Show KATHLEEN NORRIS Marriage Rules Annoy Wife A SEATTLE WOMAN got a divorce the other day because her husband drew up a list of the commandments of and requested that she sign it These laws included the that she should never embarrass her that she pay attention when addressed presumably by that she neither smoke nor play the radio too nor keep him nor make comparisons again presumably between him and other that she shorten her telephone calls and make that she not harp on topics of that she cook three meals a day when at specified and that she continue to do well the things she has done Now these rules of Horowitz are not radical nor cruel In any and they embrace only such concessions as most good wives make to loving and generous But the audacity and complacency of a man who can attempt to rise to a state of such of such medieval male is something at which to marvel in these I would visualize such a man as small In every building up an and perhaps sense of inferiority by puffing his little self up Into something of a domestic Too Busy Sniffing Somehow one doesn't imagine this man as whistling as he cleans the car Sunday picking up a cookie as he goes through the admiring his wife's new and lending a helping hand to Junior with his he Is too busy timing his wife's telephone sniffing turn it to see if there's been any watching her sharply to see how attentive she Is to account of the practical Jokes he played when a boy in grammar Few wives could stand Dorothy Horowitz couldn't and she got her It must have been a great shock her because a man must feel himself perfect u demand perfection The clause that especial Impressed me was tha she must promise to to do the things she has done well No letup for Dorothy under the new But in a happy marriage the give-and-take can Include most of these marital suggestions without A tired relaxed with the big chair and the newspaper call out to his telephoning could Clarissa get it through her head that exactly at o'clock is not a good hour to go over the whole week In Including references to your happy nit- He may say in perfect we've thrashed this affair of Caroline's marriage Let's wait until we know He may even It low Keep It keep It if the kids are so crazy about the but turn it and which one of our loving husbands hasn't said to his loving you mind looking up from that pattern and listening to Judy's doll house problems long enough to give me your attention for three One husband I with such used to shout want your undivided that the very babes of the household used the phrase among Yet that marriage held happily for more than 40 As for embarrassing your only adolescent little wives of the Junior prom school think that is coquettish and Nothing makes a real wife more sorrowful than accidentally to expose to others some weakness or mistake of the little That is an easy game to but too expensive to be a part of the bigger game of One wife I knew spoke perfect English because of a European She didn't say much that was worth while In that or in her fr that The Horowitz rules offend the dignity of women because they are It is as If Dorothy had asked her spouse please to put his shoes on the right feet and get out of the bus at the nearest his If such rules are necessary in a they won't have any They are all Implicit in the original covenant with the possible exception of which ought to be as It out of his rea sons against and hers for being taken into |