting to be a martyr but the prevalence of this attitude does not alter the font fact that thai only through obeying the lesof ru ra morality modality can we I 1 achieve that larger freedom which is so different from mere willfulness and which esthe is the only real basis for a lasting happiness let kathleen borris tell you why she might have helped the geor glanna gianna 1 of this letter if she had known her mother twenty years year s ago I 1 ly and blue associated there with a group of very rich people who thought of only good times among oam was was an attractive man of 50 who d devoted ted himself to me I 1 confess f t that ev at my mood was one one of recklessness and irresponsibility I 1 made several i trips with him to san francisco and let him make me some very handsome gifts but all the while my heart was steadily turning back to frank and the security and happiness we vie had known in in our home with our bea beautiful u little girl I 1 longed for them both and for my husbands advice and understanding when 1 I received a letter from hi him saying that chat he felt the same wa way and that tanya needed her mother molher my heart was filled with joy for the first time in years but the squire as 1 I call my reno friend also wants me to marry him he has been three times di divorced voiced but in two cases it has been beeh to freshw free his wife for a marriage she desired r the first time it was from a woman woman 28 years his senior senior helas he was but 27 then seeks true happiness can you hilp help me find my way to true hali happiness through this mesh of lof mistakes I 1 know I 1 am a foolish weak woman although I 1 have haie never consciously done anything that could hurt anyone but myself but I 1 do be happy even though I 1 am 32 now and dont expect the raptures of young love again the squire has little money but he lives in new york land and knows e everyone worth knowing to gp go back ack to frank on the other hand means my old environment my old friends and my little girl which way lies wisdom georgianna Geor glanna who writes this thi s letter includes a picture of herself a pardonable bit of vanity for she is a beautiful woman slim well dressed with a smart hat sweeping oft off her face i a C e and her hands in the pockets of a magnificent fur coat she looks capable of getting into a lot more mischief before she is through such women in truth never get through they go on into wrinkles and crimps and gray grab hair still looking for conquests still secretly proud of themselves because men continue to be selfishly attentive to them I 1 have no advice for her she take it anyway but it if I 1 had known her mother 20 years ago I 1 might have been able to say some tiling chaj tha would have been helpful something about morality and duty |
