Show Et Etiquette quette of Engagements PROPER F FASHION OF ANNOUNCING G THE EVENT ANY y people who are M MANY MA formed about social customs or 01 who live lIvo far away aay from a 0 representative center confer of ot so society society so- so seem to be bo under the Impression that the time announcement of ot an engagement engagement engagement engage engage- ment Is a 0 matter which demands the assembling of ot friends who are then thon told of ot the event by some member of ot the family of ot the tho fair tair fiancee Nothing Nothing Nothing Noth Noth- ing could bo be further removed from correct correct correct cor cor- usage than this Idea nothing could In reality bo be In orse taste than for or a mother or anyone to Invite friends for tor the tho purpose of ot announcing an engagement en engagement engagement en- en and to toll tell the tho news In such uch sucha ucha a manner In the pre presence enco of ot tho the blushIng blushing blush- blush In Ing elect bride while friends exclaim or evince their surprise or rush forward forward for tor- ward to offer congratulations or perhaps per per- haps laps feel fecI embarrassed sed at being compelled com com- to say with good grace what Is expected of ot them The Imagination c cannot conjure up a scene more distasteful than this would bo be to anyone anono who possesses a sense of ot the time fitness of ot things No It 13 Is not the tho correct custom to Invite friends for tor an any such purpose nor to tomake make n a young oung girl a tar target et for tor con con- There Thero Is a 0 delre decree nf of r rl re- re servo serve and modesty still existing g in modern manners Tho The proper and dignified wn way to announce announce an an- an engagement Is very simple Its vor very simplicity seems to make It difficult to believe by those who fancy that etiquette must of ot necessity be bo an unusual or extraordinary thing The Tho truth la 18 s that etiquette Is Intended to facilitate and to simplify life Ufe not to complicate It Etiquette has invariably bl bly plenty plant of at common sense and good taste about it Obtaining Parents Parent C Consent Wo We will take tako for granted that a young man has followed the proprieties proprIeties In asking tho consent of or th the e young girls girl's father rather or of ot her mother I If It the father Is not living This Is i In tt accordance with his own self respect t and tho the respectful consideration of ot tit tho e parents of ot his fiancee Ho lIo should state slate e In a a. manly man straightforward way what t are aro his present circumstances an and d what are his prospects of ot supporting a wife We Ve will suppose that the parents have given their approval of the engagement en en- r Tho The next step to be considered considered considered con con- is the announcing of ot the engagement engagement en en- and In this matter It Is advisable advisable ad advisable ad- ad that the event should be made matle known soon oven even though tho the marriage mo may bo ho deferred for some time al although although although al- al though Jt t Is optional whether an engagement engagement en en- engagement Is announced soon after alter Its occurrence or a few months or very ver shortly before the marriage Circumstances Circumstances Circumstances Circum Circum- stances require different decisions about these points but under all nil circumstances circumstances circumstances cir cir- a a. girl should follow tollow the tho judgment and of ot her parents Announcing the thc Engagement When the engagement Is to be an- an the tho proper thing is for tho the young oung girl to write brief brier Informal notes to her Intimate friends telling them the news Her mother writes to older friends and to members of ot tho the family although It is an nn attention much appreciated by older persons ifa If It Ifa a 0 girl herself herselt takes the tho trouble and thought to write to them instead of or delegating the duty to her mother In any case there thero should be no failure fail fail- failure ure on the part of ot one or the other to write to those who are aro supposed to be Interested In the event tho they ma may be deeply offended If It forgotten It is Js of course not the tho custom to write to mere mero acquaintances The Tho young mans man's mother writes to the members of ot his family connection and tho the young oung man himself writes to a n few tew of ot his men friends or 01 may speak to them of his good fortune All of ot the tho notes are sent out by post and sent ont simultaneously At least the family ot the young girl should take tako the tho Initiative In the tho matter It being understood that a young man and hl his hili family fatally aro are not a liberty to tell of or the tho engagement until It has first been mado made known by the tho family of or his fiancee Receiving Congratulation In tho the notes written by the tho young girl and her mother It is allowable able to mention a certain afternoon near at mend hand when they will bo be at nt home very informally If tr friends w wish to call Friends usually hasten to offer their good wishes or they thoy send notes o of kindly con congratulations n MI ft a 1 flowers fio It Is a 0 fashion to send Rend senda u a fa pretty J pretty u Sift gUt a a. cup and saucer or a 0 spoon but not obligatory to do so 80 The parents of ot the tho elect elect should call first on the elect brIde and her mother After Atter the tho visit Is s returned It la is In order for ro to be exchanged between the two families Dinners Danners theater parties and other entertainments en- en are given for tor the couple b by their friends young Congratulate the fist Groom The custom Is 13 f for tor r friends to ri con con- a man on his engagement cn and to wish happiness to a girl It is I a mistake to use tho time word congratulate late In speaking to the young oung girl of ot her engagement One would Ra say something something some some- thing of ot this sort I i am so RO B Interested to hear tho the news but to a man one who say I con congratulate you vou on your our r good fortune One would try try- to lIJa say av something ng cordial or expressive o of ot f admiration about the tho Person chosen If It the tho parents and sisters of ot the time e young young- man mon live at a distance the they should ho hasten to write writ to the tho bride e- e elect and anti try to welcome her with cor cor- Into their family Ills HIA mother mother r may Invite her to make moke a 0 visit t to theft their r home so 80 that all may learn to kno know V one another A girl Irl should be particular not t to 0 accept an nn Invitation from the tho unmarred unmarried ried red sisters unless l tho the mother has haJI al already al- al ready rady written Inviting her to visit t them The mother Is tho the hen heart head of or th the e fatally and It Jl 19 her duty to fuli th the e obligations of ot her position It Il Is I advisable ad ad- liable always to bear tills this In mind 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