Show kathleen kathlee n N norms L I 1 orris says tito tie unfaithful wife BK bell features feature 9 X T IL A low e the two young women have apparently been having a pretty good time at dances theaters movies and night clubs with various admirers by KATHLEEN NORRIS A N ARMY lieutenant 37 A A years old writes me from wales where he has been stationed for a year to ask if he should forgive his wife for admitted infidelity the tha wife blanche Is 29 they have been married for 10 years and have one child a girl of seven seve n blanche lives in chicago keeping house with another army wife who also has a little daughter the two young women have apparently been having a pretty good time at dances theaters movies nightclubs night clubs with various admirers now she writes her husband clerk clark that in this one instance her affection for one of these men has gone too far the man has left chicago for the south seas now and has gone out of her life but for a few weeks before he went away he and blanche were lovers he Is a married man clark writes 9 me and blanche swears that she che never will see him again nor write to him and that she is ashamed of the whole affair A ef week aft after I 1 had her letter which seemed to crack the actual ground under my feet I 1 had a note from the he mans mani wife informing me of the affair and that seemed to me to take away a good deal of the honesty of my cifes admission letters from a good many people hint bint of it and she may have suspected that I 1 would hear about it for the childs sake she asks vie to forgive end and fo forget aget and I 1 confess that that to is my inclination for I 1 love my wife adore my child and have lived all these months in the thought of returning to our happy little home again but can a man ever trust a woman after an affair like this will she do it again if anyone else had told me that my sensible loving lovely wife was capable of this sort of thing I 1 would not have believed it on oath lie ile erred too one other thing the letter concludes which perhaps may influence your decision when we had been married about three years when yvonne was a tiny baby I 1 had an affair abaer with a divorced woman who worked in my iny office it went on tor for more than a year when blanche discovered it through the accident of my addressing her and talking to her on the telephone ar one day believing it was the other woman I 1 ended the affair she forgave me and we never made further allusion to it should her generosity then affect me now 1 I feel it unfair to consider a woman comans 8 ottense in this matter more serious than a mans but I 1 do feel so do you yes dark clark I 1 A do especially in this case where the woman knew well what she was doing it fair that rules should be different for women and for men aad in a strictly moral sense they are abt but by society they are differently regarded and bid and women from the beginning of time have had to accept the situation it is generally recognized that women have more self control in matters of sex ess es s than men do are arc finer in their feelings and wise enough to know that tor for this sort of weakness they pay the bill so 1 I Z see S how you both feet eel that while a wise man may easily be snared by a woman into a love affair a wise woman is much better fitted to avoid the danger however that may be bc your only course la is to forgive blanche and wipe the matter as completely from your mind and your memory as you can should any of these dear friends who have turned informer ever allude to it it will be enough for you to say briefly that you understand the whole situation and that it concerns you and blanche alone walt wait till you yon come home whether you two can make a success of a marriage in which confidence has been destroyed on both sides Is a question but apparently parent ly harmony was uthel alter after your infidelity a tew few years berrr ago and it may be restored again at all events it seems to me the wise thing Is to wait until the war Is over or until you are home again and then sis see how you both feel and how things go you yon will probably find end wife once nee again lovely loraly and loving your year home and your small daugh ter ier everything to is which a man wants to come came back surely it I 1 Is 2 more senoble to make mabe this atie attempt in p t at a fresh start than to return embittered lonely with no place to go and no ties to resume you will not be the only man who will have to make this sort of compromise when he be comes home in hundreds of cases there will be mistakes to forgive stupidities to overlook in all cases there will be a dep deep chasm to cros th the chasm between the old orderly way of living and the new conditions which none of us can foresee the dreadful chasm of war which car arlea our ur boys away from home and all the home homa influences accustoms their joung young eyes to sights no eyes ever ought tasee hurries burries them into anio hasty marriages hasty baity divorces hasty decisions they are going to need all that we have of courage and stability and code and love to bring them back it Is tor for you and blanche to contribute to this effort rather than to increase the worlds burden |