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Show Hints Con corn Ins Etiquette, "For reasons which must be perfectly obvious," ob-vious," Aunt Ruth continues, "introductions to young women ought to be made with great caution. He who introduces a young man should first know his character and habits to be irreproachable; if there is missionary mis-sionary work to be done let it be by those having more judgment and experience than a girl of IS. If on undesirable acquaintance persists in calling, 'not at home' is tho proper messago to send him she is not at home to him, and to call this form a falsehood, Is prudish. It might be preferable to send word that she was engaged, which would be the same thit;. Not to recognize him upon the street would be the cut direct and can be necessary only in extreme coses. To fail to return a call where there is no family affliction afflic-tion and no explanation offered, is sufficient to show to a lady that the acquaintance is to drop, and is not often misunderstood. On this subject an English writer has well said: This etiquette, which may appear trivial and over punctilious, is in reality a power which society places in the hands of ladies to govern and determine their acquaintanceship acquaintance-ship and their intimacies, to regulate and decide de-cide whom they will admit into their friendship, friend-ship, and whom they will keep on the most distant footing. As such it is to be commended.' com-mended.' It is a dissipation to htwe too long a visiting list, wo cannot know every one intimately and must make our selection according ac-cording to taste and natural affinity. "However much custom differs in different places, it 'is usual to call only between the hours of 3 and 6. Formal calls need not lost longer than fifteen minutes; the more social should not be extended until the caller becomes a bore. You remember Mrs. Brown whom we used to dread to see. Often making mak-ing her appearance before lunch, and generally gener-ally on those days when your mother was making a carpet or hanging somo curtains or when there was only enough 'left over' to go round, sho stayed till night. If she came after lunch and Mrs. Strong or Miss Granger appeared, Mrs. Brown was sure to monopolize monopo-lize the conversation and to out stay them. Tho genus bore is ubiquitous end thero will bo the usual number among your neighbors. Your way is not to let them got a footho'd; keep on your dignity till you have made j our selection of friends and unbond only to them. Half the world of women overrun the other half heedlessly pr out of want of that mental culture which would give them interest and occupation. Vacuity' is the parent of heedlessness heed-lessness as well as vice." Hester M. Poole In Good Housekeeping, |