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Show Unwise to Break Faith With Child rroinises and rewards are two closely allied measures made use of by parents to stimulate and encourage encour-age their children In good conduct and in their schooling or chosen work 1 during undergraduate days. Used wisely, they are potent factors In securing the desired ends and reac- Itlons. It sometimes happens, however, how-ever, that promises are forgotten. The child either may not get what he has worked to attain because the promise may have been given so long before Its object was attained, that It has slipped the memory of the parent although it has remained a icaj vlvid fnctor ,n tlle child's applica nt) tion and endeavors. Not only Is a child discouraged by such forgetful-rni3, forgetful-rni3, ness. but worse than this, he loses eo?!i faith lD hls Parent. He (or she) does Pfc not keep his word. The child may make a fuss about It If so the parent often gets annoyed an-noyed and states that now, anyway, the child cannot get the reward aT whatever It was, for it is forfeit by yM the behavior. In reality the child a day has justice on his side, for a for- iquii gotten promise Is none the less bind ing when once it has been made, even o jjj though memory has grown dim. If 'P m j the child Is silent, the lasting effect of loss of faith in a parent's word ijjj is even worse. The child can be sqL promised anything thereafter and it senaa will fall on unheeding and disheliev- Isni lng ears. Not only is the parent's onu worcj discounted, but the word of all pjjj persons, since parents typify the best, to their offspring. Attaining an unearned reward is another danger to be shunned. When w" parents make promises dependent C upon some special action or attain- " ments and then give the award with out regard to success of the child in 'PS- whatever it is offered for, the parents ess lose their grip on the child. , Reciprocity is absolutely essential when there are promises of awards. The child must be kept faith with, cans! The promise must be remembered, pscha It cannot be so lightly given or re ts ri garded that it becomes inconsequen- jojg tial to the person making it. Parents it hat; must beware of how they make prom ises, but having made them, they ngtr'a must stand. So essential is this that onaai no reward should be given unless it tai has been earned. The success of a " child in later years may rest on his it ability to fullfil conditions in his frjst8y youth. He gets to be a spoiled child, tiii otherwise, and one w:ho has little re- tol3a spect for laws when he is an adult. ha!i . 1933. Bell Syndicate. WNU service. |