Show kathleen norris says when marriage harriage e goes coq s stale bell features 7 14 ig f P S 4 I 1 cap X 0 0 do 4 she wont lace face the simple truth that every woman knows in her heart shat this ecstatic flame that is devouring her has a very unstable base of physical passion and flattered vanity by KATHLEEN NORRIS HE oth other erday day one of the papers had a little story a about a young woman who lost a hundred pounds much to the improvement of her beauty and health when someone asked her how she did it she said 1 I dieted dietel and I 1 fell in love nothing takes off weight like falling in love or being under the pressure ofa of a terrible grief because both those emotions are all absorbing the woman newly inlove in love looks at her mod food curiously what isit Is it oh lunch she allt tastes it hungry she is ii thinking of nothing but douglas whom she will see gee tomor tomorrow foW and if she 64 keeps this up s for more than a few days she begins to lose weight A delightful way way to lose weight too which one of us like always to have the dazzled agonizing delicious floating and flying seri sensation that is being in love unfortunately it is as baseless an emotion as the sweet drowsiness that envelopes the drug addict sense and reason are dulled anything everything sounds true to the lover the stout middle aged married man believes that the exquisitely pretty eighteen year old is madly iri in love with him the frustrated wits wife of 40 listens enraptured to the compliments of a boy of 22 there is no use arguing about it lovers never hear anything except what they want to hear I 1 drifted apart please let me put to you ou fer your advice a situation that has arisen in my life and that I 1 want vant to solve right away for all concerned writes phyllis taylor a vassar graduate wh who jives olives in nashville 1 I arr am 33 and have been married to jack for 11 years year we behave have two sons aged nine hine and six I 1 ladore adore my boys and I 1 think that from their manners health and intelligence you would think me a good mother jack jackus is a lawyer moderately successful he and I 1 like each other and respect each other but we have few interests in common jack goes to his club every thursday night and quite often on same some other night about once once a week i he likes to go duck hunting deer de r hunting fishing in a very in formal way I 1 mean with a friend or two cam camping or in some little boat they hire for a weekend week aleek end the boys chatter atthe brak breakfast fast table tab leJack jack reads the paper they chatter at the dinner table he reads the paper he is amiable was very good to my mother who liv lived edwith with us until her death six months ago and will always answer a question interestedly but we seem to have drifted far apart after Mot mothers Aers death I 1 went to a neurologist because I 1 was upset in every way not sleeping well depressed ile he is a alne fine man quiet 12 years older than 1 I widowed with two girls of 14 and 10 he helped me from the first life became worth living again and best of all I 1 grew patient with jack little things seem to trouble me any more david to call ball him that had sug exercise a diet really worthwhile re reading adino discovers new love two months ago in his office we discovered our love for each other and faced the facts I 1 is was truly amazed not having realized where 1 I was drifting or rather being car ried by a current too strong tor for me to resist david man fashion would have thrown all discretion to the winds in the terrific weeks that followed when I 1 was in such a state of emotional excitement excite mei that I 1 hard GREENER FIE FIELDS it is truer of marriage than of almost anything else hat an others lot inevitably seems better than ones own the distant fields field you amow know always look greener ati at close range they rarely are better and frequently are far worse phyllis taylor ls is regarding the prospect of divorce and remarriage marriage re front from the safe ilife distance of domestic security and kathleen norris aware 0 of the pitfalls of change urges her to cling last fast to that security and I 1 to make the most of it ly knew whitt what was go going ingon on but I 1 did any capitulation until I 1 dould could think it all out and decide what was fair I 1 felt then that our fueling because of its very violence might b be short lived but today it is stronger than ever david wants me to get odi a divorce vorce bring machu my children to hi his lonely house and create forus for us all a real home again his little girls are darlings and although I 1 do not see them much I 1 know they are ready to love me david is devoted to my boys so that the only sufferer in this whole case would be sack jack who has no idea of the situation if I 1 should force myself to be strong enough to sacrifice my own feeling in this matter I 1 lapse back into the loneliness and stupidity of my old life I 1 also sacrifice the love of the finest man I 1 have ever known I 1 rob his daughters of adother a mother P a homans womans influence in the years whelk they most need it and I 1 deprive my sonson sons son of what is a step up in the social and economic scale david talks of their college careers promises them circuses and bicycles and has already won their small hearts Is it wise is li it right to give u up P the immediate and great happi of all of us merely because this will be a real blow to jack of courso course it will I 1 he has been taking home wife hot dinner sons sons loved love and consideration for granted it about tune time he waked up his sister is married to his partner in the firm the natural thing would be for him to liv live ethere there he could see the boys boyd whenever he liked there would be no unpleasantness and but I 1 hardly gidare dare tell you kou how rny ray heart sings at the thought of such a future tor for met wont face the truth poor phyllis having failed to work out personal happiness from the th rich store of gifts life has hai already given tier her she is as confident as a child of three that unlimited candy and being allowed to stay up late will be all her heart de desires she realize the tremendous fight that jack would put up for his sons i the unpleasantness of it she stop to think of the opinion of her friends the instant sympathy that would turn to jack the criticism of her she wont tont face the simple truth that every woman knows to in her heart that this ecstatic flame that thai is devouring her has a very unstable base of physical passion and flattered vanity nature is managing the hung hunger er part that is her business none of us would be here if it and david is supplying the sugar coating and oh ch how sweet flattery Is when it comes ln in thelow the low voice bf an adoring malel male phyllis must be bewitched indeed andee d it if she thinks jack is going to surrender his sons to the man who broke up tip his home woman after woman fondly imagines this but in the end the boys go to the partner who is in general public opinion the injured one |