| Show i Hasty Secret Marriage Solves Solve No Problems but Makes Make Many DEAR MISS 1 DENE What do V o you yon think of this problem I The girl girlIs Is eighteen the boy Is II twenty two The boy Is not In a position to marry yet ret although he has bal steady work The girl feels feel that he must mast marry her soon loon In order that she may be happy The danger dancer Is II that he Is I. very strung high and If it she turns aa away from the one she loves there theres is s a whole crowd of other men waltIne walt walt- lag Ine ng to snap her up Would It be possible for these two young people to o marry without their parents' parents con- con F. sent F. F E. E L. L ANSWER Tell ANSWER Tell the girl that if she wants to be happily married she must certainly wait walt until her heros hero is s able to support her in ordinary comfort However much she thinks she he can endure herself in the way of poverty she can have no Idea of what an effect the situation will have lave on her husband No man is capable of loving a woman romantically and tenderly If she he is i. a handicap to him from the moment he marries her However heroically he ho strives to be understanding understanding under under- standing and just he is II bound to feel eel resentful after a while over the fact that he was persuaded into matrimony when his salary was not yet equal to the job Tell the Ih boy that Ihal if II h hit his lady it is to so highly strung lining that ahal hit his opposition to 10 marriage plant plans will send lend her off 00 on wild did parka paTtie with wilh a crowd of 0 other fellows lellow then ahen the she isn't un a yet eI ready lor for marriage marrias You cant can't hold a flighty young thing b by making her repeat repeal th the marriage marr linn lines No girl Irl It is true to 10 a aman anan man nan merely because the she It is married to 10 him lim Either the she caret cares or for him specially 1 and above abote everybody the else e e in the world either ither the she hat has a royal loyal nature and end will stick to 10 him because became o of o cr that that that-or or orthe the elle the she Is II bad montage marriage maler material 4 and it il do no good food to 10 lead her to 10 the Ih altar in the ah hope of 0 changing chanin her ideas idea dealAs As for a marriage without the parents' parents consent that consent that has haa never neverseen been seen a practical plan of procedure It involves secrecy which starts marriage off on the wrong basis It means mean that there thero will wUl always alway be an unpleasant aroma about the whole situation It causes causel endless and leads to much petty gossip gossip gos gos- gos- gos sip Ip and suspicion DORIS DOnIS DENS DENE I am a s DEAR woman of five fifty and have bave reached the age are where I want some ome fun on after all my years fearl of work and worry over the children I am consy comfortably com com- well off my children have bave grown up cp my husband Is 13 de dead I Ibave have bave a treat Teat many young men friends who take me rne dancing etc ete My Illy old friends criticise me for my actions but as I am extremely young for my age are and do not Dot look like ike the mother of two up grown children I dont don't see ee why I shouldn't enjoy myself as al I see lee fit I dont don't get along alone with men my own age ace because they are all dull and stay stay- at home Please let me know your JOur opinion Young Young Fifty Futy ANSWER Presumably ANSWER Presumably you pay for the young oung mens men's entertainment I and in return for that you get the pleasure of being taken out and 0 of being flattered a by the youngsters who like to have their amusements without spending money on them In Ina a case like this nobody loses But In the end the middle aged woman who engages in a fierce struggle to hold on to her youth loses a great deal She loses lose I the chance to find nd some peace of mind and some lame real companionship for forber her ber old age Surrounded by sycophantic youths are willing to 10 make pretty speeches if i they're re paid for lor them she he It is flattered out our of 0 all oil tense sense of 01 tion Lion She thinks of 01 her herself tell I as a buddin budding bud bud- din ding young youn deb and the she shuns hun the society to- to deay of o those toilet tastes the she it is more qualified to 10 share hare No one can blame the she woman of 01 fifty filly for or wanting tome some pleasure still ill in life lile Out But if i the she chooses unsuitable and unbecoming un tin becoming pleasures pleasure the she surrounds herself her her- self ell with false lale friends She attracts attract all those who are willin willing to 10 companion her herfor herfor for lor the ahe take sake of 01 what Itha they can get el from Irom her Too often olten the she It is I an object of 0 ridicule ridicule ridi ridi- cule cute to the he tier very lery people the she it is I befriend in ing Because the she will not nol admit that she du has IJ poll past her teens teem the she will listen liten only to 10 those rhose are Gre willing J It to soothe her vanity vanity and and naturally na the she doe doesn't find that Ihal brand of 01 admirers amon among her true Irue friends friend You can can be young all your life I You can keep a young spirit and a ayoung ayoung I young heart beart You can enjoy the friendship of young people Youcan Youcan You Youcan can make yourself beloved to young and old with your clear mind your tolerance your tour understanding and interest But you OU cannot dress yourself up in Imitation of what you were at sixteen and hope to recapture the of youth The more you ou absorb absorb ab ab- ab- ab lorb sycophantic flattery into your system the less leu clear your mind be be- comes The more you Insist on being being be be- ing flattered the less lell tolerant you are of those thoe who wont won't play up to your vanity The more you think about looks and the necessity for keeping up a flamboyantly youthful appearance the less lell Interest you have in other people and their lives With the result that you prepare a lonelier old age for yourself than If it you'd accepted the fact of your our fifties ties ilea gracefully and bad had chosen choen Interests interests in In- and occupations which would have havo kept your mind active but not jaded with artificial excitements excitement O p BtU DU |
